Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely, freaking loves.
In this video right now, I'm going to be talking about what is it you should do when a man
starts to pull away or if he says that he needs some space.
Keep watching.
Now there's nothing more frustrating than when you feel like someone that you really
care about is starting to just slip away.
Now here's the thing.
When something feels like it's breaking or slipping away, people naturally want to fix
that problem.
Like for example, when you're in sales and you feel like a prospect is starting to slip
away, what does your boss tell you to do?
Your boss tells you to get back out there and go ahead and fix it.
Go close that deal.
But as you probably realized at this point, interpersonal relationships are much different.
If a man needs some space, you can't just go over there and say three magical words
to get him back.
No, love doesn't work that way.
Relationships don't work that way.
We need to learn how to understand where he's at and where he's coming from.
But I must say, if a man says that he needs a break, that's much different than just him
saying that he needs space.
A break usually means that he wants to break up whereas this video is more so focused on
those scenarios where things are generally going pretty well in the relationship or you
start seeing a guy recently but you start to notice his behavior is changing and that's
when he starts to back off a little bit.
For starters, a common reason why men needs space or start to pull away is because they're
really just stressed out about something.
There's something in their lives, maybe it's their family, maybe it's something with work.
Interestingly enough, men and women react quite differently to stress.
For example, men who are stressed out, times have shown that we become a lot more self-centered
and we want to get back into our own space and deal with it on our own.
Whereas for women, actually the exact opposite is true.
Many times, women actually want to feel closer to those people in their lives when they're
feeling very stressed out.
When a guy is stressed out, sometimes it really hurts the relationships in his life.
Stressed women, however, become even more pro-social according to a new research.
They actually want to get out there more and express themselves when they are feeling really
stressed about something.
If you're finding a man needs a little bit more space or needs his own time, I recommend
that you always give him what I call a gap week.
That is if you start feeling him pulling away or creating space for himself, give him a
week to figure it out on his own and then come back to you.
Of course when you talk to him or when you text him, let him know that you're there for
him but don't push him to see you or do anything for you.
Giving that support that he needs to really prop him up and deal with it on his own unless
of course he's asking for help, then of course you give him that help.
But really, just let him know that you're there for him.
Give him time to work out the things on his end.
Give him his gap week.
If after a week, the problem continues to persist, then of course, it's time to have
a real conversation.
You might be able to say something like this.
Speaker 2: Over the past week, I've been noticing that you've been a little distant.
I thought we both should have some space so I backed off, but I wanted to just make sure
everything is all right.
I really care about you and just want you to be happy.
Adam LoDolce: Now do you notice how caring and nurturing that is?
If a man needs space, don't always work hard to fill that space.
Give him that gap week to work it out on his own and I know this can be really hard to
do and I know when we are in love with someone or we really care about someone, we don't
want to see them in pain.
But many times, when you push too hard, push too hard to involve yourself in that person's
life, you can actually be doing it to the detriment of the relationship.
Give him the space that he needs and let him figure it out.
If he doesn't figure it out in a week, then come back to him.
Let me hear from you.
Have you ever pushed a little too hard when a man needed space and you regretted it?
How are you going to use this advice in this video moving forward?
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