Heya playa, have you ever had a crush on a super hot girl but thought to yourself I'm weird,
I'm quirky, I'm nerdy, there's no chance a girl like that would ever go for a guy like me.
Well, I've got news for you, it is possible to land a hot
girl if you're a nerdy guy and I'll tell you how.
The first thing we need to acknowledge here
is that not every single girl that you like is going to like you back.
There are going to be girls that just don't connect with
what you're bringing to the table and that's okay.
I know, it sucks because you do have that crush on them but you have to accept it.
Now that that part's out of the way let's take a realistic look at the social pressures that
affect hot and popular girls that may be influencing how they perceive you.
You might be thinking they're hot and attractive, people adore them,
people like being around them, and things just come naturally and easy for them.
Well, there is an element of truth in that attractive people do get better
treatment in our society but they still have to succumb to social pressures.
There are high expectations put on super attractive people,
who they hang out with, how they dress, and how they upkeep their attractiveness.
And they're constantly judged for that singular factor and a lot of
their other personal factors tend to get ignored.
For a super hot girl that's aware of how she looks, she's going to recognize that she's being
judged on that criteria alone, and because of that she's gonna get pushed into certain social circles
and certain social activities that are considered traditionally cool.
If she has a hobby or interest that's not considered conventionally cool
she's probably gonna hide or suppress that because it's gonna affect her public image
and so that ultimately changes how she perceives you and the things that you like.
There's a huge stigma around certain hobbies that people
may have in society that they may just consider childish or immature or weird.
If you look behind me you'll see tons and tons of action figures.
Where do you think that falls on the line?
But I want to be honest here, any girl that I've ever liked or hooked up with or dated
has known about my hobby of collecting toys and it's never affected my relationship with them.
I've only known one girl in my life that has called
me childish and immature for collecting toys.
I talk more about that in the video over here.
And the reason why this stigma exists
is because certain hobbies are considered isolating and not social.
Some things you do in private by yourself and they require so much
intricate detail in explaining it to the average person that they just get lost and overwhelmed
whereas hobbies that tend to appeal to the most attractive people are usually social in nature:
sports, fashion, clothing, makeup, and celebrity culture.
So what chance does a guy like you who's into some very very nerdy stuff have
with getting a girl who's way over here who's into the complete opposite things?
The good news is that society is evolving.
Things are changing in your favor, lots of nerdy hobbies are becoming more mainstream.
Social media has made it so easy to find creators all over the internet
that are into all kinds of things, science and math and rock collecting,
whatever it is that you're into there's someone out there who's an influencer in it.
And because of that, we're destigmatizing the disconnect
that existed before and building real bridges.
Two simple examples of that are comic books and video games.
There are tons of hot girls today that love Marvel movies and openly play video games but if you're
a nerdy guy there's still three things you need to do to make sure you can land a girl like that.
Number one, don't waste your time with girls that are too image-obsessed.
There are still girls that are not on that progressive train and will judge you for your
nerdy interest so they're not the people worth pursuing no matter how hot you think they are.
Number two, talk about the reasons and feelings behind why you like the thing that you like
instead of going on a long monologue explaining
the deep history behind this anime series that you're obsessed with.
Tell them about the characters in the show,
the hard decisions they have to make, why that personally impacts you,
the feelings you get when you watch it and why you're so drawn into it and inspired by that show.
That conversation is going to be a lot more fruitful,
especially if the girl you're talking to is a mainstream casual kind of person
and has no clue about anything that you're really going into detail about.
Number three, be more social with your hobbies and your interests.
Nowadays there are tons of Discord servers and Instagram fan pages
and online communities that you can join that really center around the things that you like.
If you get more involved with those types of people,
chances are you're going to come across a girl that is also part of that community that you
could have a better chance with because you both have those same mutual hobbies.
It is not impossible to land a hot girl, no matter how nerdy you are.
Sometimes it's insecurity and self-doubt that hold you back so put your confidence on display,
let them see that you're proud of the things you like, you're open to talking about them,
but most importantly you're open to sharing with them and learning about their interests too.
It's that mutual connection and mutual openness
that's gonna allow the two of you to develop something much much deeper.
All of that is a really good starting point but
there's still a lot more that you can do to land a hot girl.
In fact, I'm gonna link up a video over here on the screen where I'm gonna walk
through more steps that you can start taking to get the girl that you want.
Check that video out and I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.