this used to be your boyfriend.
He's not your boyfriend anymore.
You had an argument,
and you had an argument
outside of some
sort of game parlor?
>> Mm-hmm, a card shop.
>> Judge Judy: That was,
according to you, on the 23rd
of February of last year.
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: Your lawsuit asks
for bail,
because he was arrested
at some point that day
and also damage
for your windshield on your car.
The incident happened,
then, well over a year ago.
What took you
so long to get here?
>> Because he said he was
going to work on doing
his anger-management classes,
and I found out later
that he wasn't taking the
anger-management classes.
>> Judge Judy: Well, what did
that have to do with the bail?
>> Because he didn't have money
at the time, and he said
he was going to work on
doing the classes.
That's how --
>> Judge Judy: All right.
It's getting much
too complicated.
Let's start with February 23rd
of last year.
You were at a card shop,
and you were having an argument.
What was the argument about?
>> I wanted to leave
the card shop,
and he didn't want me to leave
because he needed a ride,
and he got upset about that.
>> Judge Judy: And what
happened, Mr. Grieve?
>> Well, we had been arguing,
originally, before we had even
gotten to the card shop, about
politics and money for repairs
that I had done on her car.
I didn't know that she was mad
about other things as well,
and I wasn't trying
to not let her leave.
I just wanted to make sure
that I had a way home,
if she did leave, first,
before her leaving without me.
>> Judge Judy: Now, the argument
took itself outside,
or was it inside?
>> It was actually outside
in the parking lot of the place.
>> Judge Judy: Okay.
So you were outside
in the parking lot.
What time of the day?
>> Around, maybe, 6:00 p.m.
A little before.
>> Judge Judy: And the argument
got pretty loud and a little
unruly, because according to
what I assume from the papers,
someone saw the argument
and called the police.
>> Yes.
>> Judge Judy: Well,
a normal person would have,
in reading this, would say,
"You know what? In order for you
to call the police
when two people are arguing,
it has to get pretty nasty."
Did it get pretty nasty, sir?
>> I started getting
kind of loud.
I was just upset.
>> Judge Judy: Loud.
>> [ Chuckles ]
>> Judge Judy: And what
were you saying?
>> I was just trying to make
sure that she wasn't trying to
leave without me making sure
I had a ride home,
and I was just trying
to prevent her from going --
>> Judge Judy: Just a second.
Let me ask you this question.
How old are you?
>> I'm 26.
>> Judge Judy: What do you do?
>> Right now,
I'm a security guard,
but at the time,
I was a mobile mechanic.
>> Judge Judy: So you had a job.
So what are you arguing
with your girlfriend?
Take a bus.
Take your legs.
Take a cab.
Call a friend.
But according to what I read
in Ms. Benavidez's statement,
you started banging on her car,
right?
>> Only on the hood,
not on the windshield.
>> Judge Judy: You started
to bang on her car...
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Judge Judy: ...and yell.
And then she got into her car?
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Judge Judy: Into the driver's
seat or the passenger seat?
>> Driver's.
>> Judge Judy: And you got into
the passenger seat.
>> When she finally
let me in, yes.
>> Judge Judy: Well, tell me how
that happened, that she finally
let you in.
>> We were arguing still
for a bit, and then
she just finally let me in
and was willing to take me back.
>> Judge Judy: Well,
no, no, no, no.
She's in the driver's seat now,
and you're still outside
the car.
What are you doing
outside the car?
>> Well, I was by her window
and still trying to talk to her
just to --
>> Judge Judy: No, you were
yelling.
>> Yelling, yes.
>> Judge Judy: And banging
on the hood.
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Judge Judy: So she unlocked
the doors and let you in?
>> After a little bit of us
arguing, I decided
to try to calm myself down a bit
and just explain myself, that I
wasn't trying to prevent her
from going if she wanted to go.
I just needed to charge my phone
a second and make sure
I had a way home.
I was trying to get
a hold of my friend.
>> Judge Judy: [ Scoffs ]
Anyway, somebody called the
police.
Police pull your car over
with you in it,
and you were arrested.
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Judge Judy: And you plead
guilty to disorderly conduct.
>> Well, the whole --
>> Judge Judy: No, that's
not a "well."
That's either a "Yes,
I plead guilty,"
or "No, I didn't plead guilty."
>> No, I didn't.
>> Judge Judy: You didn't.
So what happened
with that arrest?
>> With that arrest, before
we were even pulled over, I --
>> Judge Judy: No, no, no.
Listen.
I'm done with pulled over.
You were pulled over,
and you were arrested.
That case went to court.
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Judge Judy: And I'd like
to know the result of that case.
>> She had dropped the charges
because she had admitted
that she had actually hit me
to the officers.
>> Judge Judy: Listen to me.
The court ordered you
into anger management.
>> Yes, ma'am.
>> Judge Judy: That's
court-ordered.
Now, court can't order you
to do anything
unless they have
jurisdiction over you,
and they don't get jurisdiction
over you unless you have
either plead guilty
or were found guilty.
>> I took a misdemeanor --
disturbing the peace.
>> Judge Judy: That's
what I said.
Why did we have to go
through this exercise?
Do you have any idea
how old I am?
>> [ Chuckles ] No, ma'am.
I didn't know.
I just don't know
the terminology, I guess.
>> Judge Judy: Well, I said,
"You took a plea
to disorderly conduct."
You said, "No."
>> Well, it wasn't
disorderly conduct.
It says, "Misdemeanor --
disturbing the peace, too loud."