Hey everybody.
Happy Thursday.
And when it's Thursday here at katimorton.com
I'm answering your questions.
And your questions.
And I have a lot of questions piling up in my FAQ document.
I keep a running document on my laptop.
I'm pointing over here because I have my laptop, ta-da.
And I keep them there,
Because I'm like,
'Well that's a good question.'
But they are piling up.
And so I may do a one off video here where I answer a question.
So make sure you're subscribed so you don't miss it.
Because it may be your question.
Who knows.
But it's easier if I do one question.
I know that, I've heard feedback from a lot of you that you prefer it that way.
And also it gives me more time to talk about it.
Makes the video shorter and easier to watch when you're pressed for time.
And it also, most importantly, makes them so much easier to search for.
We have so much trouble with that.
At Kati Morton on youtube.
Because I have so many friggen videos.
And I answer a ton of questions in my old ones.
And then, like, one video could talk about seven topics.
And like I try to tag it.
But it doesn't always pull them up on youtube.
And anyway.
I know a lot of you have asked me questions,
And I'm like,
'I have already talked about that.'
But how do we find that video?
Nobody knows.
Okay so,
Today's question is,
'Hey Kati, so I saw my dietician today as an outpatient.'
Outpatient meaning you go in to see your treatment team members,
And you go back to your regular life,
Just like a regular doctors appointment.
'And I didn't get that feeling that I do with my therapist.'
Kind of like that click.
Like the relationship will work and function well.
'Am I supposed to? Do I just not like her because she's controlling my food?'
'How do I know?'
Now we usually don't like our dieticians the way we like our therapists.
Dieticians aren't usually soft and ooey gooey mushy, like a therapist might be.
They're not motherly like that.
They're very rigid.
Because they have to be.
It's part of their job.
They're setting boundaries for you.
They're telling you what to eat,
When to eat,
Why,
And that's it.
It's contained.
It's there.
So it won't feel the same.
Secondly, if we have an eating disorder,
Any kind of eating disorder,
No one is better than the other, remember this.
We're not going to really like them that much.
Because our eating disorder is going to be like,
'You stupid jerk. I can't have that. I can't eat this often. I can't not eat more than this.'
Or whatever.
And we're going to be really pissed off.
And they're going to take away your binges.
They will take away your exercise.
Take away different things that contribute to your eating disorder.
They're going to be really strict about it.
Because it's their job.
So, we have to take into consideration all of those things, okay.
Number one,
We should still feel connected to them.
Like they hear us, they are understanding about where we are.
And they do their best to meet us there.
Okay.
Do their best.
Because they're going to still have set goals for you.
Because they have to.
But secondly,
Recognise, is it just my eating disorder and that like inner child part of me that's like,
'No! I do what I want! I eat when I want! I work out when I want! And you don't tell me any of that!'
Is that part of it?
Because it might be.
And so, take some time.
Think about it.
Because we need to see,
If they are not understanding at all.
And they are not trying to meet with us and get a feel for where we are at.
And work with us.
Then they are probably just a jerk.
And you probably should find someone else.
That's the difference.
Is that clear?
So they should still be understanding and hear you out,
Find out where you are at in your recovery process and try to meet you there.
And work with you.
If they are not doing that,
Then I would find someone else.
But chances are,
Most of my clients, at least.
Just really don't like their dietician like they like me.
Because they are more rigid.
Because they have to be.
And they are controlling their food.
And it makes our eating disorder so angry.
So yeah, consider those things.
Take some time.
Maybe journal about it.
And write it down.
Because once we do that.
Then we can really see why it is that we don't have that 'click' with our dietician.
Because it's never the same as it is with our therapist.
But there should still be some level of understanding.
And as always,
If you have ever worked with a dietician,
Or have some feedback about not feeling the same as your therapist,
Can you leave your comments below,
Because it's really important for us to share our experiences with each other,
Because as a community we grow together.
We educate ourselves together.
And it's so great to see you all interacting and getting to know one another.
And that's what I love about what I do.
And I will see you all on Saturday.
And maybe some other random time where I answer another question.
Because I've got a lot building up.
See you then.
Bye!
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