i love a lot of things
some people love sunshine and rainbows
some love the warmth of summer and the
chill of winter
others love the smell of hot coffee in
the morning and the coziness of their
bed at night
some love to travel and go on crazy
adventures
according to the dictionary
love is a mix of emotions behaviors and
beliefs associated with strong feelings
of affection protectiveness warmth and
respect for a person or thing or even an
idea
but can we really define love
how do we explain a word that you can
use to describe what you feel for
everything from people to cars to
intangible ideas
to fully understand what love is
we have to look at the ancient greeks
instead of one all-encompassing word
the ancient greeks used seven different
words to explain love in its many
different forms
eros which means passionate love
is the most common type of love we see
in our world today
it's fueled by a desire for pleasure
it's love at first sight seeing
someone's physical appearance and
immediately getting attracted to them
even without knowing their first name
most romantic relationships start like
this
it's passionate it can even be a bit
obsessive
but love like this is confusing
it's the age-old question of love versus
lust
both lust and eros come with intense
physical attraction and a strong desire
to be close to the person
even if you just met them
some people like to differentiate them
by the length of time they stay around
if it was a fleeting emotion it was lost
but then if it lingered around like the
best man at a wedding then it was
definitely love
but is that really true
and if it is that is love simply lust
that has stayed around for long enough
if loss simply becomes love
how long does it take for the switch to
happen
at what point does lust become love
it's a complex question and you don't
normally give it much thought so i'll do
it for you
according to science and human biology
there are three stages to falling in
love
and it all starts with stage one
lust
it's driven by testosterone for men and
estrogen in women
so when does lust become love
well that's stage two
when we start feeling a sense of a high
when we see them or speak to them or
even just think about them
a high similar to the feeling you'd get
from drugs or alcohol
when we start to feel a sense of
euphoria when we're around them
when testosterone and estrogen are
replaced by dopamine making us happy and
excited adrenaline triggering our fight
or flight and norepinephrine keeping us
alert
this is why falling in love feels like
an addictive rush like you're driving at
120 miles per hour with no brakes in
your car
your palms are sweaty your knees are
weak and your arms are heavy your heart
is racing
love is this feeling
sometimes love doesn't start with lust
it starts with friendship
knowing someone well enough that you can
predict the reaction to every situation
love is intimacy
it's authentic it's kind it's warm
it's encouraging
love is the best friend you've known
since you were a child
it's always wanting the best for the
other person
selfless goodwill
in today's world
philly is dying
we have millions of followers and
subscribers
but very few friends
we have a multitude of people seeing the
perfect view of our lives everything we
want them to see
but no one who is welcome to see what's
behind the curtains
philia is a sense of camaraderie
it's calling someone brother or sister
even when they're not related to you by
blood
love is loyalty sacrifice and
vulnerability
love is a choice
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love is not always serious
love is not always permanent
and when it's fleeting
love is not always lust
ludus describes a love that is built on
infatuation flirtation and fun
sometimes love is simply having a crush
on someone and acting on it
it's going out for drinks with a friend
and acting like a romantic couple for
the night only
it's random kids pushing each other on
swings in the playground basking in that
joy that their friends are having
alongside them
it's going to the club and dancing with
strangers or singing karaoke in a room
full of people you've just met
sometimes love is casual exciting fun
it doesn't need any obligations or
implications to be loved
love doesn't need physical attraction to
be love
love doesn't even need friendship to be
love
love simply
is
we often say that love involves
commitment time mutual trust and
acceptance between two people
but is that really the case
because none of this exists between a
mother and her child
but love does
the truth is that sometimes we can love
someone even when we don't like them
if you have any siblings i'm sure you'll
understand the concept a lot
the greeks called it storage
unconditional familial love
the kind of kinship love that only
exists between family members and of
course
family does not mean you have to be tied
by blood
lifelong friends who become family
adopted children step parents when we
consider someone our family we often
develop a need to protect them
even when they might not be the nicest
people to hang around with
storage is a strange type of love
most times when we love someone we are
drawn closer to them we want to spend
all of our free time with them go on
adventures with them
laugh smile cry do everything with them
but sometimes love is wanting to go home
even when you might not talk to the
people there very much
it's simply a sense of security like a
weighted blanket
this love is being able to give someone
a kidney without hesitation
but not your phone's charger
even when in truth only one of those is
easily replaceable
and this strange feeling is not only
towards people
it's the same for sports teams and fans
every year you cheer for your team every
year they break your heart
yet the very next year you blew back the
millions of pieces and wear the badge
with the pride chanting
this year will be our year
because love is unconditional it's not
dependent on who the person is or what
they can give to you
love is a one-way ticket
it's loving someone even when they might
not have the ability to love you back
aristotle once said
all friendly feelings for others are an
extension of a man's feelings for
himself
if you don't love yourself
you can never truly love others
this is why falaudia the love of oneself
is something we shouldn't take for
granted
love is not just what you can do for
others it's also what you can do for you
so go out and give yourself a treat once
in a while
you don't have to have achieved anything
or crossed any milestone before you
celebrate yourself just like others
don't necessarily have to do anything
before you love them
you don't either
love is when you can stop comparing
yourself to others when you forgive
yourself for your past mistakes and stop
judging yourself for things that are
beyond your control
love is when you wake up in the morning
look in the mirror and be proud of the
person staring right back at you
love is leaving toxic relationships and
not feeling obligated to stay no matter
who they are or how important they've
been to you in the past
it's choosing yourself over and over
again and protecting yourself the way
you would protect anyone else
love is being kind to yourself
in your thoughts in your words and in
your actions
because only when we truly love
ourselves can we be able to love others
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love lasts for a lifetime
love is to have and to hold for better
for worse for richer for poor
sickness and in health to love and to
cherish till death do you part
love is committed and compassionate it's
accepting each other's differences and
learning to compromise
love is taking out all the broken pieces
and putting them together again
instead of throwing them all out
love is everlasting rooted in romantic
feelings and compassion
so is love a feeling
or a choice
if love is a choice
why do we never know we're falling in
love with someone until we are
why can't we ever say to ourselves i
want to fall in love with this person
and just do it
on the other hand if love is a feeling
then there is no basis for wedding vows
there is no basis for the promise that
will love each other forever because
feelings come and go and usually they
are beyond our control
the only way we can judge that love will
remain forever is when we decide that it
will
is love a feeling
or a choice
well it's both
falling in love is a feeling but staying
in love is a decision
it's telling them you love them even on
the worst days
it's saying to them
i don't know how we'll get through this
except that it'll be together
love is being vulnerable even when we
don't feel like it
love is holding the roses without being
scared of getting pricked by its thongs
love is an amazing feeling in the
beginning but for love to last a
lifetime it has to evolve into a
commitment of never letting this person
go for as long as they let you
love is giving to charity and helping
strangers in need
love is empathy towards humanity it's
fighting for change even when you might
not be directly affected by the issues
love is altruistic selflessly caring for
humans animals and even mother earth
itself
love doesn't expect anything in return
for its actions
love itself is the reward
love serves as the foundation for
societies and communities without which
we cannot thrive
scientists have always battled with the
concept of love
some believe that love is a basic human
emotion like anger or sadness or joy
however
some others believe that love is simply
a cultural phenomenon something we are
drawn towards as a result of societal
expectations and pressures
but nothing could be further from the
truth
if love is simply a cultural phenomenon
it wouldn't exist in all cultures of the
world
and the fact that it does suggest that
in truth there is something innate about
love
something biological about its
experience
if love is fundamental to the human
experience then we must ask
what is the point of love
why do we love
is it for parents to be able to bear
with their kids long enough for them to
attain maturity or perhaps it's for
mates to remain together for as long as
is necessary to raise the next
generation of humans
does love exist to create a sense of
community and camaraderie that is
necessary for a hard community like ours
to exist
we might never know why love exists or
what ultimate purpose it serves
but we do know how important it is
the longest study on happiness showed
that the people who end their life happy
are not the ones who are the richest or
the ones who are the most healthy or the
ones who never made a mistake in their
lives
the happiest people are those who are
surrounded by the most love
love from spouses love from children and
grandchildren
love from friends love from religious
organizations and communities
to fully understand just how important
love is
we need to juxtapose its experience with
the pain of loneliness
not having that someone to share your
inner monologue with because your
thoughts are too petty or intense
random or full of anxiety or too scary
to share with just anyone
you can't rant
you can't scream you can't fully express
your feelings of obsession over your
favorite passions or rage about your
most heartbreaking moments
constantly having to filter our thoughts
through the lenses of politeness and
political correctness
being looked at but not being seen
being heard but not being listened to
it's dreadful
we've all been there
if love is so important
why do we not make it the center of our
lives
why do we chase everything else but to
love we say
stop searching and it'll find you
you see the truth is that love doesn't
always find you
and sometimes you have to search it out
so to those chasing love
listen
in plato's dialogue the symposium
aristophanes the playwright explains
love the way many of us chasing love
think of it
in the beginning humans were all
androgynous with double the parts we
have now including two faces turned in
opposite directions
this physical form made humans so
powerful that they became a threat to
the gods
so zeus cut them in two
one male and one female
and since
every human has long to be rejoined with
their other half like two pieces of a
puzzle
two halves of a hole
although this is just a myth
it opens up the curtain to why we love
the way we do we often fall in love with
people who think would complete us
people who so perfectly fit together the
pieces of our hearts puzzle people who
compliment our shortcomings and give us
hope for the things we are most insecure
about we live in part with the hope of
completion
we all have a deep rooted need to
blossom and we can only hope this person
is the rain at the end of summer
but the truth is
we're already complete
and us are the two parts of a whole
so when people say stop searching for
love
don't take that as a message to stop
trying
take that as a lesson to stop searching
for completion in another person
at the end of the day
only when you truly love yourself and
completely understand the weight that
that carries
can you love others the way they deserve
to be it all starts
and it all ends
with you
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