In this video we're going to talk about how to know if your ex still has feelings for
you. First, my name is Clay with Modern Love.Life where we help you get the great loving relationship
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We're going to be talking about how to know if your ex still has feelings for you. The
first way that you can tell if your ex still has feelings for you is if they do things
that would give you hope, such as mentioning that they still find you attractive or that
they regret the breakup or things like that. Basically your ex after a breakup is going
to be really, really mindful about sending the wrong messages and they want to avoid
giving you false hope, "false hope", or they want to avoid leading you on or anything like
that unless they are really sure that they still have feelings for you and that they
want to explore what those feelings might be and what they might lead to.
If your ex is giving you these messages, obviously they could be stringing you along or playing
mind games or something like that, check out a video up there on that subject if that's
something you are genuinely concerned about. But in my experience that is very rare for
that to happen. And usually if they're sending you these messages that they're still into
you and that they regret the breakup or anything like that, then it's probably because they
still have feelings for you. Okay, that's the first sign.
Now bear with me, the second sign is if they intentionally avoid these sorts of things
as well. This is kind of weird. On one hand they might be sending you messages that they're
still into you, that they regret the breakup. That could be a sign that they still have
feelings for you. But on the other side of the coin, they might also not be sending you
these things intentionally because they don't want to send the wrong message until they
are really sure about how they feel. Okay?
That's to say they still might be trying to figure out how they feel about you, they still
might be figuring out the depths of their feelings for you, if it is really worth exploring
what might be possible between the two of you or not or things like that. And when they
are in this exploratory phase, they are going to be clamping down on that stuff because
they don't want to say too much before they know how they feel and before they are really
clear about what they want themselves.
If your ex is intentionally avoiding these sorts of things, avoiding giving you any hope
or any sorts of messages like, hey, I appreciate things about you or I find you attractive
or anything like that, then that could be what's going on. Now this would normally happen
within the context of the two of you generally interacting pretty well, all of that. They're
just raving mad at you or something like that, then hey, obviously they're not telling you
that they're head over heels in love with you for other reasons. But if they're generally
getting along with you pretty well and they're holding themselves back it seems then that
could definitely be a sign that they have feelings for you. Okay?
The third sign that your ex still has feelings for you is if they open up emotionally or
turn toward you when they have something to share or when they need some support or help
or anything like that. It just shows that they still value your connection, they still
value your opinion and that you are someone they go to when they need some sort of comfort
or some sort of pick me up in their life. There's this whole concept of turning towards
someone and this was really popularized by John Gottman who wrote books on making your
marriage work and all that stuff.
But if your ex is essentially turning toward you by, either small things like when they
have some good news and they want to share it with someone and you're the first person
that they think of telling the good news to, that's turning toward you. Or if it's something
else like, "Hey, I'm going through a really difficult time with my job", or "my family"
or "something else in my life" and you're the first person that they turn to to talk
these sorts of things out with, to seek comfort or support or whatever the case may be, that
is also turning toward you. And it just shows that they value the connection that they have
with you, they value your opinion and they definitely want to keep that channel of emotional
connection open between the two of you.
Now, before we go on, I want to let you know that we do have a video series on signs that
your ex wants you back. You can go ahead and check that out up there in the video card
in the corner. If that's something you want to learn more about there, is that up there
available for you.
With that being said, the fourth sign that your ex may still have feelings for you is
if they notice that you're putting effort into improving things. Now, breakups happen
for all sorts of reasons, but generally that your ex is probably frustrated about something
in the relationship, something maybe related to you, some character trait of yours, something
that's going on, something where maybe they think that you could be putting more effort
into your career or taking better care of your health or breaking some sort of habit
or something like that.
And they just got frustrated with it and decided to break up. Now it's not to say that they
don't share their fair blame in the whole situation. Obviously everybody has their role
in the whole process in creating a relationship. But if they are looking at you, if they're
looking at how you've been behaving since the breakup and what you've done and they're
noticing that you have been making some positive changes, especially of if these are complaints
that they had that eventually led up to that breakup in the first place, and that is absolutely
a sign that they have feelings for you. Definitely keep your eye open for that. It shows that
they are noticing like, "Hey, I see that you are putting some effort into these things
that were once problems in our relationship. I see that you're at least trying to improve
certain things or that you are making progress in these certain areas that were big contentious
areas in our relationship". And it just shows that they are still harboring feelings for
you.
And the fifth way that you can know if your ex still has feelings for you is if they just
genuinely seem interested in your wellbeing. Now, if you and your ex spent some time together,
they obviously do have some sort of degree of emotions tangled up with you. And yeah,
breakups can be really complicated. There's all sorts of different types of breakups.
There's the amicable breakups where, "Okay, yeah, I still like you as a person but we're
just not good together". There's the screaming at each other breakups where there's all kinds
of intense emotions and oftentimes someone hates someone else's guts afterwards.
But if they genuinely seem interested in your wellbeing following the breakup, it shows
that they still have feelings for you and that they want you to be in a good place after
the breakup. They want you to thrive in this world. They want you to be a success in this
world, whatever that means for you or for them. And it shows that they still have feelings
for you. In a lot of ways, people believe that they should hate their ex. And that's
not to say that there's anything wrong with you if you do hate your ex. I'm sure that
there are definitely circumstances and situations that would make that totally understandable.
But if you don't do that, if your ex does not hate you, if they do not harbor intense
ill feelings towards you and they actually are interested in your wellbeing, then it
shows that they still have feelings for you and it shows that they still want you to be
happy and that they are still valuing your success in this world.
If you want to learn more about how to explore the feelings that your ex may still have for
you, how does find out what's there, how to connect with them on a deeper emotional level
to get through and have some meaningful significant conversations together, you might want to
check out that Connect and Commit course. Again, that is down below in the description
box. There's a link for it there. I'll also put a link to it in the pinned comment section
down below in the comment section, but go ahead and check that out if that's something
you're interested in.
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check out this video series over here. It'll help you to understand some things that are
going on with your ex. Or you might want to check out this video over here. But once again,
thank you so much and I'll talk to you next time. Take care and stay safe and healthy
out there.