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Have you ever had a new friend or a close family member
you didn't feel safe around?
Do they make you feel uneasy?
An unsafe person can turn out to be anyone in your life
and generally, your gut will know about it
before maybe even you do.
What exactly is an unsafe person though?
An unsafe person is anyone who makes you feel unsafe
physically or emotionally.
They might be verbally or emotionally abusive
or tactful and manipulative.
A relationship with an unsafe person can feel one sided,
draining and toxic.
Do you think you might have an unsafe person in your life
but wanna know for sure?
When you're aware of the signs
that you're dealing with an unsafe person,
this can help you set healthy boundaries
in your relationships
and can also help you protect yourself.
So here are five signs you're dealing with an unsafe person.
Number one, they use dishonesty to their advantage.
It's not uncommon for an unsafe person to lie
even over small, insignificant matters.
Unsafe people frequently live without hesitation.
They may have made empty promises to you
or lied their way out of a conflict
or lied to you so they could manipulate you
into doing what they want.
They may also make up things about themselves
to keep up appearances in front of you.
When confronted about these lies,
an unsafe person may choose to continue
to drag out their lies
in order to avoid being caught red handed.
When you notice someone is being dishonest with you,
it's not something to be ignored.
A lack of honesty in a relationship is unfair
and should be addressed.
Number two, they don't own up to their faults.
Being at fault definitely isn't something that's favorable,
but it happens to the best of us.
It can make you feel embarrassed,
ashamed, and uncomfortable,
but even so these feelings shouldn't serve as an excuse
to avoid taking accountability
for something you've done wrong.
An unsafe person avoids owning up to their wrongdoings.
They might pinpoint the blame on others, refuse to apologize
or fail to acknowledge their faults at all
because of their self-centered nature.
Dealing with an unsafe person
who demonstrates these tendencies
may be difficult to confront
because changing old habits is not easy,
especially for someone who doesn't want to.
When addressed, they can become defensive
and quick to turn the conversation into an argument.
Number three, they refuse to walk in another person's shoes.
It's very likely for an unsafe person
to think only about themselves
with little to no regard for others.
When it comes to someone else's wellbeing,
they may choose to turn a blind eye
or fail to recognize how that person may feel
even when they're the reason for someone's low spirits.
This might stem from their poor ability to self-reflect
and practice sympathy.
Unsafe people may do things that disrespect your boundaries
and not see anything wrong with it.
They'll invalidate your struggles by telling you that
they have it worse and wanna humiliate you.
Number four, they purposefully humiliate and shame you.
There are many ways an unsafe person can humiliate you.
They might joke about your insecurities around other people
compare you to someone else
or thoughtlessly spread secrets that you've told them.
It can feel like your humiliation and shame
can be for their own benefit sometimes.
An unsafe person often fails
to consider your feelings and emotions without acknowledging
how their actions affect you,
leaving you feeling mistreated and hurt by them.
And number five, they demand your loyalty.
Unsafe people want your utmost loyalty,
even if they don't reciprocate it.
They might expect you to fully trust them.
If they jumped off a cliff,
they'd want you to follow right after.
An unsafe person may guilt you
into making you feel like you owe them
as a way to gain control over you.
This is especially common among unsafe parents.
A parent who is unsafe,
establishes a clear difference in power or hierarchy
between them and their child,
where their child stands powerless beneath them.
If you find that you have an unsafe parent,
you may relate to hearing them use the excuse
that since they gave birth to you,
you owe them for your existence.
Unsafe people who demand your loyalty without earning it
display toxic behavior and should not be allowed
to take advantage of you.
Did any of these signs remind you of anyone in your life?
Let us know in the comments below.
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