In this video, I'm going to be sharing with you six secret signs that a man is thinking
about you more than you know. I'm excited to share these with you and make sure you
stay to the end of the video cause I'm then going to tell you exactly what you need to
do about it. Don't forget to grab my book, Make Him Yours Beating The Odds Of Modern
Dating is now available from amazon.com. And I'll see you for the six signs right after this.
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How do you know when you're on a guy's mind? How do you know like the tip of the iceberg
that, that little thing that he does means he is thinking about you under the surface
a whole lot more? Here are the six signs. Number one, he watches your stories constantly
on Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat. How do you know you're on someone's mind, but
when you're getting his attention? And how do you know if you're getting his attention
because he doesn't always call you, he doesn't always tell you, he's not always asking you
out? Life will be very simple if that was the case. Many times when we're thinking of
someone, especially us guys, when we don't want to really admit it, we are watching from
afar. And we do that these days through stories. A guy watching your Insta stories, your Snapchat,
your Facebook, all these types of stories is a dead set sign that you are on his mind
more than he cares to admit.
Number two, is that the last time you interacted, there was a poignant ending. Matthew, I'm
getting rained on. And here we are out of the rain. So number two, as I was saying,
was there was a poignant ending from you. Now, what do I mean by this? Well, Daniel
Pink wrote a really interesting book that I recommend if you want to be more productive,
you go and grab. The book, talks all about the art of timing. Everything from our own
rhythm throughout the days, and how certain tasks the better in the morning and the afternoon,
right through to how hospitals typically perform better at certain times of the day. Most importantly,
and most relevant to us today though, Daniel talked about the importance of cognitive landmarks
- that is beginnings, middles and ends. And Daniel found out that the end of anything,
of a movie, of a relationship, of anything at all, leaves you with a significantly higher
proportion of your impression of the overall event.
For example, Daniel found that if a man was bad, his entire life, but then became a charitable
donor in his last few years, people tended to perceive him well, as opposed to if a man
was an incredibly charitable donor and lovely person his whole life but then turned into
a f*cktard his last few years, people would perceive him badly. Endings have huge power.
And the emotion of poignancy is all about emotional happiness with a tinge of sadness.
It's a complex emotion, but it usually comes in relationships if you've set a boundary,
if you've walked away, if you showed some kind of self or done something that really
makes the guy see you in a high regard. So if the last interaction you had with him was
something you did that was powerful for you, when you stood up, when you did that, then
you can pretty much guarantee that you're on that guy's mind a lot more than you might think.
Number three, your friends or people, you know, say that he has mentioned you. I remember
years ago, and I didn't even catch myself doing it at the time. And I only realize that
looking back was that we had a mutual friend, my ex and I, and I would constantly ask the
mutual friend, "How is my ex, is she doing well? How's things going with her?" And I
do it because part of me secretly hoped that the friend might talk about me with the ex.
Now, I know at this stage that that wasn't the brightest idea, but nonetheless, I found
myself talking to mutual friends. So if you do have mutual friends, if you do know people
together and they say those people say that the guy has been talking about you with them,
that is a sure sign you are on his mind a lot more than he cares to admit.
Number four, he sends you stupid shit. I see this all the time. Women will message me.
And they'll say, "Mark, he's been sending me this meme. Mark, he sends me pointless
messages. Mark, he sends me like a video of nothing." If a guy is sending you stupid shit,
it's his way of saying, "Hey, I'm thinking about you. Just going to send this, so you
think about me." That's what guys do. Again, stick around to the end of the video because
I'm going to tell you exactly what you need to do about this. Number five, he yo-yos
in and out of your life. I know when I hear a story where two people are yo-yoing in and
out of each other's lives, that there has to be some elements of compulsiveness. There,
there has to be a kind of addictive element that he keeps coming back and then leaving.
Something's obviously not working, but there's that compulsion, that impulse there. Now, you
might be thinking, "Well, that's great, Mark. He's addicted to me. That's exactly what I want."
Problem is addiction isn't always healthy. While having a guy addicted to you can seem
like a nice thing, it can mean that that connection is in fact very unhealthy. And when I see
codependency, that's going in and out, in and out, that can often represent that there's
an unhealthy addiction there. And the fact that yes, he may be thinking about you a lot,
but is it for the right reasons? Is it in the way that's going to make him step up to
be a partner? Or is it actually going to block you from the man that deserves you? Again,
stick around to the end of the video. I'm going to tell you what to do about this.
And number six, the old classic, he drunk texts you. Any kind of drugs or alcohol, lower
his inhibitions and raise dopamine in his brain, so he's feeling silky and connected
to you. The problem is what it's really doing is it's bringing out his subconscious, which
is not necessarily a good thing if he can't do it while he's conscious, right? If a guy
is drug texting you or drunk texting you or texting you under any kind of influence, it's
a sure sign that you're on his mind a lot more than he cares to admit. So what do you
do about this? What do you do you say, "Mark, I've got some of these signs. I know he's
thinking about me and he probably is." So what do you need to do about this?
Well, I want to ask you a serious question. What sort of man do you want?
Like really? What sort of man do you want? Do you want the guy who's in and out like
this guy is where you find yourself questioning yourself, where you feel uncertain all the
time not sure if he's coming or going, or do you want a solid stable guy who's going
to be there for you where you don't have to think about these things? What do you really
want? And what are your actions saying? What are your actions saying? Which types of guys
are you going after? Because if it's the second type of guy, if it's the solid secure type
of guy that you want, then it's on you to filter that in your life. So you may have
a guy who's thinking about you a little bit. You may have a guy who you're on his mind
a lot, but here's what you need to do,
you need to tell that man, to step up, you need to give him a sign whether over texts,
call in person that this is where my level is at, if you're not here, you're zero. He
doesn't get to choose in between. You can send a guy, a text, "Hey, it'd be great to
hang instead of meme trading. Let me know when you're free." You can send him a voicemail,
"Hey, it'd be great to hang out in person soon. Let me know if that suits you." Whatever
you do, make it clear. Make it clear you want the guy to step up. And if he doesn't, I want
to say this because this is so important, if he doesn't, then he is not the man for
you. Just cause the guy is thinking about you, just because you may be on a guy's mind
a lot does not mean that he has the willingness or ability to step up and be that man for you.
So give him every opportunity to do so, open your heart and let him know, and then walk
the f*ck away if he doesn't. So I want to know what did you get from this video? Do
you have a guy that's thinking about you a lot? Tell me your story, what's your experience
in the comments section below. Don't forget to grab my book as well. It's Make Him Yours
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