What I want to talk about today are the 5 things that a man should never ever be doing
with a woman.
I like to consider these rules things that you should absolutely be following.
This is gonna be interesting because we're going all across the board here in terms of
when you first meet a woman, even when you're in a relationship with a woman.
I want you to write these down, save this video, remember this for when you are starting
to get serious and when you're going out there and you're doing some approaching and swiping
and dating.
Let's get into it.
Here's the first one.
Never, ever, ever be a boyfriend before six months of dating.
What that means is do not commit to a woman and be her boyfriend if you guys have been
dating for less than six months.
The reason is, is because when you're dating someone, you have to get to know them.
A lot of guys fail at this and the reason why is because they're in the honeymoon stage.
The honeymoon stage of a relationship when you're first dating someone.
The chemicals in your brain are saying that you are basically falling in love with this
girl and you want to be with her all of the time.
So you're convinced that this is someone that you want to be with and you want to commit
to.
Here's the problem with that.
If you commit too fast and you're her boyfriend too fast, it's going to be problems down the
road when you realize, wait a minute... this is not a girl I actually want to be with and
then you're going to have to go through a breakup and it's going to be a lot of turmoil
for you.
So I highly recommend that you take at least 6 months to get to know her, spend time with
her, really understand who she is as a person.
Is she a good person?
Because in the very beginning of a relationship, you're gonna be seeing the best side of this
person.
Sorry, let me say that again.
Not a relationship, when you're dating you're gonna be seeing a lot of the good stuff.
This good stuff can be false because the more and more you get to know someone and the more
time that you spend with them, you start to see who they really are.
And hey, maybe they really are a good person, you guys are compatible, you're good match,
everything's great and you end up in a relationship.
That's fine.
What I've learned in terms of how relationships work (this is my own personal experience,
this is with other people, this is what I've seen happen) is that before six months, you
don't actually know somebody.
That doesn't necessarily mean that when you guys are getting closer (and let's say you're
at the 3, 4 or 5 month mark) that you have to be dating other people.
You can do whatever you want to do because you're not monogamous at that point.
You guys are not exclusive.
But I'm just saying that no matter what, take that time with the girl to really get to know
her.
Take that six months and enjoy it.
There's no rush.
And even if she's saying to you I want to be in a relationship with you, I want you
to be my boyfriend.
If she can't handle going to the six month mark, then this woman is obviously not mature
enough to be In a relationship with you.
Even if she's saying to you well I'm really uncomfortable if you're dating anyone else,
we've been dating for 4 or 5 months.
You can even say to her at that point, hey listen, I'm not dating anyone else.
I'm with you but I'm not ready to get to that point of a commitment yet.
Let's keep getting to know each other.
If she likes you, she's gonna stick around.
You're not gonna end up in a situation where she's gonna dump you before 6 months because
you won't commit.
It's very, very rare.
And if she does, in that circumstance, trust me you dodged a bullet because she's not mature,
she's not emotionally mature and she's not even ready to be in a relationship if she's
forcing herself into one.
So wait 6 and get to know her.
Next, and this goes for the minute you meet a woman to the minute you guys are getting
married or more... do not buy her affection.
Meaning do not buy things for her or just give things to her or try to make her feel
like she's going to be getting all these things from you if she's dating you.
Do not buy her affection.
Here's the thing.
First of all, you're setting yourself up for failure because if you're doing this and it
seems to be working, she's only with you because you're giving her stuff and she's getting
things from you.
This is the value that she sees in the relationship instead of the value of just being in front
of masculinity which is what causes attraction.
Feminine and masculine together boom.
Not you buying her stuff.
Yeah, it does work by the way.
You can buy a girl stuff and she will like you more.
She'll want to spend more time with you.
She feels like she's getting stuff out of it, but it's going to be fake.
It's not going to be authentic.
Doing this is going to be very harmful not only to your bank account but for your value
as a person.
What's going to happen is if you do this and it starts to work, eventually you're going
to come down to the point where your self-esteem is going to be shot because you're going to
realize, wait a minute, the only reason why she likes me (or you're going to question
if she even likes you or not) is because you're getting her stuff.
Also like I said earlier, that it does work very well but sometimes it can shoot you in
the foot.
If you're trying to buy her stuff and you're buying her affection or you're giving her
flowers all the time or giving her stuff or paying for literally every single thing, what's
going to happen is she is going to notice this and she might end up leaving you or not
wanting to be with you because she sees wow, this guy is trying really hard to spend a
lot of his money on me.
Maybe he doesn't see himself as valuable, therefore, I don't see him as valuable.
And then you completely lose the girl because she sees right through it.
She sees the weakness.
And that's gonna be a very strong and smart girl by the way who sees that and says wait
a minute, this guy is trying really hard.
What is he lacking in?
What's going on with him internally that he feels he has to buy me things in order for
us to spend time together?
Stay away from this at all costs.
In the very beginning of dating a girl all the way through a long-term relationship,
even marriage.
Once in a while gifting someone is a totally cool thing to do.
Gifts are fine once in a while, especially on normal occasions, like birthdays or Valentine's
Day or whatever.
But going overboard is going to hurt you more than help you.
Next, and I know we're not going in a very specific order here, but still all very important.
This one is about living together.
Never ever ever live together out of convenience.
This is something I learned personally, but also learned from a book called The Tactical
Guide To Women by Shaun T. Smith.
He talks about this a lot.
It's a really good point.
Do not play house with someone.
Do not live with someone just because you know that you guys can save some money or
it'd be nice if we lived together because we're always hanging out together anyways.
Don't do that.
You only want to live with a girl if you know for certain you're going to be marrying her.
And if we want to go down that road, I would say to know that is probably dating someone
for at least a year and a half.
That's at the very least.
That's when you'll probably know that you're going to marry someone.
I say personally you can live with someone after a year and a half knowing that you're
going to marry them.
Otherwise this is disaster.
Because if you guys end up living with each other too soon before you know that this is
someone long term, that means you have a very high chance of breaking up.
You have a higher chance of breaking up sooner than later.
You guys are together.
You don't necessarily know the person that much.
Remember I said earlier, don't get into a committed relationship.
Don't call yourself a boyfriend until 6 months.
Imagine if you guys end up moving in together in about 3 to 6 months, when you guys are
really in love and then all of a sudden you move in together, you find out this is not
the person that you really wanted to be with.
And now you have to move out and now you guys have been sharing things and splitting things
and it's a financial disaster.
It's going to be an emotional disaster.
I mean, you have such a high chance of it being not good for you because you don't fully
know the person yet.
No matter what, never ever live with a woman unless you know for sure that you plan on
marrying them.
I know a lot of guys will live with someone to like well you know, you got to find out
if you guys can live together.
Here's the thing, if you don't already know that this person is gonna be a good match
for you after a year and a half and you're questioning it that much, living together
is not going to push it over the edge.
I'm guessing by the time you guys are about to move in together, you've realized who that
person is and you've spent enough time together to really know how they're going to be a partner
to you.
Make sure no matter what, no living together at all until you know for certain this is
going to go the long distance.
Another thing that you should never do and I talk about this a lot on the channel is
you should never let a woman friend-zone you.
This means I don't want you to be in the friend-zone position.
If you're with a girl and you're trying to go the backdoor route and trying to be her
friend to get her to like you, first of all, that's not gonna work.
Or maybe you did get rejected, you did put yourself out there, but then she says to you,
why don't we just be friends and then you agree to that.
Don't do that either.
The second that you get rejected from a girl or the second that you like a girl and you
try to be their friend first is the second that you need to push this woman away from
your life 100%.
What you have to understand is that there are so many other women out there that you
want a woman who's going to like you back.
One of the most important qualities in a woman that you will find will be the one that she
likes you back.
The problem here is you're going to waste your time and you don't want someone around
who doesn't like you who you're attracted to.
I'm going to say that again, really hear me here.
You don't want a girl in your orbit or someone you're hanging out with that you are attracted
to that either doesn't like you back or you're trying to get through a friend-zone purpose.
It's going to waste your time and the worst thing you could do is waste your time.
Basically, a lot of the stuff I'm saying here on today's video is all stuff that could waste
your time.
I'm trying to save you time so you can find someone who's going to be a good match and
you're not going to be in emotional turmoil.
I have one more that's really crucial.
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It's going to be someone who's not going to friend-zone you.
I'm gonna be teaching you all the techniques to find that woman, to attract that woman,
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interested in you and how to use your personality to do so.
Number 5, the last one.
I know this is gonna sound like a joke.
This is not a joke.
This is dead serious.
I've been this situation way too many times and I want to save you here.
If you're ever in a situation where you're dating a girl or you're in a relationship
with a girl and they ask you anything about how they look like how do I look today?
Or some girls (and this does happen) they say do I look fat?
Do you think I look fat in this?
Do you think I've gained weight?
If they ask you anything about their looks all you need to do and every time you need
to answer positive.
Nothing you say is going to go well unless it's some sort of positive comment or compliment
in this situation.
I'm not saying that you need to over-complicate a girl and all the time complimenting her
on her looks.
I'm talking about specifically when a woman is asking you something about do you like
this or do you like this?
Even if it's a bracelet, doesn't matter.
Anything they're wearing or their hair or their haircut.
Here's the thing, women they are very sensitive to the way that they look.
Society has really come down on women and has been telling them through media magazines
(which by the way, this is terrible) that they have to look pretty all the time.
They have to look good and if they're not, they're worthless.
Again, this is terrible but because of this, women are very sensitive to the topic of how
they do look.
So anytime they ask you anything about anything related to their looks, always a positive
comment.
No matter what this is gonna save you big time.
Because anything else you say, even if you're trying to be honest or truthful about whatever
it is that they're wearing or the way they look, it's going to get you into a lot of
trouble and it's it's unnecessary.
Just shower them with lots of positivity when they ask you about this.
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And remember, follow these rules.
There are no exceptions.
If you follow them, you're going to be in a great place.
I'm trying to save you here.
I hope it works, I know it will.
I'll see you on the next video.