There's this one girl that beats all the other girls out there, the hunt, the chase, if you
will, is finally over.
However, you're almost two into her if you will, to the point that you're investing a
lot of effort and time into someone who you don't really actually know this happens to
you that it happens to me, and probably happens to every other guy out there.
My name is Sam from ministry attraction and today I'm going to walk you through the steps
to take to not volunteer trap ever again.
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So, you might this girl and for some reason you just can't get her out of your mind, you
tell me, "Hey man, she's hot, she's special.
No other girl has made me feel this good.
I rarely connect with someone on a deeper level like this.
She's everything I'm looking for in a growth.
He's perfect in the mean time.
Your brain is thinking very busily.
Are these elaborate plans on the future of how amazing the dates are gonna go and how
amazing her body will feel and how great the sex by how cute your kids will be all this
kind of stuff, and then it hits you, you're a way to invest in this girl.
You don't really know much about this.
My friends is called a scarcity mindset.
It's like when you've been starving for a month and then you find a big plate of broccoli
or any...
Okay, tasting vegetable, sure you'd like a big juicy burger.
But at that moment in time, you've been hungry for so long that "broccli is perfect, you
can't imagine your life with that Brolin properly understands, you on a deeper level that no
other food has ever understood you before you and "broccli are now best of friends.
Now, in this example, someone is coming from a scarcity mindset because there'd be starting
and anything will do if that same person had just finished a five-course meal, Rocky would
be the last thing on their mind abundance versus city if you think if you're hungry,
probably is amazing, but if you're full back "broccli in that same sense when you're not
surrounded by women, when you aren't dating women of the caliber that you wanna be dating
and you aren't dating the quality women, then my friend, you are starving.
You're coming from a scarcity mindset and that's the reason why it's very hard to get
over your ex for example.
Because she been it's been comfortable with her and now you're starving, and you don't
want anything else other than the comfort that you had with her.
When we're starting out and we're just meeting girls for the first time.
And any grid gives you a good reaction.
We'll put on a pedestal, will put a lot of value in her because...
Not because he's amazing but Because find me someone has recognized the efforts and
a girl.
It gives you attention who was slightly better than the previous one, will always be the
perfect one now, just because he's pretty...
And giving you a little bit of validation doesn't mean that she's the one.
We also place a lot of value on girl forever, just being attractive.
Here's scenario, imagine you end up going on a date with the hardest group.
You're the girl, your dreams, the girl you've been yearning for.
And finally, finally, you get her out in the date and she's giving you all these amazing
responses just giving a lot of attention and she's finally make me feel validated about
yourself and you feel good.
What happens if while you're on this date, he just flicker fingers at the water and then
when the way to come, she starts yelling at him, he's a shouting at him, causing him being
a racist towards the, I think he's a piece of shit, 'cause she has been waiting for five
minutes and just going on and on and on, and by this guy, you're just sitting there like,
we...
Would your level of attraction still be the same?
Would you still want your friends to see you with her in public?
Ultimately, we create scenarios in our mind.
And just because the girls gorgeous week for the character that we want her to have...
Not the characters that she actually has.
We also read into it more than we should we start thinking that she loves us just as much
as we love her and hey, if we propose to her, and this is how I was gonna go.
And this is someone that you don't re-know too well at all, just like a job interview
which you're going to want to do is instead of hiring the first well-dressed, candidates
who gives you the resume you wanna sit down with this person, make sure that they actually
match up to the person that they're on paper.
Is she actually cool as Sue?
Fun or conversations easier to flow.
Can you guys just talk about anything, is there things that are deal breakers in between
you guys?
And just because you pass is one of these things, doesn't automatically mean that she's
the one for you, and that she's hired for the job.
Stop selling yourself short, you're worth a lot more than you think.
I call this the full meal analogy.
Most guys go out as if her in complete meal and they just need someone else to complete
them just like a juicy stake, looking for fries, and vegetables.
But that's not the case at all what you have to understand what you have to realize and
actually start believing is that you are the main course.
You were the stake you were at the Rio you were the vegetables and you're the win that
goes with it.
Now, the woman, your life should just be an exercise is or dessert that goes well to complement
this already complete, meal.
Remember, she's the only girl in the world until you meet the next one.
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