hi beautiful people as promised today
we're talking about whether or not being
lgbtq+ is a sin and I have to be honest
with you guys and let you know I cried
multiple times researching this video I
was so desperate to prove that being gay
isn't a sin and not to stick it to the
man that says that it is but because
there is so much pain on both sides of
this argument no mother wants to kick
their gay child out of the house and no
one no one wants to be called an
abomination
I am a heterosexual Christian woman who
does not believe being gay is a sin in
that video I will explain why but this
video is dedicated to any of you that
felt afraid or uncomfortable or even
hateful when I said those words being
gay is not a sin that said in my eyes
there are three Christian perspectives
that are anti LGBTQ number one the
literalist girl defined falls into this
category one man one woman for an entire
lifetime
that is our creators good and beautiful
plan for marriage so this verse really
informs us of a lot of things that
honestly aren't exactly politically
correct not very popular right now this
is God's definition the Creator I know
they take a lot of flack for their
perspective but I want you guys to
understand that it's actually coming
from a place of love from your view it
might be a very warped love but in
Christian Church we're taught that gay
people might suffer an eternity and hell
when I heard that as a kid I was
terrified and I wanted to get everyone
saved because I loved people
number two is the conflicted I used to
fall into this category this is a
Christian that reads the scriptures and
it's just devastated that those
scriptures are in there they experience
cognitive dissonance when it comes to
these subjects of homosexuality they
look at gay people and think that
doesn't look like rape
and murderer and thievery why is it a
sin it's a conflicting feeling and it
hurts and I know the church has broken
so many hearts but really were only
given those two options a third being
fine believe being gay isn't a sin but
get out you're not a Christian the third
view and the only one I will never honor
and that is completely counter to
Christ's teachings is the homophobic
guys have to understand that homophobic
people are terrified on the inside and
they lash out with rage and anger
because they're trying to protect
themselves when you're confident in your
sexual identity in your religious
identity you cannot be homophobic when
you know Christ's love it's impossible
if you use the word FA G you are scared
and you fall into this category
the literalist and the conflictive also
lash out when you call them homophobic
because they truly aren't they are
simply honoring the Bible and trying
their best and oftentimes like the
mother kicking her son out of the house
it's causing them pain too so this video
is for all of you guys even the
homophobic I pray with all my heart that
you hear me out and listen I have six
questions for you number one has your
pastor ever given a sermon on the sin of
divorce I know that we as a church
frowned upon divorce and say it's only
acceptable with infidelity but have you
ever been alienated from the church
kicked out of your home or made to feel
ashamed for getting a divorce
have you seen bakers refused to make
cakes for people who are on their second
wedding
have you read countless articles
debating whether or not to attend a
second wedding have you seen picket
signs condemning divorced people to hell
if your answer is no and for me it's No
- all of the above
do you ever wonder why there are six
scriptures that mention homosexuality
and I will address those in my second
video but for now let's talk about what
Jesus said about being gay oh yeah he
didn't say anything he said nothing
about being gay but you know what he did
divorce matthew 19:9 i tell you that
anyone who divorces his wife except for
sexual immorality and marries another
woman commits adultery an adultery is in
the Ten Commandments it's a top 10 sin
Christians you can no longer claim that
you're anti LGBTQ movement is about the
preservation of marriage unless I hear
an equal if not louder battle cry
against divorce you're being a hypocrite
my second question is are you afraid you
literalists talk about how we are called
to rebuke sinners and save them from an
eternity in hell and my heart goes out
to you
sermons have put that pressure and that
weight on us to save the world when in
reality only the Holy Spirit can do that
so when I see you yelling that being gay
is a sin or that gay people are gonna
burn in hell I only see scared people
further pushing away the lgbtq+
community I'm a relationship person I
love Jesus my friends know it and
they've been making fun of me for it for
years and they are gay straight trans by
Buddhists atheists Christians everything
you can imagine I have never once yelled
at any of them about God but when
someone's in trouble who do you think
they call for a prayer you also might be
afraid because your world is a bit small
and that's not an insult
either you might have grown up in a
small town married your high school
sweetheart and not been exposed to a lot
of diversity and seeing someone
different can just make you scared it's
like the animal in us that recognizes
difference and gets territorial and
afraid
but when you're afraid the answer is not
to alienate LGBTQ community if you are
refusing to attend a gay wedding in the
name of God you're actually doing the
opposite of what Jesus would do Jesus
never run from sinners he drank wine
with them he loved them he sat with them
spoke to them healed them regardless of
their circumstance I found this clip and
I loved it watch how this man reflects
the love of Jesus to both a homosexual
couple and to a homophobic
I'm not the one in public kissing all
over another woman in front of my kids
that's not actually have morals and
standards prompting this man to take a
surprising approach believe Jesus what
are you trying to say don't judge
I try not to judge the people a few
minutes later Donovan
returns and delivers this note it says
hello friends I know it doesn't mean
much but I love you all you have a
beautiful family and I pray that one
person judgmental intolerance does not
in any way put a damper on your hearts
or minds this actress who in real life
happens to be gay is purely touch beyond
your role and then I want you to
consider you are visual creatures when
you see a gay couple you may
accidentally imagine them having sex and
if you're straights that will offend
your senses that's not your cup of tea
you don't like it just don't ever let
your distaste turn into disgust rage and
hate also I've heard churches wrongfully
compare homosexual behavior to drug
abuse and this is why parents kick their
kids out of the house because they don't
want to be in a blurs this behavior
creates a staggering amounts of
homelessness for LGBTQ youth also that
is a horrible and inaccurate comparison
even if you personally believe being gay
rots the soul the difference between
that and your child's suffering a drug
addiction is that drugs have very real
very tangible side effects my third
question why is the church so obsessed
with sex anyway these numbers might not
be exact but they're close in the Bible
there are 58 verses on pride 90 on
fearlessness the word love is said 310
times and there are nine verses on
sexual immorality there are plenty of
other sins that are blatantly harmful
like rape and murder and adultery and
thievery and in the Bible
besides honoring God taking care of the
poor is the most exalted human action so
why is homosexuality our number one
topic I have a theory I believe that
many of us Christians make an idol out
of our sexual purity when I was saving
myself for marriage
had a sense that I was a good girl I'm a
good Christian because
it's blatant you can tell if you're
messing up or if you're doing well even
when I was having sex with in marriage I
couldn't tell if I was a good girl
anymore
the church has made an idol out of
sexual purity if we lived by Jesus's
example we wouldn't be obsessing over
every elements of our sex life and every
elements of everyone else's sex life we
would be healing the sick praying
constantly loving everyone forgiving
everyone and rebuking crazy religious
people that's all Jesus did fourth
question are you believing any lies
there will be persecution of Christians
for our stand as someone with a lot of
gay friends I can promise you look me in
the eye there is no secret gay agenda
where they want to burn Bibles and take
away our Christian rights and shut down
Christian businesses they simply want
equal rights and if you don't believe me
ask some gay people in the comments gay
marriage being legalized is not to
oppress the religious but we as the
religious have imposed our own personal
convictions on the lgbtq+ community and
thereby oppressed them they do not have
equal rights Garfunkel and Oates put it
best love might be a privilege but
marriage is a right which brings me to
watch what happens love affairs between
men and animals break down berries there
have been groups that have been trying
to push that for a long time well they
listen see Christians we have to stop
using this argument because consensual
homosexuality is a victimless sin if it
is one it is wholly unfair and
inaccurate to bunch those who express
pedophilia and bestiality with lgbtq+
community power is the cousin of evil
bestiality and pedophilia both assert
power over the powerless they are
blatantly evil an animal or a child
cannot consent to sex so no one no
matter how liberal will ever allow
legislation that condones rape I promise
you
brings me to my next point homosexuality
and hedonism are not the same thing in
the Bible many of those verses on
same-sex relations are about gang rape
promiscuity and orgies therefore
Christians wrongfully associate LGBTQ
people with deviance this is a lie
same-sex couples are capable of monogamy
and being LGBTQ does not make you a
pervert my fifth question are you in
pain if you're living as a straight
person but you think a lot about gay
relationships or gay sex you yourself
may be gay or may have suffered a sexual
trauma journey loud and clear not all
homosexual behavior stems from trauma
but it can people either have a natural
predisposition to be gay
aka they're born that way or in some
cases people were violated and act out
that behavior in adulthood to normalize
or take power over that trauma when
someone is truly homophobic hateful
legislating against gay rights hollering
screaming picketing there often if not
always conflicted on the inside when
evangelical leader Ted Haggard resigned
after a scandal with a male prostitute
he said I think I was partially so
vehement because of my own war anti-gay
politicians almost routinely get caught
in homosexual acts and studies show that
conflict between physical desire and
social or religious teachings can become
destructive the conflict can lead to
homophobia drug addiction and even
suicide if you are experiencing this
kind of conflict or trauma below I'm
gonna link resources where you can talk
to someone anonymously and get healed
you deserve to be healed and you deserve
to live in your truth please talk to
someone because pain Fester's in the
dark last but not least number six how
should you address someone's sexual
orientation moving forward like I said
not all Christians are inherently anti
LGBTQ we just have the bye
and the Bible makes the subject very
difficult my main advice would be don't
make assumptions
if you don't know many gay people or if
you haven't yet scoured the original
Greek text of the Bible you have to stay
open to learning and listening do not
assume being gay is a changeable state
of mind because your church told you so
Christians say that gay people commit
suicide because their lifestyle is so
unfulfilled that is a lie
they commit suicide because of us Nathan
Malthus is the southern father of a
lesbian who committed suicide at 23
because he told her she was a sinner she
was treated by her father and others
took their own life on March 29 1995 I
regret very much the main things was
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something was wrong we see what happens
you treat the child like I did you you
scarred that child it's bound to bother
that child thought process as a
possibility could it could rent him to
the life you know she lived as she was
23 when she died if you believe being
gay is a sin look at the failure
statistics of conversion therapy look at
the homeless rates for LGBTQ plus teens
and look at the suicide rate of that
entire population whatever the answer
whether it's a sin or it's not we can no
longer continue harming the lgbtq+
community Jesus would not behave the way
that we are Jesus would not cause people
so much shame and turmoil that they take
their own lives
that is not the Jesus I know so speak
with love and kindness if you're afraid
express why if you have a question ask
this community God is grey is here to
help you to talk to you so be strong be
brave don't be afraid once
one has a different perspective or a
different lifestyle you will still be a
Christian trust that and give other
people your love I hope you will all
join me for the debut of my podcasts on
October 1st where I'll be talking with
an openly gay Christian woman I hope
you'll come back for the second part of
this video on October 8th where I will
explain my journey with this subject and
I love you guys
you really can't imagine how much I care
for you and how much I love you
so thank you so much for being a part of
this conversation if you are a
homophobic person and you keep your cool
in the comments and grow and expand I
honor you and I thank you for that
growth and that love please like and
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god bless