Hi, I'm Nicholeen Peck, and I'm a mother of four, previous treatment foster parents
of many and I teach parenting and good communication skills all over the world.
And in this video, I'm talking about why motherhood must be respected.
If motherhood is respected, that changes the whole of society because mothers are the most powerful
people in society. In this video, I'm going to be talking about what respecting motherhood does
to mother does to women does to men and does to children. Did you know that the influence
mother has on everybody changes if she is not respected? It's true. Let's talk a little bit
about the word respect. I do believe in respecting all women, of course, and mothers. I actually had
an international nonprofit dedicated to women and families. Specifically though, we focus on mothers
and motherhood because over 80% of the women of the world is still become mothers at some point,
and mothers are powerful figures in society. So what do we need to understand about the word
respect? The word respect actually means to revere someone or to reverence someone. So
when you revere mother, what does that look like? That means that you hold her up as a standard,
that she is actually someone that you look up to, that you want to be like,
that you want to learn from, she becomes then a sage of wisdom, if she is revered. She becomes
talked about for generation after generation. And isn't that what we do with our mothers?
Those women that we love more than anything else, despite their flaws, despite their hardships,
don't we end up seeing them as the people who overcame their hardships, at least in a small
degree? Don't we see them as people who did hard things, who loved us, despite our flaws,
that's what we see. That's what we know because mothers teach us all something about our value.
That's why we revere them. That's why we respect them. So what does it mean to reverence them?
That means to protect them to protect their names, or to protect their legacies,
that when we think of them, we think of them with love, even if they're not perfect. When we talk of
them, we talk of them with love, even if they're not perfect, because they're not, even though I
had a women's organization, and I focus a lot on motherhood. And even though I teach parenting all
over the world and have done so for many, many years, I'm not perfect. I still have my flaws,
and my children still have to look past them. And we still have to get through those moments.
But it is my hope that they know my heart and they know that my heart and wanting the best for
them and for everybody else in that family is behind everything I do, even if it's a mistake,
sometimes, that, if they can maintain that type of a feeling toward me, is true reverence, which would
be true respect of my motherhood. So when mothers are respected, what does that do for everybody
else? Because oftentimes, we isolate people, we think, okay, I'm going to respect father,
and that's going to help him that's going to show my love to him, or I'm going to respect grandma,
or I'm going to respect my teacher or my mother, and that's going to be a blessing to them. I am
going to do a service and respect that. But did you know whenever you respect anyone that actually
ends up benefiting you and a whole bunch of other people around you as well, especially when we
talk about respecting people in the family like respecting mother or father and their roles. The
roles in the family are so interconnected that our very identity is wrapped up in who we are to
each other. So years ago, I started teaching parenting and I taught what's called self
government parenting and teaching skills about parenting. People bought my book, Parenting A
House United and people would ask me questions, they would say, well, what if your child doesn't
care about what you're telling them? What if they won't talk to you? What if, you know questions
like that? And I said, well, then your roles are in the wrong place. I assumed when I wrote my
book, Parenting A House United, and started creating my course that people understood roles. But what
I soon learned was that we have a roles problem in our society, in the workplace, in the nation,
as well as in our homes. In fact, that's where all the roles problem is starting, is in the homes.
So I wrote this book called Roles: The Secret to Family Business and Social Success, about a
family who doesn't have their roles in the right place. And I'm not talking about responsibilities.
I'm talking about who they are to each other. They're very identities. So mother, for instance,
is the heart and hearthstone of the family. That's her primary role. She says she nurtures
her children so she doesn't nurturer, she's a teacher. These are other aspects of her role,
other characteristics of who she is. But nobody can replace that tug that she has on the hearts
of her children. That's part of her identity. So this whole book talks about the identity of
mother or father. Doesn't matter who makes money, or does the laundry, it's who we really are to
each other, and what need we fulfill within each other as humans. And so roles are so important,
I ended up having to write a whole book on it. So let's talk about the impact that mother has
on everybody else and on their roles and their identity. But before we do, click the subscribe
button now. There are a lot of great videos on this channel related to family to our roles,
our identity, our relationships, and the way that we solve problems together as a family, too.
You're not going to want to miss those videos. So click the subscribe button now. If mother values
herself, then she is actually seen as a more powerful person in society. So this is huge,
okay. As mothers, we need to talk good about motherhood, we need to talk good about ourselves,
so that we are actually valued more in society. Now, if mother values herself or the other people
value mother, then what does that do for women overall, it gives women more freedom. Women have
freedom of choice then, because now they can choose motherhood and they can choose whatever
career. They don't have to choose one or the other. Society has consistently over the course of about
50 years made the dialogue about motherhood be either you pick that or you pick a job, but you
can't have both. Well, why not? Why not? And if you want to just pick motherhood, why is that
bad? Just because you don't get a paycheck. That's ridiculous. Paycheck doesn't signify value. Sure,
in our capitalistic society, maybe we happen to look at how much money we get for our pursuits,
you know, as a determination of whether we're progressing or not. But for a mother,
it's all of the little private accolades that she gets that really make a difference. All of
the hugs all of the I love you, mom. And all of those little things are the things that matter the
very most to her. Mother needs to talk positively about being a mother, so that she opens the door
for her girls to be able to choose it despite what society is telling them about motherhood,
which oftentimes is negative and not true. She also respects all women when she does that,
because women all have the same biology. They all have uteruses and ovaries and they can
make children. That's what women do and when she respects motherhood, she respects women and their
ability to bring people into this world, which is a creative feat that no one else can even compare
with. So what does respecting motherhood do for children? Well, it shows children how valuable
they are. If you honor their mother, and you honor the things mother is trying to do for children,
then it shows children how valuable they are because mothers spending all of these hours and
all of this time and this effort doing things for her children. It shows the children they
should listen to mommy, that's a good thing to, right? This decreases disobedience, it decreases,
you know them getting into lawlessness, because they worry about what mommy thinks
of them. They've got someone there looking over their shoulder, if you get rid of the value of
mother than children have no one, they're alone. They're completely autonomous. And they have no
one to answer to, no one that holds up the values they're supposed to be living by. But mother
historically does that for her children and if we can honor her role in that, then the children will
continually look to her and her values and morals, and that will keep them going in a good direction.
So what does honoring motherhood do for men, and do for fathers? Well, we
all know the story about the creepy guys who don't honor women, right? We all know the story about
the guy who maybe wasn't good to his wife, right? Those are all stories from the past and sometimes
now stories from the future because of the way that women and men are battling it out with each
other currently. But what if motherhood is valued? What if all people are taught to value motherhood?
That it's not just a choice that you have, but it's actually who you are? Is someone you're
meant to be and it's someone who everyone needs in society to keep us all steered in the right
direction. What if laws were made honoring mothers and their role with their children? What if
then, what would men do? Men would see themselves as people who needed to protect mothers, protect
children, they would see the mothers as people who were giving something back to society,
right? Instead of just someone to compete with, or someone to try to be romantic with, someone to get
something that they want. Instead, it would be someone that they wanted to serve, someone they
wanted to help, someone who gave something they can't give. We all want to see the strength in
the other people, something that you can't do for yourself. Mother gives that when she is honored.
Father will work his whole life to honor mother. He finds no greater joy than that because of her
role and identity with him and his children, he will do that. Mother doesn't always have to work,
because of what father will do to serve her. That is the identity that mother gives to
father. It gives him a purpose and a reason. There are a lot of men who don't launch nowadays, that
don't go anywhere or do anything, because they just want to leech off of, you know,
other people. They don't have purpose. Is it because they've lost sight of who mother is?
I don't know. But it could be a reason. We are having a problem with that in our
society. We need all people to step up and I am convinced that if motherhood were honored
that all people would step up. If you have enjoyed this video, I know that you'll really
love the next video, which is why is motherhood devalued? This will go into more detail about
why mothers are consistently being devalued in our culture, and we'll give solutions for what
we can do to change that. Also, there's a free gift in there that I think you'll probably want
in order to become a better mother or father or just citizen yourself. So click on the link
to why motherhood is devalued.