- So in this video,
I'm gonna share with you the one affirmation
that will make you way more magnetic,
will allow you to feel empowered
in your own body and how this will change
how everybody responds to you.
Because literally you're putting out a different energy.
Now, when it comes to magnetic energy
and when it comes to attraction,
this is 100% in energy game.
It's all about energy.
The energy you are putting
out is a reflection you are getting back.
So if we're putting out an energy
that has certain qualities, maybe that energy is needy
or that energy wants validation
or approval from other people,
it's going to literally repel people.
But if that energy has certain qualities
and if there were certain things like affirmations
and things you could use,
that could completely transform the way that you embody
yourself that changes everything.
Now, the first thing I want to mention
with this is when we talk about an affirmation,
one of the things I see very common
in the self-help industry
and even the law of attraction industry
is this one affirmation that you say
that completely changes your energy.
That's the idea.
Now I'm here to say
that I am not somebody that necessarily
am gonna promote that, or even believes in that.
I do not believe that you're gonna say one affirmation over
and over and over again.
And then eventually that's going to be your reality
because that is only one aspect of our physical reality.
One aspect of our physical reality is what we say
or what we intend for or what we visualize.
But this is a more about understanding who are we being?
So if somebody says the affirmation thousands of times
and then they start being that way
because they program themselves, then it works.
But in affirmation is people like to believe
in the quick fix and I'm here to say
that something more powerful than that is understanding
that this is how you truly affirm your own magnetic energy.
That is to let go of these affirmations,
to let go of this one thing
that you say a thousand bajillion times
and then you become magnetic
and focused on affirming your own authenticity and yourself.
Now, normally what happens
when it comes to magnetic energy
is magnetic energy is energy that is not needy, not needy.
The degree to which you are attractive
is the degree to which you embody not needy energy.
The degree to which you repel other people
will be the degree to which you are needy.
So the key to this is embodying non-needy energy.
Now let's define what non-needy energy is.
Non-needy energy or needy energy.
Let's actually first start with needy energy.
Needy energy is when what we do is we put
the external what somebody else thinks
and feels over what we think and feel.
We value their thoughts and opinions approval
and validation more than given
ourselves the own validation approval
and sense of worthiness.
So then what we do is we put what they think
and feel on a pedestal
and we're doing everything we can to change
our own center of gravity to make them happy.
Now that is very needy and non-magnetic.
Now in actuality, what non-needy is
non neediness is when you value what you think
and feel primarily over what they think and feel.
So this is about switching the energy
and affirming what you think
and feel as far as validation, love, approval
worthiness over what they think and feel.
That is what's going to help you embody magnetic energy.
Now, there are certain blocks
we may have to actually expressing the real us.
Now, the truth is that the most magnetic version
of you is the version of you.
That is the most vulnerably expressive
that is not attached to outcome.
Have you noticed that when it comes
to people that have magnetic energy
they're not attached to outcome.
They're not being magnetics so that you like them.
They're being magnetic because it's who they are.
And if you can feel that they're being magnetic
to get your validation or approval,
normally you will like you'll be repelled by it.
You'll see through it too.
So the power of what I'm sharing today
is that this is a about understanding your own sense
of self-expression and also your own sense of vulnerability.
I know for me this was,
everything I'm sharing you right now, was the key.
This was the key to going
from the needy people pleaser energy that I had for years.
Go back to my earlier YouTube videos,
where I was making videos about this is the one affirmation
you think that you must say
and this is what happens.
That was, if I were to make a video
that was really this is the affirmation you say every day
in order to get what you want,
then it would be making that video
because I literally I'm doing it to get the views.
I'm doing it to get people bought
in on this like almost codependent energy
of like just say this thing and you'll get what you want.
And it's like the quick fix that everyone wants.
I'm trying to make everybody happy.
I'm trying to please the audience, but me expressing that.
I think that in some ways that's bullshit,
that even though you clicked on the video
and it says the one affirmation, it's a different context.
The affirmation I'm talking about is not the one thing
you say, like you see on TikTok.
I've actually made TikToks like this before.
When I was that people pleaser version of me.
Say this one word,
and you will be the most attractive person in the universe.
And it'd be like, oh enough.
And then you say this like a 100 times a day,
and you're enough, but saying it,
verbalizing it is one aspect of physical reality.
We have not only what we,
that could be called our word, whatever we say
and whatever we, like our word is our integrity.
On the other side of that, what are we physically doing?
How are we being in reality?
How are we showing up?
These are questions that to me are much deeper.
And the thing that I'd like for you to affirm
is to affirm yourself, affirm feeling safe in your own body,
affirm your own values,
affirm your own authenticity, affirm your own vulnerability.
Because when I did all of these things
and I've seen many other people go
through this transition as well, it changes everything.
One of the reasons we're afraid to be vulnerable
is because we're afraid if we're vulnerable
which means sharing the real us.
There's three different levels of vulnerability
that I found through a book that I read.
What is it? Was it the sort of art?
And I given a, I forget.
There was a book I read
and it was talking about this.
And it made a lot of sense to me.
There's emotional vulnerability,
the ability to express your real thoughts
and feelings and emotions.
The social vulnerability,
the ability to go out into public.
Maybe there's somebody that you see that you like
and you can actually walk up to them
and not give a shit about what other people think.
And then there's physical vulnerability.
The ability to like be physically intimate with somebody
or to like flirt with somebody.
And for me, I had a lot of shame
from childhood where I believed I wasn't good enough.
There's something wrong with me.
So I'd be afraid to show those aspects of myself.
I'd afraid to show my intent with flirting with somebody.
And because of that, it would depolarize my relationships.
And what would end up happening
is I end up friends with people,
like friends with these women I was dating,
but then it's like they didn't really know
if I even liked them or not.
Because I wasn't either making a move
or showing sexual intent.
That kind of polarity
or I'd be afraid of like what other people would think
about me in certain situations
or afraid of expressing my true emotions.
And that was all because of the shame
that I felt that there was something wrong with me.
And that's one of the thing with shame,
a shame wants to hide in the dark.
So the shame tries to put on,
the shame tries to put on a different face,
a different persona.
It's like no, I am this cool person.
And it tries to put on this act
but that is one of the most needy energies.
One of the most non-magnetic energies,
because it's value to what other people think
and feel over the authenticity.
So this is something that we become aware
of through the process of how we're showing up.
Now what that meant
and how that looked for me is I had to start realizing
there's a deeper core to this, okay?
The deep core of this was realizing
that the shame I felt that I was broken from childhood,
I could realize that the pain and stuff I experienced
wasn't my fault in the sense of it.
Wasn't because I wasn't worthy.
Maybe the parents divorced,
maybe there was emotional availability,
whatever it was we all have these like childhood things
that happened.
It's realizing that that was not your fault.
It was not your fault your parents divorced
because as kids we do think it's our fault.
It's not our fault maybe a parent emotionally unattached,
or left either emotionally or physically.
We internalize these things
and say I'm broken.
And I realized I was attracting people
into my life that would reflect back the belief
that I'm broken.
There's something wrong with me.
And that was a needy energy
because then I needed their approval.
I needed their validation.
And in order to get it,
I would close off certain parts
of my myself that I was afraid to show.
And why was I afraid to show up by the way?
Because I was afraid of being abandoned, abandonment wound.
I was afraid that somebody was gonna reject me.
I even remember back in like the first time
I ever got like rejected when I was younger
that I remember maybe even, okay,
in childhood maybe there was certain forms of rejection.
But then when I was like 11 or 12 years old,
went to this community park thing,
it was like a summer camp.
And I asked this girl to dance
with me that was 18 years old
and I was like 12 or was 13 or something.
And she was like, no, let me find.
And she found someone in my age
but I felt so rejected in that moment.
And that was like a ballsy move of me.
Like I was like putting it out there,
"Hey I wanna dance with you.
You wanna dance?"
And then she said, "No."
And then I wired in this thing that like,
oh there's something wrong with me.
It like refl.
And normally those situations will also be a reflected echo
from like five to 15 years old or no,
like four to seven years old.
So the affirmation of this is that what we are doing
is if we were to say there's one affirmation to this too,
cause one of the most attractive things
you could do is to actually have boundaries with people
because boundaries imply value.
If I say it's not okay to do this,
then that's implying that actually I value myself
and I don't want to deal with that.
But if there's one affirmation,
I would say that would help with you can either apply
towards your childhood stuff.
Or even now is you're most likely an empath
that's watching this
or somebody that feels like you can feel
other people's energy.
So that's the affirmation is
and this isn't just something you say like 20 times,
you say this 20 times
and you'll be a magicianal millionaire,
billionaire, trillionaire.
You like love magnet.
No, but if you say this
it will help you to discern other people's energy cohorts
from your energy cohorts.
And that's your shit not mine.
That's your shit not mine.
If you go out
and you express the real you to somebody else,
and they don't like it, that's on them.
It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you.
It means you just might not vibe with them.
That's their stuff.
If you set boundaries with a friend
or somebody that wants you to do something,
and you don't wanna do and you start setting boundaries
and they get mad at you, it's not your fault.
You don't have to internalize it.
That's their shit not yours.
So this is a powerful mantra that I began to use
because then I began to say, oh
well it's actually a win-win.
If I most vulnerably express the real me to somebody else,
and they don't like that,
then say why I just saved myself some time.
I started to affirm myself by valuing authenticity
and vulnerability over validation and approval.
From child to trauma,
I used to value these more than these.
What changed everything is I started to have this compass
of my identity.
That was like, I will only,
I will say things that are authentic, expressive.
I will emotionally be vulnerable and express myself.
I will physically be vulnerable
in the right appropriate situations of course,
there's always like an understanding
of that container of deep side.
It doesn't mean you go around
you're emotionally vulnerable.
So you're just like expressing
and crying about everything all the time.
And at the same time it doesn't mean
you go around touching everybody.
But it means that these things that you're afraid,
if you're afraid of abandonment or rejection
you start realizing what is the real me?
And you start affirming the self,
because people that are watching this video
probably normally affirm other people's thoughts,
other people's values
other people's emotions, other people's validation
other people's approval over their own.
And I promise you when you switch this energy around,
it changes everything.
So the one affirmation you wanna use
that will make you more magnetic
and attract more miracles than anything else,
is not something you say it's affirming your own self,
your own vulnerability, your own values,
your own authenticity.
And as you do that,
you will show up in the world in a different way.
And people will respond to you differently
with more magnetic energy.
Now, with that being said,
I'm gonna have this video go out on the last day of July,
which means that tomorrow starts
"The 21 Day Confidence Love Challenge."
So if you wanna be in 21 days from now,
a more confident you, you want to embody more like less fear
and judgment, and you wanna let all that doubt go.
And you want to literally embody in an identity shift
in being the most vulnerable, authentic
and bold expressive version of you.
Then now is the last day to join for
"The 21 Day Confidence Love Challenge."
All you gotta do to join is you gotta click the link below.
I'll see you on the inside.
I can't wait.
It's 21 days of life coaching
and processes that we go through together.
What makes it different than a YouTube video
is it's not some passive video that you watch.
There's things you do in the Facebook group.
There's things you do with the supportive community
and there's life coaching that'll help you change
your life from the inside out.
Now, the next video.
And one of the most powerful videos that I have is
"How To Let Go To Finally Receive."
Letting go is one of the most magnetic things you can do.
Watch this video to wire that in.
The more you can let go is the more you can receive.
And this is such a paradox because for a long time
I would resist what I actually wanted.
I would try, I would set intentions.
I'd put things
and realize I'd put them on a pedestal
without even knowing it and I.