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- Hello
- Hey everybody I am joined by the beautiful and Amazing
Gloria Calderon Kellett am I saying that right.
- You sure said it right
- It's a mouth full
- It is
- But we had a wonderful panel we were brought up by patrium
to talk about using our platforms for good.
And would you mind telling the audience a little bit
about the show "One Day at a Time"
- Yes!
- It's wonderful you should check it out
we'll link it in the descriptions so you can watch it.
They talk about things like mental health
- Yes
- Imagine that.
- One day at a time is about
a basically there was a show in 1975
that Norman Lear had done called "One Day at a Time."
So this is a re imagining of that
we are working with Norman
and he wanted to do it through a Latina lens
a single mom through a Latina lens.
So, there is a character named Schneider
but he's very different from the original Schneider.
And so this is about a Cuban single mom
Cuban American single mom.
Who is a former army Veteran
Well she's a Veteran she's a former Army soldier.
And she's dealing with being newly single
and lives with her mother who's very traditional.
And her daughter is coming out
and then she has a young teenage son.
So, its about their life
and about what they're going through.
And basically reintroducing herself to civilian life
and to just being a mom and being in this world.
- Yeah and I love that it opens with
her really getting an antidepressant.
Because she's having a hard time as many as our Vets do
and thank you for your service
because the mental health ramifications
can be really difficult.
- That's right.
- Especially then there's the component.
of the Latino community or the Latinx.
- Latinx just taught her that.
- Yeah we just learned its more inclusive
because if any of you don't know
Spanish is very male female in the language.
- Gendered Language so
- Yes so Latinx or Latin-x either or I learned.
So it opens with the medication component
and that was part of your story
- Yes
- How was it to write that to watch it come to life
- It was incredible I mean we have a really inclusive
writers room of men women LGBQ latino Latinx.
And so we were all talking about
what were things that we really wanted to talk about
that were important.
And Norman Lear
his whole career has really been about talking.
About difficult things that happen in the family home
and trying to start conversations within your own home.
So we talked about all of the things colorism racism
Misconceptions about Veterans
misconceptions about depression and anxiety.
And we realized there was a lot to talk about
that would we could infuse these characters with
and have some of these difficult talks.
So we yeah I have mental health issues in my family
we all have I learned from Katie
that we all have mental health.
So it's about how to best service our own mental health and
the character of Penelope is struggling.
So we talk about that in the first episode
she is not at the time of the first episode
does not have any sort of therapy group
has not grown up with that many communities of color
there is stigma when it comes to mental health still.
So we wanted to talk about that head on
so that communities of color could feel themselves seen
and maybe start conversations about
what sort of internal dilemmas they have with that
and I had somebody in my life that was really wonderful
who said to me you know if you had
it's something we say in the pilot that the doctor
says to her in the pilot
if you had something wrong with your heart.
You wouldn't think twice about taking medication
for your heart.
And yet when it's something with the brain
people have issues taking medication or dealing with
you know they say you have to run more you have to
- Yeah
- Right do all these things when it's your heart
and you know that you need to eat less carbs
or eat less fats
- Drink more water
right these are not things we think twice about.
But when it comes to the brain it's treated differently.
And so we're really trying to end that
so that people can
get the help that they need to live a more vibrant
and joy filled life.
So we're really proud that we get to do that on the show.
And the outreach we've gotten from twitter
and social media in general.
Making people feel seen
having people start conversation with their family
about their own experiences.
- Just hold
- Oh
- Just cause
Continue what you were saying
- Yeah
- Sorry to cut you off.
- What was I saying oh my god.
- Great to have those difficult conversations.
- Yeah it really is great to have those conversations
cause they're not difficult for me to have now.
But at the beginning it was difficult
it was difficult to talk to family members
it was difficult to not only have them
think about their own mental health.
But to have whatever guilt they had about what they done
or not done in terms of mine.
And there's a lot of guilt in communities about
wanted to make sure I mean I think any parent
would wanna make sure their kid is okay.
- And parents can we talk about this a little on our chat
Parents have a tough time
and I struggled with this in my practice too.
Parents have a tough time admitting something's wrong
with their child.
Because A they want the best for them
they want them to feel the best be the best
but also then the guilt of what did I do .
- Right
- When they get personal
- Right
- When it could just be hey
five other people in our family have depression
I'm more predisposed I also live a pretty stressful life.
Poof Ta Da.
- That's right
- Ya Know
- That's right and how easy was that.
I mean I think that
really being able to have that conversation.
And have it process and go yeah
so what so big deal so I'm gonna deal with that
like I would do anything else.
So that's what we try to do on the show
and that's what I really try to do in my own life.
Is you know we make jokes now
whenever my kids are cranky about something.
I'm like I'm putting ten dollars in your therapist account
you can talk to her all about me.
You know like whatever.
So that these are just conversations
that we're having out there that this is okay
this is all part of life
- Totally we all feel bad sometimes
we all argue we all you know have our own struggles.
And I did love something
I wonder if you'll articulate it one more time
because it was really brave when we were chatting
- Of course!
- Was about it being the start of a conversation
- Yes yes
- And having to we want them to be where we are
remember that
- Right yes well in general I do feel
look we talk about a lot of difficult subjects on the show .
And we have a teenager coming out
and we have the aftermath of that and how
her family deals with it
as well as how she personally deals with it.
The same is true with the mental health conversation.
We have a mother on the show that is very reminiscent
of a lot of parents.
That I have talked to friends about
a lot of parents in communities of color specifically.
That this is a newer conversation for them
and so we wanna meet people where they are.
We want to respect the fact that it might take them a minute
to get over their own guilt their own sense of
what did I do wrong.
Or how can I see this through a lens
where I understand it.
And it takes time for us to walk towards each other
on that road
And so if where able with our little show
make you laugh but also make you have a conversation
with somebody in your life.
Maybe you see somebody struggling
and you don't know how to reach out to them.
This show might be a way where you can watch it with them
and then have a little conversation afterwards.
If we're able to provide that
my Gosh that's all we really would love.
Is to sort of do something that's entertaining
but also has a conscious and also is trying
to move forward a conversation about
happiness and joy and living your best life
- Yeah and I love it and I just love it
because I know a lot of you reach out and ask.
Hey I really wanna talk to my mom about this
or I wanna talk to my friend about this and I don't know how
or someone in my life is hurting how do I help them.
And I just really love the idea that the show could be
kinda a medium or a caveat to that conversation
that could start it be a calais
Because I know it's really hard
and I think something that's really great
that you mentioned when we were talking
on our little fire side chat.
Was that you know you continue to have conversations
with your parents.
- Yes
- Because we can't expect them to
understand and get right with us
- It's not one conversation
it's not one conversation with anybody in your life.
And so I think the more we
It's funny cause I was having a panic attack once.
When I was coming in and my Husband was talking me down.
Cause he knows the tools to help me.
So I was walking into the office though
and I sat opposite of my Partner Mike Royce.
And I was like
(phone noises)
Okay thank you and that was a panic attack.
He was sitting across from me going what's going on.
"What do I do how can I help"
I was like no no its gone its done
- Yeah
- It's done
- I have my tools I have my people
I know what to do its over.
- Yeah
- And he was like
And so it was great because it started a conversation
between us and we made an episode about it in season three.
That talks all about someone having a panic attack
how people can be of service
when you see someone going though a panic attack.
- Yeah
- And that's a episode we got a lot of social media love
about as well
- I'm sure
because I think these are important conversations.
- Yeah
- A lot of people don't know how to start that conversation
or they're scared about what it says about them
or what it means
- Right
- Cause the stigmas still exist.
- Right
- But it's people like you I feel like you know
we're advocates together it's really great what you do.
And make sure you check out the show its wonderful.
- "One Day at a Time" on Netflix three seasons
we're streaming now
- Yes so you can do it on
I'll put the link on the top of the description
so you can watch.
Thank you for taking the time
- Thank you
- And thank you for what you do
- Thank you for what you do love vets
- Of course, thanks for watching and I'll see you next time
Bye, and we'll also keep eating
- Yeah of course
- [Katie] That was so good awesome