I will explain it to you in this video
and I'm also going to give you
ways to get the narcissist actually forget you.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung.
I'm an attorney.
I'm also a narcissist negotiation expert
and I've helped thousands of people
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Okay.
So why will the narcissist ever forget you?
That means that they were
getting something that feeds their ego.
So a narcissist is a person who
has no internal sense of value.
So that means that they're kind of
like desperate people, desperate for survival.
Desperate for air almost,
you know, like they are starving.
Picture a person who's like starving,
gasping for breath.
It's like scarcity to the utmost extreme.
They have no inner sense of value.
So it's like they have this blac k hole inside of them all the time
and so they're trying to feed
this inner beast all the time
and so because of that they can't feel you.
They can't feel anything about
you and they want you to fill
this black hole and might want to fill it too
and so you're over there trying to fill
this thing and they can't receive
and so you're left feeling depleted,
and they're still starving
and it's like that all the time,
but yet they can't be fixed
and so, it's this horrible
horrible cycle of viciousness.
But you were probably giving them something like,
the short-term fix and you probably were giving them
aome really really good source of this supply,
this narcissistic supply
and if you were giving them a really
good source of narcissistic supply
and then walked away from them.
Then they are having a hard time forgetting about that.
So that's probably one thing and
that fuel, that narcissistic supply fuel is like their food,
their life, their oxygen
and if you walked away from them
they aren't going to easil forget about that.
All right, so that's number one.
even if they, by the way, cut you off,
and then decided they wanted you back
and then you said no, that's kind of the same thing.
Like they went back and kind of hoover to you.
Oh, I decided I want you back now and then,
you said no then that's the same thing.
Especially if you were a main source of supply.
Like you were giving them something
really good like adulation
or you know,
good sex or money or power, a sense of power.
Those are all really really good main sources of supply for them
and so they go back and they try to get that back.
Then they're going to have a hard time
forgetting about you.
Believe me.
They will remember everything about you,
every detail every little thing
and they're going to try to find ways to get you messages.
Even if you are ignoring their messages,
you're ignoring the direct messages or whatever.
They will put a link about you in their
Instagram bio or they will create a Spotify playlist
that's like a message to you about your relationship,
you know, they'll figure out a way to let you know
that they are thinking about you.
So those are ways that they'll let you know
that they haven't forgotten you
So they might say things like,
how is your family or how is your mom?
I heard that your mom is sick
or I heard that your brother is graduating
or I heard something about
your dog or something like that.
You know, they'll let you know that
they're still watching you
or that they heard from a friend about
something about you or they'll tell a friend
to get a message to you,
or they might even send something to you,
you know, just to let you know that they're still around,
that they are still thinking of you,
that they're still in the air just to manipulate you
or control you or they might even drop a
little message to let you know.
Oh, I was sick or something like that
or oh, sorry, that wasn't meant for you,
that was meant for somebody else.
I'm fine. I'm fine, you know,
just to kind of play on your sympathies.
What's going on?
Oh, no.
I'm fine. I'm fine.
You know,
I'm not your problem anymore,
you know, something like that just to mess with you.
Try to play the victim, things like that.
Manipulate you, control you.
Something to that effect.
Oh, I saw that you went to this party.
I understand that you were driving around over here.
I understand that you saw this person.
What were you doing there?
How come you were talking to this person?
I thought that you were having a
hard time getting over our relationship.
How come you moved on so quickly?
I saw on social media that you were dating now.
How nice for you.
You know, things like that.
They are watching you, tracking you,
seeing what you're up to.
Oh, I understand that you started a new job.
They're watching every move.
Oh, congratulations on your new promotion,
things like that.
they might even drive by your house.
They might continue to stalk you.
I know I've seen narcissist who would sign
up for magazine subscriptions for people,
you know, all of a sudden magazines
would start showing up at their
house that they knew that they
hadn't signed up for,
you know, even explicit ones
or bouquets of things or things would show up at their house.
Sometimes it could border on stocking by the way,
so I would definitely check out my video on called,
This is what emotional abuse looks like.
If you do think that you are a victim of domestic violence,
I will make sure that we have a link to that below here as well
and I do have videos on what it means to go
gray rock and 10 tactics that narcissist used to train you to comply,
Definitely check out all of those things.
Definitely go gray rock for sure
and I want you to put that in the comments gray rock
because the more you continue to give them supply,
the more they will continue to come around,
you know, just go gray rock, which means,
you know, you're like a grey rock.
Not giving them supply.
That is what I want to tell you.
The more you can cut off supply to them,
the more they will stop coming around,
you know, the less you will see of them,
because as long as they are getting supply from you,
they will keep coming around.
It's really that easy.
They are literally that like simple
as far as being that much of a single-minded cellular beings.
So just go gray rock.
Put that in the comments right now
to remind yourself that that's
what you need to do because if they are not getting any supply from you,
then they will have to go get it f rom somewhere else.
That is what they feed on, that is their food,
that is their fuel, that is their lifeblood, that is their oxygen.
So if they're not going to get it from you,
then that is how they will end up for getting you
and if they haven't forgotten you,
it is because somehow they're still getting some kind of Supply from you.
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