Do you feel that you are hustling to feel worthy, to feel good enough?
There are five shore fire signs that you are suffering from what I call the
success myth in this video,
I want to show you what those signs are and what you can do about it.
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Welcome to powerhouse business on YouTube. I'm your host, Carolin Soldo.
I'm a business owner, business scaling master, and mom of two boys.
I love thinking big pushing boundaries and doing things differently.
Most of all,
I'm all about achieving massive growth with ease and helping you scale your
business by living the life you love. Let's go,
have you ever thought, like you work.
Working extremely hard and you're setting big goals and then you're achieving
those goals. But when you get there, you're never really fulfilled.
And then you said even bigger and bigger goals,
and it's a vicious cycle that always repeats itself,
but you never really have that sensation of true deep fulfillment and happiness.
And along the way, you probably work a lot harder than most people.
You experienced stress, you experience overwhelm,
you work long hours and you may even feel guilty for
not, you know, looking after yourself or not taking time to work out.
And your self-care,
maybe you feel guilty as a mom because you're not spending enough time with your
kids. Maybe your relationships are suffering.
And maybe you're someone who always looks for more work-life balance.
You're lacking time.
You're always rushing and racing and you're doing it most likely in the
name of impact my in the name of having meaning and making a
difference in the world and doing good and helping other people.
So you're a good person on a good mission,
but something inside of you is missing.
And you're not quite sure what it is. Well,
that was my story and my journey really,
over more than 10 years in 2001,
I immigrated to the U S from Germany to leave a really painful past
behind, and to join my husband and borrowers,
to create a new life and really live the American dream.
And we had major success along the way. We worked hard.
We took the risks and we did the work and we
accomplished several multi seven figure businesses before the age of 35.
So we had the money, we had the accolades, we had the awards,
we have the things, right.
We let it really lift up to the American dream and that's what we built.
But along the way, there was always something missing.
And I often find myself asking, what's next? What else do I want?
What else do I need to achieve to finally feel like this is it like I have
arrived. And so I was on the outside,
extremely successful. And people looked up to me and they said, you know what?
You came here to this country with nothing.
And you built this amazing life and you have this great family. And you know,
you probably are really happy. And I was happy. Don't get me wrong.
I was grateful. And I was happy. And, and I was, you know, proud of bully,
proud of what we accomplished,
but there was always something missing deep inside of me.
And eventually it came to the point where I had to ask myself,
where is all of this going?
And I began a journey of some real deep transformation and some real
research and looking inside of myself and on this
path, I discovered what I call the success myth.
And I discovered that what I really wanted wasn't the money or the success or
the admiration of other people. It was something completely different.
There are five key signs that you might be suffering from the success myth.
I'm going to show you these five signs,
and then I want to show you what you can do about it right now.
Sign number one is when you're always trying to do more,
but you never really feeling fulfilled for an extended period of time.
You feel happy in spurts, right?
There's these sparks of happiness and fulfillment along the way,
but it doesn't create a lasting sense of accomplishment of deep fulfillment
inside of you.
That is your first sign that you are probably suffering from the success myth
sign. Number two is when you have a big mission and vision,
now you might be asking why is that a bad thing? And listen,
it's really not a bad thing,
but when your reasons and your drivers for wanting to make an
impact are not your real drivers. And they're not healthy drivers,
that's when it becomes a problem. So for many, many years,
I operated my business and I made my business my number one priority
because I thought that my, it was to help other people.
My purpose was to make a difference,
to suffer and struggle to mean something.
Gate change, to have this big mission and to, you know,
really create an impact on the world.
And that was my biggest driver. So my hustle for success,
my hustle to feel worthy my long hours, my hard work,
my sacrifice was all done under this umbrella of making a
difference. So I thought I'm doing all of this for the right reasons,
but it turned out that those,
the reasons were actually just a coverup for what was really going on inside of
me.
So if you have this drive and this need to mean to work on
meaningful projects to do work,
that helps other people to be known for doing great things.
There might be some false drivers operating inside of you that are pushing
you towards that. But again, for the wrong reasons,
sign number three is that you feel overwhelmed,
stress and wish for more work-life balance.
If you find yourself always having this need to work,
and you have a really hard time relaxing, you know, when you go on vacations,
you feel like you need to be working.
You need to be doing and accomplishing on the weekends.
You always think about your work and your next steps at night.
Your mind is consumed with your mission, with your work, your projects,
your to-do list, and you're always going and going and going.
Then you might be feeling stressed. You might be feeling overwhelmed at times,
and eventually you might even get to the point where you feel resentful of the
work you do, which we look at two inches, a moment. And again,
this is not a bad thing, your drive and your ambition,
and your commitment allows you to do a lot more than many people will ever
accomplish in their lifetime. However,
when this drive takes over your life,
it's a clear sign of the success. Myth is happening to you right now.
Sign number four is resentment. In the beginning, I thought I'm just stressed.
I'm just, you know, I got to calm down. I got to relax a little bit more.
It's just becoming too much, but it's all good. I can manage it. But over time,
the resentment really never went away and it grew stronger.
I began to believe resent my clients and resent my customers and always needing
more of them.
I began to resent my team for constantly needing me and asking me questions and
wanting staff.
And I began to resent my work and my long to do list if my inner
drive for success,
because I began to somehow realize that this wasn't going to end
anytime soon.
And I began to wonder whether this was actually really going for me.
So if you feel in any way, shape or form resentful of the work,
you do, the clients, you have your team members or anything like that.
You need to stop and look at yourself because guess what you should feel joyful
about your work. You should feel, you know, excited about your clients.
You should feel thrilled to be around, you know,
a team that wants to support you. You should feel happy at work and with,
you know, what you do in life and you spend so much time on it.
So if you don't feel this way again,
it's a sign that the success myth might be operating in your life
and sign number five is that your definition for success is being the best
throughout my entire life.
Only thinking back to childhood and going to college and beginning my
career, and then launching my business.
I always wanted to be the best not to put other people down or to,
you know, win the competition necessarily, but I wanted it to be, you know,
the best at what I did to grow stronger, to know more,
to do more, to be more.
And so my work would always consume my thoughts.
I would think about it night and day. My word would be what I was all about.
It was more than my hobbies. As a matter of fact,
I didn't really have any hobbies. I sacrificed my body and health over it.
I neglected my children at times, which I felt really guilty about.
And I always put my relationships last relationships with my friends,
the relationship with my husband.
And so my work and my success drive consumed
literally consumed me.
And so if you feel like you want to be the best and failure
is just not an option, you know, you will feel,
but you're just going to come back from it, learn from it and keep going.
And you know, you just always have this drive to go, go, go on,
is literally consuming you, you know,
for sure that the success myth is at play and something
probably needs to change for you to feel a lot more fulfilled and happy.
So what do you think is so success myth happening for you right now?
Then I want to walk you through the steps to fight the success myth,
to remove it from your life and to come out on the other side as
potentially a whole new person,
feeling a whole lot better feeling beyond fulfilled.
I also want you to know that this process is available to you within the beyond
fulfilled community.
I built a complete transformation system and a brand new online
community that starting with a challenge,
a 30 day challenge in just a couple of weeks from now.
And I'll tell you more about this challenge later,
but if you want to check it out right now, go to beyond
fulfilled.com/challenge. You can join this challenge right now,
and then you can actually work with me one to one and in a wonderful
community to overcome the success myth in your life together.
Let's talk about the steps that are necessary for you to really eliminate the
success myth for good step. Number one is to do inventory.
We need to look at your life right now,
and there are nine key areas that we need to look at an inside the beyond,
fulfill the challenge. I use a life wheel tool in a very simple,
easy to do quiz to show you quickly,
what's working in your life and what's not working so well.
Those nine areas include your career and business, your money,
your romantic and lovely life, your social life, your hobbies,
your health spirituality, your family,
and your contribution.
The second step then is to look at your drivers and your values and what
pie yard is you've been living by.
What's really been most important in your life.
What are you beliefs and what has been driving you to this point?
And this is going to help us figure out what your false drivers might be
next. We'll take a close look at what it is that you really want.
If it's not the, and if it's not the significance,
if it's not all of these things, what is it? What could it be?
Right? So I will help you in this process,
figuring out what you really want that will ultimately bring you the
fulfillment. You crave.
Step number four then is to look at your past and potential naysayers
in the beyond fulfilled challenged and the community.
I talk about exposing or disarming the naysayers.
It's not about hurting them or putting them down.
It's more about taking them power away and giving you your purpose
power back.
So we will look at what needs to happen for you to overcome the past.
What actually happened in your past client.
And how does this still have power over you today?
How is it still controlling you and driving you?
And where does all of this actually come from?
Once we know that we can take those healthy steps towards letting go of
those false drivers, making peace,
maybe even forgiving the naysayers and moving forward powerfully step number
five has to do with real forgiveness.
And you get to the point where you let go of the anger and then you feel
maybe compassion. Maybe you feel sorry for your naysayers and these people.
So there are certain phases that you go through in this forgiveness journey,
but compassion and feeling sorry for someone is not enough for years.
I thought that feeling sorry for my mom and having compassion for her would
finally set me free, but it didn't.
I had to go one more step to get to a place of real emotional
neutrality, objectivity,
where I literally felt from the emotional
chains that she was, you know, holding, uh,
or those jeans that I felt towards her for years. So in this process,
I'm going to help you go through this forgiveness journey.
It's a customized journey is completely tailored to you and together we
can accomplish it. The next step then is to really redefine success.
You'll get to the point where you are able to challenge and question everything
and see what's working for you, but it's not working.
And what you really want the most importantly, why you want it.
It's so important for you to know why you want something. So in this step,
we will be define your future.
What success really truly means to you and how to create it in your life as
well. And then you're ready in step seven to recommit,
to new healthy drivers going on this journey in overcoming the success.
Myth is simple, but it's not easy. Those values, those beliefs,
those drivers, those habits even have been, you know,
set inside of you for such a long time.
And that's how you've been living for such a long time.
So it can take a while for you to really let them go and then replace them with
these healthy, nurturing drivers.
But it's almost like learning a new language, really adopting new habits,
and then integrating them and sticking to them.
So the accountability behind it is huge.
And you'll see that as you begin to struggle,
sometimes maybe you get stressed, something happens. You're facing a problem,
a challenge, right?
You face contrast in life or just normal and great those old
triggers.
Those old habits will come back and they will kick in
by default and they will attempt to drive you once again.
That's why committing to it and sticking to it and being in the community.
The beyond fulfill community is so important because that's how we can help you
and support you and keep you accountable all along the way.
And then step eight is the most exciting part of it all.
That's when we create your life plan, it's about finding what you really want,
why you want it,
and then how to get it inside the life plan so that you
feel structured and youth had confident to create what it is that will
bring you the fulfillment you deserve. So are you ready to start?
This is a special time when I get to invite you to join us in the
beyond fulfilled community.
It's a 30 day program that only takes a little bit of your time every
single week,
because I know you're busy and it includes weekly coaching calls
with me, where I present to you one little step at a time.
It also includes weekly office hours, but you get to ask me questions.
We get to discuss what's happening for you and how you're feeling and how you
can take these powerful steps. I will also give you a journal in pages,
exercises, templates,
and guides inside the membership site to help you do the work and guide you
through all of this really powerfully week. One of the challenge,
people discover yours false drivers. In a week two,
we will really take the power back from your naysayers in week.
We will redefine what success really means to you. And in a week four,
I will help you create your life plan.
So the challenge is really a fast track towards living a beyond fulfilling
life. Now it's time for you to take action and nip. This calls you,
if you feel like this is something you want to do,
go to beyond fulfilled.com/challenge and sign up right now
as always leave me a comment below.
I would like to know what you think about this.
I would like to know if you think the success myth is happening to you right
now, and in which ways, leave me a comment below, and let's have a conversation.
Now stay focused on your goals, create a beyond fulfilling life.
Join me in the challenge and that's get started. If you liked this episode,
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