Self-esteem comes from what you experience about yourself.
See, someone will tell your whole life,
you're a piece of crap and part of you can go,
you're full of it.
I'm gonna show you.
Lots of people have done that.
They never bought it.
Or someone tell you're beautiful your whole life.
You go, I'm not really beautiful.
So what people tell you doesn't matter at all.
It's what you stack.
It's what you assemble.
It's what you create.
It's the habit of what you put in your head.
And today, I don't blame you because
we got a whole culture that's always blaming somebody else
for something in their life.
Don't allow anybody else's opinions.
Don't allow what it says on the internet.
Don't allow the research, don't allow what anybody
out there tells you is possible or not possible
for you.
When you believe in you,
you need no other to believe in you
because others really have no say in who you will become.
Only you have that say,
only you can decide
if others' opinions become reality
or you create your own fate.
They wanna see you fail, but you are a diamond
and you succeed because you get back up after you fail.
And you will get back up again and again
until your arms are raised with the win.
It is literally an opinion
it's negative bulls***
And it means nothing to you.
It doesn't mean anything.
It doesn't affect, unless you're the type sick,
twisted type of person like me
that likes to let it fuel you, you let it,
it's like your, you know, it's like your fuel
and other than that, it's useless.
It means nothing.
You need to focus on believing in yourself,
taking pride in yourself.
You do what you gotta do.
You do what you need to do
and feed your ideas,
feed your dreams because they're starving right now.
You can't push yourself forward
if all you thinking about is the doubts
and the negative things that people are saying.
Because you're relying more on their ideas
their dreams of you
instead of you relying on your own dreams
and ideas of yourself.
They will tell you that your dream is too big.
They will tell you that your destiny
cannot be fulfilled.
They will tell you it is impossible to accomplish
what do you have set out to accomplish.
But it's not about what they say.
It's about what you say.
I believe that you were born to triumph
over every demon, over every devil, over every addiction.
No one will deny me.
No one will define me,
and no one will tell me who and what I am and can be.
Belief will change my will.
It has move continents, it has move countries
It has put man on the moon.
One of the most profound discoveries
in all of human history is that “thought is creative.”
Thoughts held in mind, produce after their kind.
Like begets like.
Your thoughts become your realities.
You do become what you think about most of the time.
You cannot harbor one kind of thought and experience a different kind of existence.
This law of cause and effect works perfectly,
everywhere and always, for everyone.
The development of unshakable self-confidence, therefore,
begins with you taking full, complete, systematic and purposeful
control of the contents of your conscious mind,
disciplining yourself to think consistently
about only the things that you desire and to resolutely keep your mind off the things that you fear.
All of life is from the inside out.
It is from the inner to the outer.
The law of correspondence, perhaps one of the most important of all the mental laws,
says that “your outer world will be a reflection of your inner world.”
What you see on the outside is largely a reflection of what is going on inside you.
This is not only true for you;
it is true for everyone around you.
It starts with yourself, man.
You gotta start diving into those things
that you are afraid of.
You don't gain confidence
by going to the spot that makes you feel good.
It's gonna be a false reality.
And the second life gives you that challenge.
All you want to do is go back to what makes you confidence
or what gave you confidence is that happy spot.
No, what gives you confidence,
what gave me confidence was spending years
at a kitchen table, trying to learn
how to read and write all my own
realizing I can't learn the way you learn.
I can't,
but I can learn
what gives you confidence not being afraid
is overcoming the fear.
I used to stutter severely bad.
So right now I don't know how many people are gonna watch this.
You know what gives me confidence
is no I no longer care if
I sit and start stuttering to you.
Yeah, that's what gives me confidence
is facing these things, overcoming them
and maybe not overcoming them every day,
but facing them
and face them and face them pretty soon like this.
You know what, man, this is where it's at.
It's not in that comfort zone.
It's in the discomfort zone
is where my confidence is getting built.
That's where it's getting built,
but people want to, they want an easier answer.
There has to be an easier way.
It's not.
I'm sorry.
I searched for it my entire life.
You cheated, you lied.
I lied.
I did everything.
And I still felt empty.
I walk around with a backpack with all my stuff in it and no car.
Right.
And I walk around, happiest person in the world.
Have nothing.
Happy as hell.
It's because,
I found out the whole key to life.
It's not in all that
you have to face yourself.
So many people live to be a hundred years old
and they die miserable having everything
because they never examined.
I caught my live autopsy.
You never examine this.
Happiness, peace, enlightenment.
It's all up here, man.
It's all up here.
If I start talking like this, people go,
man, you know, I don't know.
It's the truth, man.
Yeah, it is true.
It's all up here.
You just gotta be willing to go and face it.
And that's the hard part.
If you want to enjoy self confidence on the outside,
you must practice complete integrity on the inside.
The foundation of self confidence
is for you to live your life consistent with your innermost values and principles
while thinking and acting in harmony with your highest aspirations.
Men and women with the most rock solid self confidence
are those who are absolutely clear
about what it is they believe to be right and good and worthwhile
and who live their lives consistent with these values.
Everything they do or say is an expression of their innermost convictions.
Your whole world can fall down around you, but as long as you know
that you are doing the right thing,
you will have a deep inner sense of calm that will manifest itself
in an attitude of confidence and self,
in an attitude of confidence and self assurance in any situation.
You will have many ups and downs in life,
but what is most important is that you remain true to yourself.
Your true values are only expressed
in your actions, in what you do.
You can tell what you truly believe
by observing what you do in any situation
in which you have to make a choice, especially when you are under stress
and pulled in two directions at once
with opposing demands or responsibilities.
This is when your true values are revealed.
The action that you take in any given situation
will tell you which of your values is uppermost
or whether you have any values at all.
It is not what you say, hope, wish, or intend,
but only what you do that counts.
Your choices of the actions you take
tell you unerringly who you really are.
You can develop within yourself a superb set of values
by acting as though you already had those values.
You can develop integrity and courage and
compassion and confidence by behaving
as though you already had these qualities.
The more you act the part,
especially when you demonstrate these qualities under stress
or when you feel like doing or saying something else,
the more rapidly these qualities
become a permanent part of your mental makeup.
The more you practice good values, the more
rapidly you become a truly superior person.
The keys to developing the unshakable self confidence
That will make everything else possible for you are
self control, self mastery, and self discipline.
Self confidence can come directly
by behaving in a self confident manner.
But more often it comes indirectly by doing and saying
the things and practicing the behaviors that lead to self confidence.
The most important self development behavior
is living consistently with your highest values at every opportunity.
Appreciate how special you are.
There will never be anyone exactly like you.
You were given special gifts and talents to share with the world.
And even though everybody has special gifts and talents,
nobody will use theirs quite the same way you do.
You have a way of being in the world
and a perspective that's unique to you.
You are the only one who thinks your thoughts
the way you think them.
You have created your own unique reality
and are living your life according to your own unique path.
You are the only you that will ever be.
You're kind of a big deal.