So you want your ex back, but you don’t know what to say to them.
You ponder and ponder and ponder, but you’re drawing blanks.
Suddenly, out of the blue, you get a text message or email from your ex.
Your heart races, but you just don’t have the faintest clue what to say to them…
So what do you do?
What can you say to them that will make him or her want to give your relationship a second
chance?
Well, today, you’re in luck.
Because in this video, I’ll teach you exactly how to respond to your ex to ensure you have
the best possible chance of rekindling that spark and getting a second chance.
By the way, my name’s Brad Browning.
I’m a relationship and marriage expert from Vancouver, Canada.
I’ve spent the last decade of my life studying why people break up… and I’ve developed
a system to REVERSE these breakups.
I’ll tell you a little bit more about my system in just a minute…
So let’s get started.
In my other videos, I talk a little bit about what you need to do directly after your breakup.
If you haven’t watched those videos yet, then I highly encourage you to check them
out first before watching this video.
In some of my other YouTube videos, I talk a little bit about what I call the “No Contact”
period and why it’s one of the most important tools to use directly after a breakup, along
with several other useful post-breakup tips.
Now it’s important to keep things in perspective.
Just because your ex messaged you does NOT mean he or she wants to get back together
right away.
There are a myriad of reasons why your ex needs to get in contact with you, so don’t
overreact and keep your cool.
For now, your goal is to simply establish positive rapport with your ex.
Remember, there’s no “secret sentence” that you can say to fix things and establish
a new, healthy relationship with your ex right now – getting your ex back will most likely
take some time.
So without further adieu, here are 5 tips to help you respond to your ex’s text messages.
1.)
Don’t reply right away.
If you’re responding to your ex’s text messages within seconds, you’ll look like
you’re desperately waiting for your ex to contact you.
Instead, for now, wait an hour or more to reply to your ex’s text messages.
Or if your ex calls, don’t be afraid to let the call go to voicemail and then call
your ex back.
The goal here is to regain the power that you’ve lost during the breakup by showing
your ex that you’re completely over him or her.
Now, don’t make it seem too obvious that you’re purposely delaying your replies or
ignoring your ex... it has to look natural – so mix it up a little bit and keep your
ex guessing.
2.)
Always sound upbeat and positive.
This one’s pretty self-explanatory, but I see a lot of my clients try to incite an
argument or cause drama as soon as they’re in contact with their ex.
I can tell you that there’s nothing less attractive to your ex than starting another
war with him or her.
So remember, never try and confront your ex about your past relationship, don’t ask
who they’ve been dating, and last but not least, do NOT ask them for a second chance
just yet.
I know it’ll be difficult for some of you to do, but this is very important right now.
I mean, put yourself in your ex’s shoes for just a minute -- do you want to talk to
a person that’s constantly trying to stir the pot?
Of course not.
People generally want to be surrounded with happy, positive people… so do your best
to be that kind of person.
3.)
Show your ex that you’re keeping busy.
Not only do you need to sound positive and upbeat, but you need to convey to him or her
that you only have a limited amount of time.
If you always seem available to chat, it might look like that you have no life or that you
haven’t been able to do anything since the breakup.
If you’ve watched my other videos, then you know that a huge part of making your ex
want you again is to display what I call “Attractive Characteristics.”
One of the most “Attractive Characteristics” you can portray is to always be busy and look
like you have a life.
Now, I have a huge list of these “Attractive Characteristics” that I’d like to share
with you but I don’t have time in this video.
If you want to learn more about them, then I encourage you to watch the free video on
my website, BreakupBrad.com.
In that video, I’ll teach you my 3-step plan to ensure that your ex feels more attracted
to you than ever.
Again, the URL to the video is BreakupBrad.com, so head over to that website right after this
video.
4.)
Keep your messages brief.
To start, you want to keep all interactions with your ex as brief as possible.
Don’t be curt or rude, but don’t bend over backwards to tell your ex everything
that’s going on in your life.
By doing so, you might blow it and your ex may get an inkling that you miss him or her.
Don’t let this happen.
Instead, send short messages with interesting questions to keep the conversation going.
If your ex is sending YOU short messages, make sure you don’t give in and force a
conversation.
You’re busy too, remember?
You can always initiate a more meaningful conversation another time.
5.)
Finally, make sure you’re the one to end the conversation.
Remember, in order to take the power back between you and your ex, you need to be the
one calling the shots.
You need to be the one in control.
That means that you need to begin and end conversations on your terms.
So once you feel like the conversation is about to go dull or sour, then quickly say
that you have some plans with a few friends later… and then tell them to text you the
next day.
You don’t have to say anything more or anything less, just keep it simple and move on.
Of course, this isn’t an exhaustive list of tips on how you can respond to your ex’s
text messages, but it’s a good start.
I know, you’re probably brimming with questions at this point… so if you’re wanting to
ask me a question, then please feel free to ask them in the comments section below.
Alternatively, you can hire me as your breakup coach and ask me questions directly.
For more details on how you can get personal e-mail coaching from me, just go to www.BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
Again that URL is BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
That’s all for this video, folks!
Talk to you soon.