Welcome back, gentlemen. Coach Mossab back with another video and the topic today
is what does it mean to be an alpha male? So, you're probably thinking this
and I'm gonna share with you a couple things that you can
take on to really improve your life and become an alpha male, all right.
Hey, so I've spent the past decade understanding what it means to be an alpha because I've taken
myself from a loser to a player to now a happily married guy and I want to share with you a couple
of things. So, the first I'm going to share with you in this video is what alpha actually means
and defining it from an evolutionary biology perspective, and then I'm going to share with
you two traits of an alpha male that you can embody today to become more alpha in your life.
Then I'm going to share with you three mental models that alphas have and they embody that
helps them differentiate themselves from others. All right let's dive in. So first things first,
let's define what alpha means so that we're on the same page when we're discussing what it means to
be an alpha male. So the way I like to think about it is from an evolutionary biology perspective
because we are still the same people that we were 10,000 years ago. While our society's changed, our
biology and our wiring and our psychology is still the exact same. So, an alpha male today is
the same as it was back then which is just the guys at the top of the dominance hierarchy or
the confidence hierarchy. So, what that means is in any tribe, in any society, there are some guys
that are more competent, some guys that are less competent and the more competent guys
ascend to the top as they do more things, gather more resources, have more social connections and
those guys towards the top are what we call alpha. So, it's not necessarily any specific
trait but it's a combination of personality traits that makes one more competent than somebody else.
So the more confident you are, the more alpha you are and then the less competent you are, the more
beta you are for lack of a better term. So, think about that, think about being at the top of that
confidence hierarchy and what it means and what it takes to get there. So, if you're thinking about
how to become more alpha, you can think about how to become more competent and that would generally
mean the same thing. So, being the most dominant person in the environment or being the most
competent person is what it means to be an alpha from that perspective. So with that definition
in mind, I'm gonna give you two traits of what it would mean to be an alpha male back then and also
today. So, a good way to think about it is to ask yourself what would the chief of a tribe do?
Because the chief of a tribe back then was the most alpha person, they were the highest on that
confidence hierarchy, and so the most attractive person back then was the chief and if you want to
be attractive or be an alpha male today, you want to embody some of those same characteristics. So,
the chief of a tribe would be somebody who is one, a leader and who is compassionately assertive. So,
a lot of times when you think dominant, you think of somebody who's domineering, right? Somebody who's
telling people what to do, not really listening to feedback, not attentive and that's not what
you want. You want to be assertive, you want to be authoritative but you want to listen to feedback,
you want to be compassionate to those around you as you're being a leader. So, you don't want to be a
follower, that's more beta. You want to be more of a leader in taking all leadership roles in your life,
in your community, anywhere around you that you can and helping those around you get better as
well as helping yourself get better over time. Now, an easy way to know if you have that leadership
quality or if others look to you to be a leader is to see how your friends react to you when you give
suggestions or when you're interacting with them in general. If they sort of dismiss you or they
don't really pay attention to what you're saying, that's generally a sign that they don't view you
in high regard and they wouldn't really listen to you if you try to lead them in life or anywhere.
So, what you want to do is if you're in that situation, find a new set of friends that
do respect you or learn these leadership skills, learn to be more communicative, learn to be more
assertive and then over time, they will respect you more and want to follow your lead. The worst thing
you can do is if you bring say a date around your friends and if they're disrespecting you, they're
mocking you, that's not a good sign, that's a very unattractive thing if she sees you as
not a leader among your group of friends. The alpha is usually the person that leads others that they
look to for leadership or that they're inspired by and want to be like and that women want to be
with. Now remember how I said what makes an alpha and alpha are their personality traits as well
as their mental traits and their mindsets so, I'm going to share with you three mental models for
how to be in alpha before I do that, go ahead and hit the like button, hit the subscribe button as
well as leave a comment. I read them all and I'll go back to your comments if you leave one below.
So, let's get into some of these mental models, right? To know what it means to be an alpha male,
one of them is to have this unshakable confidence and this belief that you're going to win and that
you're going to prevail over the sort of setbacks that you have through life because everybody has
setbacks, everybody has problems that they go through, hardships that they face but the
difference between an alpha and maybe somebody else, maybe somebody more beta is that the beta
succumbs to these setbacks and these problems that they have. An alpha thinks I'm going to
get through this, I'm going to win, I'm going to get to where I want in life and they have a plan and
they execute on that plan. But it starts with having that solid mental framework of knowing
that they are going to overcome whatever is in their way. So, it's this winter mentality
that starts with a mentality first and then that carries through and actually helps them overcome
the problem because the worst thing you can do is to let yourself be defeated before you even
attempt. If you think that the problem is too big for you to handle, then it is going to be too big
to handle but if you at least think that you're gonna overcome it, you're gonna at least tackle it
as best as you can. So, that's one thing to keep in mind is having that core belief of being a winner,
of knowing that things are going to work out for you. Now, the second mental framework is something
I talk about a lot which is the abundance mentality. Alphas have the belief that there
is plenty to go around especially if you consider again what would the chief of a tribe do or think,
they share everything with their tribes people, they're very giving and they spread the resources
and spread the wealth to those around them, especially those they care about. So, you want
to think that there's plenty in life for you and for everybody else. That means that there's plenty
of women out there for you to talk to, that means that there's plenty of money to be made that you
can make, that means that there's plenty of good vibes to go around so that you can always spread
that good energy to those around you. And finally, the last mental model I want to share with you
and this is very important is the difference between an internal locus of control and an
external locus of control. So, alphas a lot of times, they have an internal locus of control which means
that they are in control of their destiny, things don't just happen to them, they are the actor that
makes things happen to the world around them. So for example if you have an external locus of
control, you think things happen to you, life puts problems in your way and it's very difficult to
tackle those problems when you think that you are just an object rather than the subject in your
life. Having an internal locus of control allows you to take responsibility for those kinds of
things and gives you a way for you to tackle those problems and feel like you're actually in control
rather than life being in control and things just happening to you. Now, I want to share one more
thing with you and that is when you think about an alpha and I just mentioned those problems that
they go through, a lot of times an alpha will have gone through those problems and they'll be forged
in fire and have sort of conquered themselves and gotten themselves to the point where they can go
through those future problems with a lot more grace and a lot more capability. You'll see that
alphas have gone through periods of pain, they've gone through a lot of stuff, you can generally see
that in the military, a lot of them go to war for example but even if it's not as drastic as war, a
lot of times in life, you can do things that are difficult so that you can handle less difficult
things a lot more easily. So, an example is playing a sport especially if it's a combat sport,
this will prepare you for things, growing up in rough environments although you don't want
to be in that situation but a lot of times that prepares you for the easy things or the easier
things in life. So, what you can do to sort of mimic this is to do challenging things in your life. Push
yourself past your comfort zone, do things like a really hot sauna, do things like joining a team
sport or joining a combat sport, learn how to fight, learn how to defend yourself, this will up your
confidence at the exact same time. Now if you find this video helpful, you want more tips on how to be
like an alpha male, specifically on how to approach a woman like an alpha male, go ahead and click
this video, watch that and you'll get a lot more tips just like this. Alright, I'll see you there.