- Hey my friends.
So we're gonna be reacting today to some
of the best relationship and dating advice on TikTok.
We had such a great time doing this
before, we brought it back for more.
So I hope you enjoy these
and pay specific attention to number four.
Check it out.
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My name is Matt Boggs and I'm the founder
of the Love and Relationships Division here
at the Brave Thinking Institute.
And our mission is empowering people to create
and live a life they love.
And that includes your love life.
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because every week we bring you videos to empower you
in your love life.
And so today we're gonna do something fun
where we're gonna look at some TikTok videos together
and see some of the best relationship advice,
according to my team, that's out there.
And see if we can plus it, see if we agree with it,
disagree with it.
I'm gonna be interested
in hearing your take as well in the comment section below
but let's check out video number one.
Here we go.
♪ Let's go left foot, right foot levitatin' ♪
♪ Pop stars, Dua Lipa with Dababy ♪
♪ I had to lace my shoes for all the blessings I was chasin' ♪
♪ If I ever slip, I'll fall into a better situation ♪
♪ So catch up, go put some cheese on it ♪
♪ Get out and get your bread up ♪
♪ They always leave when you fall, but you run together ♪
♪ Weight of the world on my shoulders, I kept my head up ♪
♪ Now, baby, stand up, 'cause, girl, you ♪
That's good
♪ I want you, baby (Hey) ♪
♪ My sugarboo, ♪
Take up space
♪ The Milky Way, we're renegading ♪
- Oh this is really...
I like it. I like it.
This is so good because it reminds me,
I did a photo shoot with this photographer.
I did two actually.
One with one photographer.
A great photographer, but a bad like photo shoot coach.
Because look at this, what she's talking about the angles.
How many of you actually when watching her scrunch down
like you noticed, she was gonna say, "Sit up straight."
And so like you all, you sat up straight.
Did you?
Because I totally did that.
I was like, Oh, posture.
But so on my photo shoot, the first photo shoot I did
like some of the photos were good,
but a lot of them were
like awkward looking and kinda weird 'cause I'm not a model.
I don't know what looks good on camera.
Second one I went out with,
the guy was a great photographer, but also great coach.
And he is like, "Hey Matt, put your hands
in your pockets like this and just tuck your hands
in your back pockets and look this way."
And he's taking these photos.
I'm like, "Dang man, these look amazing.
Like you're making me look so good."
I say, "How did you learn this?"
He's like, "I took a class
on body posture and it's all about angles."
And so I totally agree with this.
And if you don't know, you don't know
you're never gonna just discover this on your own.
So I love that she's giving these actual tangible examples.
Let's keep watching.
♪ Moonlight, you're my starlight ♪
♪ I need you all night, come on ♪
Love it.
It's a great body posture.
When at dinner.
Touch your shoulder.
Directs the attention towards the neck, the collarbone.
Very sexy.
There we go look at the eyes look up.
(Matt chuckles)
So, did you notice how she totally did the eyes too?
My wife will do this to me now and it still drives me wow.
Like she'll put her head down and look up
and then my wife will like bat her eyes at me.
It's like, I don't know what it is.
It still works.
So, I dig it.
This is great.
And it just shows the importance of knowing.
If you don't know this stuff it's okay,
if you've never been taught,
but getting little tricks like this, little body position
and knowing those angles really can make a great difference.
So kudos to you.
Great music by the way.
Love it.
All right, let's take a look at number two.
- If your girlfriend is as indecisive as mine
when it comes to picking what she wants to eat.
Here's a tip for you.
Baby.
- What?
- Guess where we're going to eat?
- Where?
- Guess.
- Raising Canes?
- Yes - Really?
- How'd you know?
- I dunno.
- And that's how we do that.
- Oh, look how happy she is.
She's like, "Yeah, he read my mind."
(Matt chuckles)
Oh, this is great.
So here's what's fun about this.
Like what does he want, this guy in this video,
he wants to please his woman.
What I love about this is he wants to please his woman.
He wants to take her to a place that she wants to go,
and yet sometimes it's so hard on us guys
because we don't know what it is that you want.
Or same thing, if you wanna please him
and he's like,
"I don't know, I don't know where I wanna go."
Like, you're like, how am I supposed..
What am I supposed to work with?
So, one of the greatest things that you can do
is to know exactly what it is that you want when it comes
to food or what you want to do this weekend,
or at least give him some options.
A great thing to do would be like, "Hey babe, you know
like I'm up for something adventurous this weekend.
Like could you create something adventurous?
Like I'm really feeling like if we went
for a hike or we went like paddle boarding or we did this.
Would you create something like that for us?"
Now you've given him three ideas that all
of which you'd be happy with
and all he has to do is pick one and plan it and take you.
It's a great way of feminine attraction,
igniting his masculine energy
of wanting to provide you with something that you want.
This is great.
Sometimes I'll do with my wife, I'll say, "Hey honey,"
I'll pick like three places to eat.
I'll say, "we could go here, here, here.
What would you love?"
And she's like, "I want to go to that one."
Great. And I'll make the reservations and we'll go.
But this is a definitely a ninja strategy here.
All right, let's take a look at number three.
It says three things all single woman women need to know.
Alright, we'll check it out.
- Three things I wish I'd known when I was young and single.
First of all, men don't fall in love through sex,
they fall in love through trust and loyalty.
And they actually don't trust a woman who gives
them sex early.
Secondly, men don't fall in love because they met the one
when they're at their state of readiness
they take whoever's up at bat.
Looking for a man at his state of readiness is key and...
- Well let me pause on that one.
There's some truth to that.
And, Dr. Wendy Walsh, I loved your first one.
We'll speak to that in just a moment.
But there is definitely truth to that, that a man can miss
out on an amazing relationship because he's not ready.
And often there are stages for men where
in the beginning stages they're building their kingdom
they're conquering the world.
They're not ready to have a relationship, settle
down and have kids and build that family, yet.
If he's not in that mindset, he can pass it up.
But it doesn't mean the way she kind of puts it
is when he's ready, he's gonna look around
and kind of pick the first available one and say, you're it.
That's not how it works.
Guys would stay single if they're not able to
meet someone that they're really in love with.
The sex example is absolutely true.
Men don't fall in love because of sex.
It's actually, she says that trust and loyalty,
I would say one more is even more important than those two,
and that's connection.
And that he feels emotionally connected to you,
spiritually and mentally connected to you.
Those are gonna help him fall in love.
And what's fascinating is actually delaying sex
can help him deepen his emotional connection
because he can convert some
of that sexual energy into emotional depth.
So let's see where the third one is here.
- Women who get commitment, get it because they ask for it.
And they're not afraid to dump men who won't give it
'cause they know there's plenty more where he came from.
- Bam. I like that.
I like the, like the mic drop at the end of this video.
Dr. Wendy Walsh, She knows what she's talking about.
A hundred percent agree with that, last one.
Women who get commitment is because they ask for it.
In other words, what I like to say is,
you're willing to scare off the wrong guy,
so that you can make room for the right guy.
Do not be worried about asking for what you want
in fear that he doesn't want the same thing.
'Cause by definition, if you would scare him off
that would make him the wrong guy.
So I love it.
Three very powerful things and I believe that wisdom
is learning from other people's experience.
And so she's saying here are three things that she
wished she knew that when she was younger.
So the more we can adopt that earlier, the better.
All right, beautiful.
We've got one more here, and this one is,
"Don't be his last minute option."
All right, let's see what this one says.
♪ In a minute, I'ma need a sentimental ♪
♪ Man or woman to pump me up ♪
♪ Feelin' fussy, walkin' in my Balenci-ussies ♪
♪ Tryna bring out the fabulous ♪
♪ 'Cause I give a fuck way too much ♪
♪ I'ma need like two shots in my cup ♪
♪ Wanna get up ♪
- Bam. Love this.
Look, you teach people how to treat you,
by the treatment that you're willing to accept.
If you jump at an invitation
that he sends you last minute,
then you're training him
to send you last minute invitations.
So I love this where you say,
"Hey, I'm sorry I'm already out."
Even if you're not out, if you're home, but you're like
I don't want to go out with him at this last minute.
Say, "Hey, sorry, already have plans."
Even if it's you at home
with your favorite Netflix show or whatever it is.
Hey, I already have plans.
But the one thing I would add
to what she said as the text is,
but I would love to hang out with some more advanced notice.
That way you let him know what your standard is,
but you also keep the door open for him reaching out again.
So, these were great.
My question for you is,
what's some of the best advice you've ever received
from someone else who's already living the kind
of relationship that they want?
What's some of the best advice you've ever received?
Maybe from your mom or your dad, or your grandparents,
or an aunt, uncle, somebody who's got a great relationship.
Go ahead and post that in the comment section below.
I hope this serves you.
I appreciate you.
Here is to your amazing love life.
Thanks for watching.
I'll see you soon.
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