Now. I just got off
a call with one of my coaching clients in my Love Accelerator Coaching program,
who has been talking to this one guy for about three months.
She's brand new to our program but this guy has clearly told her
that he is not at a stage in his life where he is looking for a relationship.
And I got to tell you, she's kind of struggling to let this guy go
because he's very successful.
He's got a lot going for him and she's just really attracted to him.
And I've told her time and time again that you know, in our program,
Love Accelerator, if a guy does says if he goes out of his way to say, hey,
"I don't want a relationship," then we listen to those words
a man's actions always speak louder than words, except for
when he says those specific words that he doesn't want a relationship.
And I know that she knows this intellectually I know she knows this,
but she's really struggling to let him go emotionally.
So in this video, I'm going to share with you exactly
what it is that I told her so that she can start letting this guy go
and start moving on to find a committed, long lasting relationship.
So step one is to get clear, crystal clear
about the man in the relationship that you actually want.
We call this creating a love vision, and it's a pretty specific exercise
to sit down, to get really clear about what it is that they want in a man
and a relationship and really boil it down to the most critical things
that they really want.
And the thing is,
at least in Love Accelerator, it's really easy
because all of our clients are looking for long term
committed monogamous relationships.
And just by going through this exercise, it really opens a lot of people's eyes
up to the fact that this guy is not going to be good for them emotionally.
He doesn't want a relationship, and my love vision says I'm ready
for a committed, long lasting, monogamous relationship.
Sometimes just putting the words down on paper
really kind of sets you free and allows you to let that guy go.
Now, the second thing to do is just simply ask yourself, what would a high
value woman do in this circumstance?
And I love it.
I love doing this.
When I'm coaching my clients, I say, well, what would a high value woman do?
And the answer is usually very immediate, right?
You usually know intellectually
what a high value woman would do in this circumstance.
Likely if a guy says he doesn't want commitment,
you want commitment, a high value woman would say
that magical four letter word, which is NEXT and move on to the next,
she wouldn't stick around for that particular guy.
And it's really helpful to ask this question to yourself.
Any time that you know you need to do something,
but you don't want to do it, it kind of sets you into a trap.
It helps you kind of answer your own question
and I do that with my clients all the time.
So the next time you find yourself in a circumstance kind of like this
where you're really attracted to a guy, but you know he's bad for you,
just ask yourself, what would a high value woman do?
And usually you're just going to say she would walk away.
Step three is to nurture your feelings, but don't fall victim to your feelings.
I've heard a lot of women say, I just can't help it, Adam.
I am powerless to my love for this guy.
And just by saying those words, you are now falling victim to your own emotions.
And that's not very helpful to you.
And I think the big difference between being a teenager
or being a child, frankly, versus being an adult is that adults
know how to kind of disconnect themselves from their emotions.
They can look at their emotions and say, you know what,
those emotions aren't serving me and if these emotions you're feeling
for this particular guy, this attraction, your feeling for you, for this guy,
if it's not serving you, then it's important to just kind of be
an adult and say, you know what, I understand those feelings.
I do nurture those feelings, but I'm not going to fall victim to those feelings.
And I can move on and be disciplined
enough to walk away even if I might feel something different.
I can walk away and set myself up for success in the future.
And step number four is just to simply get out there
and start meeting other guys who do meet your love vision.
I think it can be really hard when you're in this scenario to just fall victim
to what we call onenightis where all your energies focus on this one man.
And you think that there's no other man
on the planet who could ever be as great as that particular guy.
But the reality is, once you start
getting out there, meeting other guys, we call that little of step number three.
When you're meeting high quality men in high quality places,
it's at that stage where you can start to realize you know what?
There are actually good guys out there who do want a committed relationship.
And yes, they do exist, but it's not possible
to have that type of a eye opening experience.
If you're just sitting at home every single night thinking about this
one guy who you've just fallen deeply in love with, you can't help yourself.
And he doesn't want a relationship.
No, we're going to get out there.
We're going to see what else is out there.
We're going to be a high value woman
who doesn't give all of our energy to a man who's not committed to us.
And we're going to go make it happen.
And that is the process for getting over a guy
who doesn't want a committed relationship with you.
So let me hear from you in the comments below.
Have you ever fallen for a guy who doesn't want a committed relationship?
How did you get over that guy?
Leave a comment right there below.
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