How to be a strong independent woman without pushing men away. Today, I'm going to show
you how to be the strong independent woman you want to be and have men absolutely love it.
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"Mark, men don't like strong independent women. How can I be a woman that men want while still
being strong and independent? They don't resonate with it." That's something I
hear women say all the time, and I'm going to burst your bubble today, and say it's just
not true. Men DO love strong independent women. However, there are certain mistakes that I
see from many strong independent women that can drive men away and those five mistakes
are what I'm going to be talking about in this video.
Number one is don't tell men you're a strong independent woman. Show them.
So the lion doesn't need to strut around the jungle telling everyone it's a lion.
It just sits there secure in the fact that it's a lion.
If a guy comes up to you and is like, "Hey, so uh, I'm a big shot DJ with a million
followers online." You're just like, "Oh, d****bag," right? Whereas, if you get to know a guy,
he's real cool, and then you find out almost by accident, "Oh, he's actually a DJ with a
million followers online." You're like, "Oh my God, get me a ring."
If you have to tell someone, if you have to emphasize a point, it shows you're insecure
about that point. So instead of telling men you're a strong independent woman, take that
out of your vocabulary, and just show them.
Number two, let go of some control.
So a lot of strong independent women I work with really struggle with this. They might work in jobs
where they have all the control, where they organize or manage a lot of people or huge
projects, and men want to do some of that too. And when I talk to these women, this
is the most interesting part when I talk to these women, and I say to these high powered,
strong women, "Wouldn't you love it, wouldn't you love it, just once, if a man took charge,
if a man led you, if a man asked you out, kissed you and f***ed you, and you didn't
have to be in control?" And the response is always the same. They roll their eyes back
in the head and say, "I would love that!" But for that to happen, you have to let go of
some control. Let a man lead you, let a man help you. Let a man dominate you in the bedroom,
he's going to love it, and I reckon you will as well.
Number three, nurture your feminine side. So we did a super beautiful video recently
on the top 10 ways to get in touch and stay connected with your feminine side. I'd really
encourage you to watch it and go through and take on some of those practices. Nurturing
your feminine side is important for you, and it's important for us men as well.
A lot of us spend too much time in this structured, rigid, masculine planning headspace, and it
really doesn't connect with that feminine side of all of us. But for a feminine woman,
it's especially important to keep this present, intuitive, flowing, and sensory energy in your
life. Keep nurturing that feminine side, even when you're a strong, attractive woman.
Number four, be more vulnerable. Now, I know a lot of you hate me for saying this one, but it
is so important for us all to have a vulnerable side, including the strong independent woman.
Vulnerability is seen by a lot of strong independent women as weakness. And the reality is vulnerability
takes an enormous amount of courage. Be the one who puts yourself out there. Be the one
who risks getting rejected. Show your softer side to a man. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable
and let someone in because even though it's scary to do so, until you do, men aren't going
to be able to connect with you.
And number five, this one, you're going to love, understand and accept the fact that
you DO need men. So just like we need you, you need us, and while a woman doesn't need
a man for her happiness, she doesn't need him for her validation, she doesn't need him
even for her finances. There are certainly things that women need men for, and there
are certainly things that men need women for. For either of us, to get in this oblivious
state and pretend we don't need each other is really just not showing any appreciation
for one another. Imagine if you met a man who just said, "No, I don't need women, they are
no use to my life. They're cheaters, manipulators-- living without them!" It doesn't make him the
most attractive soul does it? The reality is we both need each other. There's always
things that a woman's going to need from a man and a man from a woman, and we did a video,
I'll put that out very soon, on things that women need from men.
It's there, accept that fact and learn to appreciate men for those things. That's what's
really important is the appreciation is there and men are going to sense that. So even when
you're a strong, independent woman, men are still going to feel that appreciation and
value from you just as you want to feel from them. And that's the video. That is how to
be a strong independent woman and still have men amazingly attracted to you! The reality
is men do love strong, independent women. There's just a few mistakes that many of those
women make the can serve to push men away. Thank you so much for watching! I'd love to
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