Welcome back to my channel, my dear elegant ladies!
Today ladies,
I am going to talk to you about those things that elegant ladies should be wearing,
but they don't. And the simple reason for this is ladies,
if we take a look into reality into the modern world today,
then there's a lot of etiquette rules that are with us from the past.
But actually,
the modern world and the modern society are breaking them more and more,
then reality doesn't look like that.
It's not really how elegant ladies behave and dress.
So let me start immediately with number one.
Elegant ladies should definitely be wearing spanx if they are on the larger side,
but we actually noticed that a lot of elegant ladies,
they skipped the spanx. In my elite finishing school,
I do tell my students that spanx is so important.
If you have something that needs to be tucked in, use spanx,
tuck it in. Because otherwise,
how are you going to achieve that elegance silhouette if everything is a little bit
all over the place, right? It makes total logical sense.
The only problem with spanx is that it's ridiculously uncomfortable.
I have a little bit of spanx as well. I'm not going to lie.
There are some times moments where I feel incredibly bloated and I need to tuck
my stomach in, especially, if I'm going to go out at night.
But Oh my God,
to live through a whole night wearing those horrible spanx,
who likes it? It can also sometimes ruin the whole experience.
So it happens that you know what, I'll just take one for the team.
I'll just tuck in my stomach the entire night rather than having to wear those
horrible spanx. So that's kind of the first example. What I mean,
elegant ladies should be doing this, but if we really look into reality,
a lot of people break the rules. Now going to number two,
and I did get a remark once when I went to finishing school about this.
So this is the rule ladies. A lady,
an elegant lady should never have bare legs.
She should always be wearing hosiery. So for instance,
if you are going to have bare legs, you have to wear nude hosiery.
Now, one thing is for sure that when it comes to business etiquette,
then yes. For business,
you have to do it because business is business. It's corporate environment.
There are rules that should be followed there because of certain dress code.
But in our everyday life, when we go out at night and so on,
should we really be wearing those nude stockings,
especially if it's warm outside? Now, we're in a modern world ladies,
most women, they would only wear nude hosiery if it's cold,
if it's too cold, not to wear bare legs. But majority of women, unless they're,
let's say over 60 years old will not wear hosiery because bare legs is nice.
It's beautiful.
It's a bit too strict to wear hosiery in my personal opinion.
So what I meant with finishing school is that we actually had in our dress code
at finishing school that we could never wear bare legs.
We always had to wear hosiery. And let me tell you,
we were talking about July month and it was 35 degrees in Switzerland during
this time. So I remember,
I came to class once and I didn't have any hosiery and I was wearing a dress.
So the teacher told me off and I remember clearly because she told me no naked
bottoms on your seat that is not hygienic and it's not pleasant for the other students.
Okay, I get it. I understand, it makes logical sense.
But you know,
ultimately majority of ladies break this rule and it's just the kind of society
we're in today. Maybe it's a little bit different from culture to culture,
but in the culture where I'm from in Europe and I think even the US,
that's usually the standard practice people are bare legged.
Let's move on to number three and we are going to talk a lot about jewelry in
today's video.
There is this really common etiquette rule that you should only wear diamonds in
the evening. But if you really look at high society women,
you will actually see that nobody's really following that rule.
If you have a beautiful diamond bracelet,
then you are not only going to wear it at night,
you will also wear it sometimes during day time or other occasions.
It's not really that strict and it don't necessarily think that if you 're wearing
diamonds before 6:00 PM,
you're necessarily somebody who is dressed in appropriately. No,
of course, I would say coming all blinged up for breakfast or lunch or salon
might not necessarily say that you have the best taste, in my opinion.
Because it's maybe a little bit too much for that time of the day.
But I think definitely having diamonds in general doesn't mean anything.
It doesn't mean that you are not a lady. In our modern world,
elegant ladies do amend the rules and if we continue to number four and stay on
the jewelry path,
because this one actually goes a little bit hand in hand with the previous one.
There is this saying that for daytime,
elegant ladies should be wearing pearls and in the evening they can wear their
diamonds.
So this is again where reality doesn't look like this today.
The women of today who are perhaps under the age of 50 tend not to wear pearls
at all. Of course,
you can wear and you have some women who do wear pearls and that works
absolutely fine on them. But it's very,
very hard in today's world to pull off pearls without looking old and
old-fashioned.
I have pearls and I just never end up wearing them.
I feel extremely old-fashioned when I wear them,
which is a shame because I really like the appearance of pearls.
But I just cannot get myself down to wear it.
Maybe will change in the future,
but I know for sure that that's maybe also another reason to why people break
the diamond rule. Maybe pearls will get back into fashion, but after all,
it is such a classic and timeless piece. However,
I know that right now is not really the high time for pearls and people are just
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Ladies, we have arrived to number five. And there is a saying that if it's cold,
let's say it's after October,
November month and it's already cold where you live,
then you should not be wearing sandals.
You have to only wear high heels with closed toe.
Open toe is for summer. Okay, to some degree,
I actually do agree with this because it makes sense.
You are going to be very cold and you might feel a little bit awkward because if
it's almost snowing where you live and you are arriving in the pair of sandals,
open toes, not necessarily the appropriate footwear. And ladies,
I'm just referring now to high heels because who would arrive at flat sandals
in winter? But somehow with heels,
we tend to think that it's more, okay. I don't know why.
Maybe because we go out at night and we dress up and I don't know. But I guess,
what I'm trying to say is that elegant ladies do cheat with this. I've seen,
I've seen it over and over again and this I'm really referring to at night.
I haven't really seen many people cheat with this during the day because during
the day would definitely look much more awkward. But at night,
because you are showing me be a little bit more skin and having more of a nicer
dress, you can get away by wearing a sandal.
This is definitely something that I tend not to do. If I'm doing it,
it's really an exception and maybe,
I didn't have the right shoes to match that particular outfit. Who knows?
But it's something I definitely avoid.
But I just want to put it out there that this does happen and if you have to
break the rules, sometimes you have to break the rule.
It's not the end of the world.
The point of elegant transformation is that you don't start adopting bad habits
and start going down into a negative spiral that is not going to serve you.
Number six, and this is very much part of our modern society.
So elegant ladies shouldn't be wearing sneakers at all.
It's kind of this impression.
I don't know why people have this vision that elegant ladies have to be
extremely rigid in a certain way and God forbid that they would wear a pair of
sneakers. I mean, okay,
I really think that that's a little bit exaggerated.
I am here teaching you elegance. I am all about elegance,
but what elegance is turning into extremism?
That's when I start wondering,
why do people have to go to such dramatic extents? This is the case, ladies,
again, in our modern society today,
it is a sneaker society.
I'm not saying that that's my favorite society and I'm not really pro all that
because I think,
people have definitely become way too casual than we should necessarily be.
But on the other hand,
sneakers serves a purpose and everybody deserves to be comfortable with their feet,
especially if you have to walk long distances.
Who wants to go sightseeing all day in a pair of uncomfortable pointy
ballerina shoes? You will end up bleeding from the blisters on your feet.
I mean, that's so unfair, right? It's really unfair being a woman then.
Because men,
they can walk around the sneakers all day long and nobody's judging them.
But of course, I do think that there are sneakers and then there are sneakers.
There are sneakers that are much more dressed up than others. For instance,
I wouldn't say that, "Oh yes, elegant ladies,
they definitely run around town wearing Nike all day long." No,
we don't want to go that low as wearing Nike's.
We want to maybe have a nice pair of leather clean sneaker that is kind of a
hybrid between a sneaker and the leather shoe.
I love my Louis Vuitton leather sneakers. As a result,
I walk and use them a lot. I use them definitely for sightseeing,
so no blisters, thank God.
And what I'm trying to say is that it's okay to wear sneakers if you style them properly.
If maybe the rest of your outfit is much more dressed up rather than wearing a
massive Balenciaga hoody and some sweatpants or whatever
people wear these days.
But it's okay to be comfortable.
Just make sure the rest of you is somehow elevated and elegant,
and just chic, just makes you look not too scruffy.
I guess that's what I'm trying to say. Number seven,
there is also this dress rule that an elegant lady,
she doesn't remove her hat at the dinner table.
So this is a very old-fashioned rule because back in the days,
women used to wear very sophisticated hats.
Hats that are more of a design purpose rather than to keep their head warm.
But some people misunderstand that rule and think that,
"Well maybe,
I should be wearing my Maison Michel outdoor hat when I'm sitting,
having dinner inside a restaurant,
just because I came with that hat and it was my accessory with my outerwear."
No ladies. Let's say if we listen to that rule,
they should be wearing their hat at the dinner table.
But actually, women take off their hats today because the hats that we are
wearing, they're more, like I said, to match our outerwear.
Perhaps even the hat that we would use on the beach,
we wouldn't necessarily sit down and have food with it.
Well maybe some do actually,
but I think it's a common sense thing to remove your hat,
especially if it's on the larger side when you're sitting and eating.
Definitely if you have a kind of fascinator type of hat,
then yes, you would keep it on. You wouldn't take it off.
But I'm certainly not going to eat with my Maison Michel hat
at any point. That hat is made to take off when I'm eating food.
One more. No, okay, two more or three. Number eight, the watch.
So there's also this rule that,
elegant ladies should not be wearing her watch at night because it's rude to be
watching your time or she should be wearing only her
jewelry like bracelets and things.
But again, elegant ladies don't follow this rule.
Majority of the times, a lot of women are wearing their watches at nighttime and
it's not necessarily because they lack skills and manners.
It's really because watches have become more of a fashion accessory today and
more also a statement piece than what it was back in the days. Back in the days,
it was truly to check your time, so of course,
maybe an elegant lady wouldn't be wearing a watch at all.
But today things have changed. Life has evolved.
There are new trends and new ways of living life.
So you will be seeing women wearing watches and there's
absolutely nothing wrong with that.
The only time I would say do not wear a watch, however,
is if you're going to very dressed up event and you're wearing a long dress,
a gown, type of cocktail party attire. Then yes,
unless it's like jewelry design watches.
Those are an exception. I'm talking now about regular watches.
So number nine,
and let's talk about the cliche that we keep talking about over and over again.
An elegant lady should never be showing any form of cleavage or should she?
Okay. Now you're like, but Anna is now talking against herself.
First things first, I still stick to my guns.
I do believe that an elegant lady should not be showing any cleavage because
there's just too much cleavage in this world today. I'm sorry,
but wherever we look, there's flesh, flesh, body parts. You know,
I can't take any more body parts, just give me a break. Cover up.
No, but this is the thing, ladies,
there is an exception that I do want to talk about. Number one,
you can actually show a little bit of cleavage. It's fine.
You don't have to be covered up to here to be an elegant lady.
You can definitely show a little bit of cleavage in an elegant way.
What we don't want to see is like the kind of the sagging moments where we feel
like we're just staring into a person's bossom rather than into the person's eyes.
Ultimately, we want to see the person, we don't want to see flesh.
You know, that's the whole purpose of this kind of cliche mantra.
But there is an exception also and there are certain women who are extremely
conservative as their natural element and they're almost a little bit too
proper, too strict, too tense.
If I can describe this correctly and somehow those women would actually benefit
from showing a little bit of cleavage. Ladies,
I teach about balance here because that is the winning formula.
We don't like too much of anything.
If you go too much into the world of being conservative,
then okay can definitely work. So I'm not saying it's bad.
But what I'm saying is that it can often time benefits you to just add a little
bit of the opposite to your existing ensemble to just balance things up a bit.
Now what happens then is that opportunities might arise up for you.
You might discover new energy in yourself that you didn't think you had.
You might even transform yourself to somebody that you should become or you
would benefit of becoming.
So there are benefits to when somebody should be spicing themselves up a notch
and not just be little miss proper.
And the God forbid if she shows a tiny bit of skin.
It's okay,
it's fine to show a little bit of skin if it's done with good taste,
not too much, and not having to put everything on display here.
That's not what we want. Number 10 ladies, and we have reached the last point.
The last point is elegant ladies should be dressed for their age.
But actually, if you look at today's society,
you will really see that people actually oftentimes dress the opposite for their
age and it's absolutely fine.
So a common thing that I've noticed is that a lot of the times, younger people,
they like to dress themselves a little bit older,
maybe because they want to be taken more seriously. And a lot of the times,
older people,
maybe older women like to dress themselves a little bit more younger so that
they don't have to reveal their age too much.
And I really think that in these situations, it's absolutely fine,
as long as you make you work for yourself. Again,
when it really doesn't work is when it's done in bad taste. When for instance,
older women are running around with like mini dresses,
like mini bodycon dresses
and they really look like old teenagers.
And that just looks a bit too much, you know?
Or if you have a really young girl who looks like a grandma,
that's also not really in benefit for her.
So it's really about your own balance,
what works for you and your goals, and your preferences and so on.
The point that I'm trying to make, that it's fine.
And if you need to balance something out for some reason then that is your
choice and you have the right to that choice.
So you shouldn't be listening to those things. But again,
just do everything with good taste and don't go all in.
That's all I'm trying to say. Ladies,
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