Touching releases Oxytocin; a powerful hormone that helps her feel more
connected, and trust you. And a woman must feel comfortable with your touch in
order for her to sleep with you. So touching is pretty important! My name's
Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man, and this is seven ways to touch a girl to
make her want you.
We've done all the testing. You know what works.
Now before I get started I want to
mention that I created a free Escalation Cheat Sheet that lists some of the best
ways to turn a girl on. It's filled with advanced escalation techniques that will
turn a friendly interaction and take things to the next level. Click the link
in the description to download it. Before I get into the live demonstrations
there's three crucial tips that you must know: First is to touch her like a Man.
Most guys think that women are delicate little flowers and so they touch them
way too weak and too soft, and that can make you come off as very UN-masculine.
Now there's definitely a time where you would want to use a softer, more gentle
touch. For example, when you're caressing her. But for the most part you want to
use a stronger, more assertive touch so she can feel your dominance. I can just
see all the YouTube comments now - "So you're saying I should push her and
force myself on her?" No numb-nuts, what I'm saying for example is don't be
afraid to shake her hand like a man. Women hate a limp fish. And don't be
afraid to give her a bear hug instead of the lame pat on the back with your ass
sticking out. And don't be afraid to move her to get her attention. Don't do this *Example*
Be powerful without overpowering her, be dominant without being domineering.
Number two is break that touch barrier as soon as possible. If you wait too long,
that first touch can seem awkward and weird. So make sure to touch her as soon
as possible, which is typically when you first meet her. During the day usually
just the handshake is appropriate, at night maybe it's a high-five. During the
date when you greet her, greet her with a big hug or a kiss on the cheek. And the
final tip is don't let your touch linger especially in the beginning.
Take it away at first. Touching obviously feels good, it releases Oxytocin, and us
humans crave to be touched. But if you let it linger before she feels
comfortable enough with you, that can turn into creepy touch. I recommend the
rule: "Two steps forward, one step back." because if you keep pushing forward and
putting on the gas, she will eventually put on the brakes.
For example, maybe put your arm around her and you point at something, "Hey
check that out!" But then you take it away. Or maybe you're kissing her and then you
pull away before she does and say, "No more, that's all you get.." all right, now
let's get into the seven ways to establish more touch. First is
"Conversational" touching, which is when you use hand gestures as you tell a
story, and you might touch her arm, her elbow, or her hand to emphasize a point.
"...and you won't believe what happened next." You can also touch your waist, which is a
more sensual spot, as you lean in to tell her something especially if you're in a
loud environment like a club. Next is "Inquisitive" touch. Touch her hair, her
nails, or maybe something she's wearing and make a comment about it. "Those are
some interesting nails, I like this color." Complementing her
figure can work as well. "Wow you're so fit, look at you. You must work out, let me
see your bicep." Make sure she has a flat stomach before you do this. Pinching her
belly flab won't be such a turn-on. Next is "Leading" when you're going from
one place to the next, you can go hand in hand, you can go arm
in arm, or you can put your hand on the small of her back and lead her that way.
This is really important because it also shows that you're taking care of her,
that you're not just letting her get lost behind you in the crowd. Another
excuse to touch her would, be "Corrective" touching. Fix something about her like
her hair, her clothing, or even her posture. "Hold on, let me fix this.. Okay,
much better." There's also "Playful" touching if you're
at a bar, or a club, or even on a date, you can play a fun game like thumb wrestling
or slap hands. You can even "Reward" her with your touch. If she does or says
something you like, you can give her a big hug, a kiss on the cheek, or kiss on
the lips, or high-five. "Nice! High five!" And finally, don't forget about "Direct" touch
which is when she knows you're attracted to her and you just make your move.
You can even blame her - her cuteness or her attractiveness, as the reason you're
making the move. Basically blame her for your escalating on her, and it's really
fun and flirty to do that, and women typically love it. Now this is gonna
happen a little bit later in the interaction, because you need a higher level of
compliance and attraction for it to work. Now remember, I also created a free
Escalation Cheat Sheet that shows you the best ways to turn a girl on and
escalate things to the next level. The advanced escalation techniques in
there are very useful if you're talking to a girl and it's going nowhere. Click
the image in the bottom right of this video to download the Escalation Cheat
Sheet. There's also a link down in the description. Get it man, because you'll
want to keep this handy before you go out. And if you're not already subscribed,
hit that subscribe button. And if you want us to work with you in field then
check out our boot camp schedule. My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man,
and i'll see you in the next video.