Rebekah: Hey guys. It’s Bex here. Welcome to another episode of She Has Four Minutes
where I am interviewing 21 of the most inspiring women in my own life who inspire and motivate
me. Today I have the beautiful Erin Stutland.
Erin: Hi.
Rebekah: Creator and founder of Shrink Session. Shrink Session, I always have to say that
like four times.
Erin: It’s a little bit of a tongue twister.
Rebekah: Yeah. And a little disclosure here. I sell this program. I love this program.
She got me in her studio to dance in front of people.
Erin: That was so fun. You were amazing.
Rebekah: I was such a skeptic.
Erin: You were so cute but you were so engaged and so determined to get it. So you were awesome.
Rebekah: I didn’t get it but I was still determined.
Erin: She was like, “I’m going to get this!” It was great. It was so much fun.
Rebekah: It’s great even when you don’t get it. So I encourage you to check it out,
try it out. She has free videos that you could download and it’s just the best thing.
Erin: It’s a really fun workout that combines cardio, dance and yoga and mantras that you’re
saying out loud.
Rebekah: Mantras are our thing.
Erin: Yeah. We love the mantras.
Rebekah: We love mantras.
Erin: Yeah.
Rebekah: But today we’re talking about what you do in the midst of all this craziness.
You’re developing programs of traveling, of teaching live classes to take care of yourself
because that’s what these women want to know, because you’re not taking care of
yourselves. I know it. You’re not doing it because I hear from you every day. Like,
I don’t have the time. So tell us how you make the time.
Erin: I think it’s so important to take care of yourself. I think it really is like
on the higher priority list of all the things that I have to do, you have to do. I know
you have to do at home. So for me, self-care first and foremost, I will just say what I
think it is. It’s really about being in a state of receiving because I think a lot
of the times we’re doing so much.
It’s so much output, whether it’s an email or a blog post or helping our families or
helping a client. It’s like really about doing. So self-care to me is like anything
where I can be in a state of receiving and allowing which kind of means not doing much
of anything at all.
Rebekah: But that’s hard!
Erin: It’s so hard.
Rebekah: It makes you feel guilty. It makes you feel like a terrible person because you’re
sitting here and saying, “Give me, give me,” all the good stuff, and you’re not
putting out and like making people love you and making people like you and making new
friends. So how do you do that to get in that frame of mind?
Erin: Yeah. I think that’s why a lot of women don’t do it because we sort of believe
that the only way to have success is to be doing, doing, doing. I think that part of
having success is you have to have both. You have to have output and input and allowing.
So, one of the things that I love to do and I’m fortunate to live in New York City but
you don’t have to live in New York City to do this. But there are so many amazing
cafes. So it’s so simple and you can do it at home. But I literally love to go to
a café, order a cup of tea, sit down and drink it.
Rebekah: That’s it?
Erin: That’s it. Now I know that sounds crazy but there is something about just sitting
there. I don’t take out my phone. I don’t have my computer. I’m just sitting there.
I let the steam come up. I smell it. I sip it slowly. I watch the people walk in and
walk out. I listen to the conversations that are happening.
So for me it’s really like – it’s like a meditation. It’s like an awareness meditation
where you just allow your mind to slow down. You allow yourself to take in everything with
all your senses, your smell, your sight, like how it feels in your hand, that hot cup. Like,
it feels so good. It’s very cozy. It’s very warm and soothing and it doesn’t require
a lot of money and it doesn’t require a lot of time either.
Sometimes honestly even sitting there for five minutes or four minutes even is all you
really need. It can be really soothing and it’s like you’re not doing any output.
It’s just all receiving and taking everything in.
Rebekah: No, I like that because first of all, you can create a café environment in
your own home.
Erin: A hundred percent. Yeah.
Rebekah: Cup of tea, your favorite mug. Maybe it has a motivational saying on it. Maybe
it says “blissed in”. I don’t even sell Blissed In mugs.
Erin: But you should. New product! It’s coming to you.
Rebekah: Coming soon, Blissed In mugs! You can create this ritual for yourself. That’s
really what we’re talking about. It’s these rituals that we do repetitively to tell
ourselves that we love ourselves, to give ourselves time. When we do them every day,
which I think that you have time for, to do every single day, then it becomes like this
ingrained part of your life and also teaches other people how to respect you and how to
respect your space, because you’re showing them how you’re doing it for yourself.
Erin: Absolutely. Yeah.
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Erin: Yeah. Right?
Rebekah: It’s like magic tea.
Erin: It really is. It’s magic tea.
Rebekah: Well, the thing – all the secrets of the universe are very simple.
Erin: Very simple.
Rebekah: And this is one of them. Just taking the time every day to show yourself you love
yourself.
Erin: Stop, slow down, and I know – one thing I always say is like we hear a lot about
meditation and you teach wonderful meditations. I know meditation can be difficult for some
people. So I really feel like – that this is a form, another form of meditation. You’re
actually like lifting the mug into your mouth, putting it back down. It’s really no different
than sitting there and just sort of breathing.
Rebekah: Anything that puts you in the moment that allows you to kind of push away the past,
not worry about the future.
Erin: Yeah, I love that.
Rebekah: It’s the whole point. So whether it’s meditation, whether it’s dancing,
saying a mantra, sipping some tea, it’s all good. However you get there is exactly
what you should be doing.
Erin: Absolutely.
Rebekah: Thank you so much.
Erin: You’re welcome, you’re welcome.
Rebekah: Check her out. All her links are going to be in the video description below
and then across the bottom of the video, like magic. It’s going to show up right here.
Definitely check out the Shrink Session Program. It’s just the coolest.
Erin: It’s so fun.
Rebekah: I’m so lucky to be able to do it in person, but you are going to get all the
benefits if you’re doing it online.
Erin: You can do it in the comfort of your own home.
Rebekah: Yeah, with your tea, right after tea.
Erin: Right. Then you jump in and do some exercise.
Rebekah: Thank you so much.
Erin: You’re welcome.
Rebekah: High ten.