- Three things you must do to face fear intimidation
in a fight.
(crowd arguing)
- You ain't ready!
(indiscernible disputing)
(intense music)
- Now, I wanna share a very personal story with you.
When I was in high school, at the time,
I've already practiced martial art
for maybe sixth months or a year.
And I was learning how to punch, how to kick,
and I thought, "Good, I finally can defend myself.".
'Cause at the time, I was getting bullied in school,
and the kids, they would tease me,
they would make fun of me because of my accent.
Because of, I was only one of the three Chinese
in my school.
So, after learning martial art,
I thought I could defend myself.
Until one day, there was a kid.
The day before, we were on the bus stop.
I kind of walked past by him,
and I kind of, kind of just bumped into,
like that, accidentally, right?
Accidentally to him.
And I didn't think about anything.
"Oh, hey, I'm sorry.".
Next day, when he came back to school actually,
"Hey, it's you, you bumped into me yesterday!
"Let's go outside.".
I said, "What the hell is going on?".
So he grabbed me, he dragged me outside of the school.
And he was looking at me kinda like this, right?
So he was intimidating me,
and I was feeling a lot of fear as a kid.
And it was just like that,
and then, he slapped my face.
And he slapped my face, and my mind was,
was just frozen at the time.
My whole body froze, and I was facing a lot of fear.
And in front of someone like this,
someone bigger, stronger.
And I thought to myself, I'm gonna use my technique.
I'm gonna punch him, I'm gonna hit him.
I couldn't use any of it.
My body just couldn't function.
My heart was just (slaps chest) like that.
And I was sweating and I couldn't,
all my technique was gone.
And I said, "Stop doing that!
"Make sure, watch out!"
And then he left, and I stood there for ten minutes.
I couldn't move my body.
And at that time, I realized, the first time,
okay, it's not just technique.
I need to train the psychology.
So when something like this happens in the future,
this doesn't happen to me.
Maybe this has happened to you as well.
Well, you train and you train,
but when, in the real-life altercation,
it's a real fight or sparring.
Suddenly you get very very nervous.
Maybe that's happened to you.
If it has, leave a comment below and let me know.
So today, I'm gonna share with you three things you must do
to face your fear and intimidation
when someone, when something like that happens to you.
The first thing you have to learn, you have to train,
is learn not to blink.
So when something about flinch-reaction is very normal
as a human being, right?
So you don't wanna do that.
And the way you do this, and I learned it from my Shifu,
is a simple drill where you have a partner with you.
And this guy, and let's say this is you.
You learn not to blink and not to move.
And the other person would try to hit you,
and of course you stop somewhere near there.
Drake here will try to make it as realistic as possible.
And he will try not to move,
and not to blink, and not to flinch.
So, let's see what that looks like.
Try that.
- Hey!
- Yeah, you wanna be calm.
And you wanna get close as possible.
- Hey!
- Yes.
Try to be calm.
Try again.
- Hey!
- Don't even give him "hey".
That's good.
You think you can do that?
Different techniques.
So, you can see, observe his reaction.
He tries to be calm, right?
He tries to be calm.
Now, the other way.
Try the other way, you try to hit him.
So, you stay.
Watch his, watch his face.
See his,
that.
You try to eliminate that.
You do that through repetition.
You don't even want that.
(stomping)
right?
(stomping)
See that?
(stomping)
Yeah, see the eyes, right there?
(stomping)
As you improve, what my Sifu used to do,
is he would actually hold my hands in the back.
And he would have a sword in front of me.
So it's here, you see the sword.
It's like this, which is sharp.
And then he would tie my back so I can't move,
and against a wall, right?
And you learn to not react and not to.
Now, the best way not to get, not to blink,
and not to flinch, which is human reaction.
It's in our mind,
it's thousands and thousands of years, right?
Is actually in your mind, expect to get hit.
I want you to expect to get hit.
So, think about that.
Don't think about, "I'm not gonna get hit.
"I try not to get hit.".
It's, "I'm gonna get hit.".
So change your psychology to, "I'm gonna get hit.".
Try that.
So you hit, you don't move.
(stomping)
No, expect in your mind, you're gonna get hit.
- Alright.
(stomping)
- Try again.
(stomping)
Yeah, so I want you to see how it should look.
So, Jason, do it to me.
I want you to see it, see my face?
Watch.
(stomping)
It's like you feel nothing.
So that's the very first thing you must do.
Don't blink, learn to relax, and learn to be calm.
Second thing you gotta do
is you need, not just relax,
you need to, when you're training,
put yourself in a real-life scenario.
Okay, so, sometimes in school,
you're hitting the pad.
It's like you're having fun and you're doing good.
You're sparring and doing all this good stuff.
But you should train under stress.
Under someone who is yelling at you,
verbally abusing you, and pushing you.
How would you react under those circumstances
so you don't freeze, right?
So, try that.
Now, do the same technique that I taught you.
Simple hands, some with Hulk punch,
some with hands out and punch you, right?
But now, you do it with a, some intimidation.
Make it like, on a scale of one to 10,
make it like a three.
Okay, try that.
So, you gonna hit Jason.
Jason can defend himself.
- Hey!
- Take your time.
Take your time, watch.
- Hey!
- You can even verbally abuse him.
Hey, what're you looking at?
What are you looking at?
What are you looking at, man?
What you looking at, boom!
Do that, okay.
- What're you looking at?
What're you looking at?
- Yes.
- What're you looking at?
- Now relax, relax.
See how he's getting nervous.
His body, right?
Relax, both of you guys.
Try that.
- What're you looking at?
What're you looking at?
- Change it up.
You got some change, man?
You got some change, boom!
- You want something?
You want something?
- You see, suddenly,
you see, the techniques don't work as well.
'cause he's thinking, "Oh, what is he gonna say?
"Is he gonna hit me?
"Am I gonna hit him?
"Is he too close?"
Suddenly your techniques are out of the window.
Because now, you add this psychology aspect to it.
The psychological threat.
So, in order to face fear intimidation,
you gotta train in fear intimidation, right?
So that, as a friend, as a training partner,
you need to be realistic.
So now, turn up to like a six or a seven.
Okay, try that.
So, talk first.
Take your time, talk first.
What's up, boom!
And then, you swing at him.
- Hey, you want something?
You want something?
- One more time.
- What're you looking at?
- Okay, Jason, switch.
Now, be a good actor.
- Alright.
- You wanna be a good actor with this.
That's why, in school, you get to know each other,
like brothers and stuff.
It's good, but when you're training something like this,
you wanna at least schedule that in your training.
So we have a portion of that,
you're training in this kind of situation.
So, intimidate the guy.
Like, verbally abuse the guy, try that.
- How dare you betray our friend?
What's your freaking problem, man?
- You see, suddenly, watch, he froze.
You see that moment?
He froze for two, three seconds.
(punching hand)
That's a real sucker punch.
You already got knocked out.
So, try that again.
So, swing the punch.
- [Jason] Okay.
- Okay, threaten him, threaten him,
and then swing the punch.
- How dare you betray our friend?
You're freaking wrong!
- Just one, just one.
Very clear technique.
- How dare you betray our friend?
- [Dan] One technique.
- [Jason] Yeah, yeah.
- Try again.
- You betrayed us!
- Ah, good.
- What is your problem?
This is not happening!
- You can see, it's a little bit different.
It's uncomfortable for you,
and it's uncomfortable for you.
'Cause you guys know each other, they're friends.
So it's good training.
It's uncomfortable for you because,
I don't wanna hurt him, I don't wanna sound mean.
You don't, you don't know how
to turn on that killer instinct.
It trains you on how to turn on that killer instinct.
For you, it's when someone is threatening you,
how do you stay calm?
How do you stay relaxed?
So that's the second thing.
The third thing you must do is this.
You must learn not to think.
So it's like Bruce said, "Don't think, feel.".
Because, by the time you're thinking,
someone is pushing you.
Go ahead, push me.
Oh, is he gonna push me, is he gonna hit me,
is he gonna, has his friend?
The moment you think about all those things,
it does not help you.
Because that adrenaline is running, you get all nervous.
And now you've got, so, intimidate, intimidate.
- What is your problem, man?
(nervous breathing)
- Right, you wanna eliminate that.
You don't want to do any of that.
By the time he intimidates.
There's no thinking.
He comes into my zone, I'm hitting the throat,
I'm doing my thing (grunts).
That's it, but he, and he's, what's interesting,
when he's thinking about hurting me,
when the attacker is thinking about attacking me,
he's not thinking about defense.
He's thinking, "I'm gonna beat this guy up.".
But when, the moment he's thinking 100 percent on that,
suddenly, you are going in with full force.
You take him off, like, hit him by surprise.
You attack him by surprise.
So that's the three things.
First, learn to relax, calm, don't blink.
Second, train in this kind of,
more realistic situation, right?
Third, learn not to think.
And that goes with repetition, repetition, repetition.
You train it again, and again, and again.
So, you don't think.
Just totally eliminate that.
Totally eliminate that.
Now, afterwards, left me finish the story.
So I've had a situation where I was in Hastings,
and there was a homeless person.
Tried to grab me and attack me.
This time, when he grabs me, literally,
he grabbed just like, just like that.
Wants to attack me this way.
And all I did is just do this move.
I hit him on his chin,
and knock him out on the ground.
And I moved him away from the sidewalk.
The whole thing happened in split of a second.
There was no thinking.
After these, understand (clears throat)
I have to understand all these three things, right?
Just like that.
So he was doing this, and boom!
And then I hit, and I was like,
"Oh, what the heck just happened?".
It's almost like, what did I just do?
That's what you wanna do.
You wanna eliminate that thinking.
Don't overthink it, sometimes in life,
we think about too much, worst case scenario.
What if about this, what about that?
You don't need that.
And that's how you face fear intimidation in a fight.
Try that out, let me know how it works for you.
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