Just before I start this video let me tell you that on my sheet of paper before making this video
I wrote: topping cis guys and in brackets GAYYY
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Hey guys, my name is Chase and today I'm going to be talking to you about trans guys topping the cis
men - GAYYY, and I'm kidding about the gay but
Just to Clarify also like I'm not saying you got to be gay to top or to get topped or anything like that
you can be bi, pan, queer, whatever.
Sexuality isn't a thing. It doesn't exist. Everyone's fluid. Everyone's a squiggle. Let's go on with this topic today. Shall we.
So why am I talking about this?
I don't know. I, I was going through my list of topics that I'd like to do and I saw this topic
and I was like "I still haven't done this. Might as well just do it now". So today
I'm going to talk to you about my experiences of topping cis guys. I have done it three times
[inhale]
three yeah, yea three times
and I will explain to you how I felt and how it happened because I feel like there's a really big
misconception in this community that trans guys who are gay or trans men who sleep with men
um are only bottoms because we've got them two holes and we were "women" before
I don't think that but you know "society"
and we're supposed to be passive. Like toots, where do you live because trust me
there are a lot of trans men out there who are tops and who sleep with men
who sleep with other men. Yeahh. So I'm specifically talking about trans men topping cis gay men
umm because or cis bisexual men because umm
I don't know trans guys topping other trans guys is another topic for another day, I guess
but I feel like there's a big conversation about "I'll never be accepted by a gay cis man, because I'm not
cis, and I don't have a penis
and I can't pleasure them like they are used to and I don't have a penis that they can suck on
that is big enough, because some people really like that full feeling in their mouth"
and there's all of these, these things that you can just cycle back in your head that make you feel not
enough for a gay cis guy
I'm here to tell you you are enough for a gay cis guy and
It's hard to believe and I'm there with ya because I've been on these apps. Tinder, hornet, scruff,
grindr
What's the other one? There's other ones than that? Whatever, I've been on all of them
and I have been rejected more times than I can even acknowledge honestly and I have gotten used to it,
but we shouldn't have to get used to it.
But we do. And it's not like we're getting rejected like
everyone on these apps get[s] rejected. Like some men just have a preference for you know blondes or whatever.
I'm blonde right now [laughs] Because a lot of gay cis guys say that like "ah stop blaming it on you being trans
it's not because you're trans". No because there are a lot of times
I am rejected because I am, I don't know short or I'm a bottom or [inhales]
I, I , I don't look the way that they would like me to look. I'm not hairy enough, I'm not big enough,
I'm not skinny enough. Whatever, who cares those are all reasons that people whatever
[inhales]
But when you specifically say that you're trans and someone says "oh
I'm not into that or mm sorry not my thing" and then they leave like
really that's literally because I'm trans you left. And honestly like here's a little story: one time I was like "eyy"
talking to this guy like it was nice and I was like
"Oh, I have all these toys that I need to review, like would you be down for that?" He's like "Umm sorry
I don't know. I don't really wanna try toys. I don't wanna do that." And then he stopped talking to me.
And I was like "ah all right, so that's fun"
So he was interested in me when I was a bottom, but then when I was like "Hey
can I top you?" and by the way it said he was vers on his profile. He was like
"No
I don't want to do that because it's toys and not a real peen." And that hurt me
and that hurt me a lot until I
talked to a lot of people who were cis and gay and completely open and yeah
they're hard to find, but they're there. So, what's my experience
whell, whell whell whell
my first experience was interesting. I used the Fuse and
that is a umm
peen that you can buy. The Fuse, the Ultra that's what it's called I think. I'll put the link in the description below, of the review
umm that. I used it and it was my first time topping a man and I have been with women before I still am with women, sometimes
umm but I am usually the top with women, usually. So I have topped, I have used a harness before and
done that, but I've never done it to
a cis gay man. So while I was doing it, it was just so
I'm gonna say it and I know this seems weird
Empowering.
And maybe it was like "ha ha ha ha I'm the masc masc now." No, it's nothing like that. It was more li... [laughs]
Can you imagine you are having sex with someone? [strange laughing noises]
That's how you have sex with Chase Ross by the way. That's what happens when you have sex with me.
[more laughing noises] "Which lips?" Literally which...
but for real though it felt so empowering to
like have sex with a cis guy, for me, and then I did it again with the same person
and I did it with someone else. And then the other person. That was interesting
I think the person identifies as bisexual or queer, and they're a cis guy
as far as I know. And umm
we meet up every year to do the do once a year.
Umm and in the past, it's been him fucking me. Which is no problem, but I was like "hey
I have all these toys to review and I'm not seeing anyone so..?" and he was like "yeaah
sure!" so I was like "ah ha ha ha". So I used a couple of toys on him
and it was really fun, and I felt like [a noise of satisfaction] like it was like "Yes. This is something
I've always wanted to try and it feels so good that
I'm able to do it because I feel like society in some way tells me because I'm a trans guy
that I just need to lie down
and I just need to let someone penetrate ME, when I'm the one who would like to penetrate a man
sometimes
If I'm being honest though like Imma say I'm like 80% bottom with men, probably with women too, honestly
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Listen toots, I got a bonus hole might as well use it right? Trigger warning for this video byt he way, shit
The point is that it felt very empowering for me, and I think that there is like such a stigma that like gay FtMs
or like queer FtMs who like have sex with cis guys like aren't real
but I feel like all of my friends that I know are queer
umm and have dated and are dating men and a lot of them are actually dating trans guys
or people who are non-binary and then there are a couple who are dating cis guys.
And I know a bunch of people have been dating cis guys for like
five years, and they're trans and their partner is cis, a cis gay man and they have never questioned their
umm sexuality ever.
I will say that I was with this cis guy for a couple of months and
I think after the first time we had sex
like I was the bottom
he told me that he thought to himself
"could he be with women". Because of the parts that I have and he came to the conclusion that he couldn't.
I, I didn't find this like offensive
but I can see that like. I mean why would you even think that? Like I get that you would...
I don't know, I get it, but I don't get it. Like it's kind of rude like to associate that genital with a gender
but I guess it was good that in the end he thought "oh no
I couldn't be with women" like "it's because like I like men and you are a man
it doesn't matter what genitals you have". So I mean that was pretty cool.
And I think that there are a lot of people like that
you just like need to find them and people just need to open their mind because the gay community is like, so
fucking dick centric like "Penis! Penis everywhere! Dicks dicks dicks dicks!" Like they're everywhere.
Oh my God, please someone make that into a gif "dicks dicks dicks"
So having a community that is fixated on penis and penis side "penis side"?
Penis size and cock rings and lube and condoms everywhere and dicks and dicks and everywhere dicks.
It's very hard to be like "mm I'm valid in this community" because you don't have a penis and
it is very hard to accept that. And when I say "you don't have a penis". I mean you don't have a cis penis.
A lot of people
consider their
junk that they have, that has grown on hormones their peen. I consider it my peen.
I say "my peen". Other people have prosthetics that they use and they consider that their peens, other people have had phalloplasty
that's cool. But there's still a stigma
with not having a peen "it doesn't make you a man"
or "it doesn't make you gay - enough" or something like that
and these are the narratives that I've had to deal with for the last whatever five years or however long
I've been on these apps, and it's exhausting and it sucks, but it's, it's after you realize that you are worth it and
a cis man can actually love you and a cis man who is gay can actually have sex with you and or let you have
with them. Then it's fine.
I feel like to turn into a different type of video, but the point of this video is:
Trans men can top cis guys and it feels very empowering. Would I do it again?
Yes, I think I would because I have a toy
umm
the Bono which is very fun to have sex with and I have only used it on
umm
someone like a couple of times
and it's
been really great, but I've never
never done it in the butt. Oh, no I have. Oh, no they used it for me in my butt. Oh, whoops! [snort]
Well it feels good, so I know it'll feel good for someone else, I guess.
But I have the Bono and it would be nice to be able to
I guess top
a cis guy with it. Just to see
how I would feel.
But I am, I am much more comfortable being like - is it like a power bottom? Like when you like
like you take charge like you're the bottom but like when someone does you you kind of like
like take charge. Is that the power bottom or is power bottom like you do a lot of bottoming?
Because I'm both of those I guess. [laughter]
Alright anyways this video went everywhere and anywhere
I'm so sorry. Let me know what you think.
Are you a trans man that tops cis guys? Are you...? What do you do? What do you want to do?
What do you want to talk about? Let's do it in the description. I'll see you guys later, I guess.
Sorry, this is kind of all over the place and confusing. I don't really know where I'm going with this. Have a great day
Love you. Bye!