Hey guys! So a couple years ago I trained myself to become a morning person
I used to sleep in, and wake up just about the same time as the kids
and it was not working. I was craving more me time, I was craving some
time to get my head on straight. I felt like there wasn't enough time in the day
to get all the things I need to get done done and I was struggling huge.
So becoming a morning person... I have to tell you, has literally changed the way that I show up
and I know it's like a big claim but it has changed my life!
Today in this video I thought that I would share with you what my morning routine is and
the things that I do most days. It's not every single day that I don't do all
of these steps every single day but most days, to get my head on straight because
doing these things has literally changed how I show up as a wife, it has changed
how I show up as a stepmom, changed how I show up as a mom, as an entrepreneur
I'm more productive ... like the benefits are crazy
Especially for the Stepmoms watching this video. I fully believe that having that time to wake up get
your head on straight, plan how you're going to tackle the extra stressors that
may be coming this day, can change the game for you
So I'm going to share what I do with you!
The first step is obviously coffee
typically I will set my coffee maker on a timer the night before so I have a nice fresh hot pot of coffee
waiting for me when I come downstairs in the morning
it actually is a huge incentive for me so when my alarm goes off and I want to press snooze
I'm like no there's this delicious pot of coffee downstairs waiting for me
So the next thing that I typically do is I journal.
I have a journal that I got at Chapters. I just love something with, you know, inspirational whatever on the front
and the things that I journal are different every single day
sometimes I do all the things I'm about to tell you and other days I just do a couple
I've taken bits and pieces of my morning routine from people like Rachel Hollis
and Jenna Kutcher and books like the Morning Miracle and I'm gonna link all those for you guys in the description below
but I think it's important to do something that works for you
you need to find a morning routine that inspires you
you don't want to feel like you're doing something just because someone in some book said to do it
that being said I do think it's important to listen to people who are thriving
and who are you know trying out things that are working in their life
who are know obviously success stories - to see if it can make a
change in your ife
If you want to try out a new tactic in your morning routine or a new exercise definitely try it give it time
and then kind of make you changes from there.
When it comes to journaling I get a lot of questions
about what I write in my journal. The first thing is - and this is from Rachel Hollis.
I write out my big huge goals in present time so instead of saying like you know
"I wish I could travel here" - I will say "I travel here every year" or "I travel
to Mexico every year" or something like that
so I talk about my business.
I talk about my life
I talk about my relationships
All of my big ass dreams
and guys they're big ass dreams. When you are setting goals don't set small goals
I'll say, I have a best-selling book, I'm a best-selling author, I will
say I get paid to speak on stages, I will say that I have the number one platform
for stepmoms
I want to have those things, like those are my big goals and I'm not afraid to say that and I'm not afraid to say them to myself
I'm not afraid to say them to other people
The second thing is gratitude Everyday I write out like five to ten things that I'm grateful for
so it could be as simple as having a nice cup of coffee in the morning with
no little children speaking my name I really enjoy that in some days I'm
grateful for at that space
other times it'll be the great family night we had the night before
or it will be something that we have planned, or it can be the most
simple simple things writing down all the things that you're grateful for
every morning really gets your head on straight and makes you think about all
the things that are going right in your life versus the things that maybe with become a stress throughout the day
the next thing I'll typically write down and I got actually this one from Danielle Laporte, I'll link her as well
how do I want to feel at the end of the day and I know that sounds a kind of fluffy, crazy
weird question to ask my yourself but how do we want to feel at
the end of the day? Do I want to feel productive? Do I want to feel calm? Do I
want to feel in control?l Think about how you want to feel that day because
the way Danielle puts it, is that our goals are actually associated with a
feeling that achieving those goals will give us. So think about how do you want
to feel in your life and write it down. Somedays I want to feel productive and
in control and girlboss or whatever other days I want to feel relaxed and at
peace and calm so it really depends on what you have going on that day and
what's going on in your life.
The next thing that I do is I write out my to-do list
I am a huge fan of digital or online calendars and task management
systems. I run my business on ASANA I use my calendar on my iPhone telling me
all the things I have going on that day but I also really like pen and paper. I
have a nice little thin sharpie and I write on my to-do list.
On my "to do list" I will write out my work tasks and I will write out my wife tasks (is what I
like to call them or just like things that I need to do around the house) and
at the very top I will always write my big goals at the very top of the page
because I think the more you're reminded of things you want to achieve and what
you're working towards in life the better. There's a lot of power in the mind and I'm not
going to get into because it's not really my jam but it is very true. Put your goals
out there to the universe. It reminds you what you're trying to achieve
and how you want to feel at the end of the day, andI just feel a lot more organized.
The other thing I like to do and I do this typically when we are in a
stressful situation in our life
I like to journal that out before the day
starts so what I mean by that is I will think about my stress or think about
what's going on and just write about it. Write about what's going on
so I will take the stressor write it out and thenI'll ask myself questions like "okay is
there anything that I can do to minimize impact of this has on my life right now"
"how can I change my reaction so that again it minimizes the impact it has on me and my family"
"how am I contributing to the stressor? Is there anything that I can do differently?
"how am I going to react today if this happens?"
I really am a huge huge believer that it's
important to be proactive and plan your reactions ahead of time as much as
possible and this has helped me manage my anxiety, this has helped me manage the stressors in my life
this has helped me plan my reactions so that I don't get, you know emotionally overwhelmed, throughout the day because
You know, I think that all this stepmoms watching this video and even anyone
When something happens, and a curveball comes or a stressor hits you,
it almost feel like you've been punched in the gut and you can't think about anything else
So the more proactive you can be about how you're going to handle these stressors the better
the other thing that's really important when you're journaling and
these things - is to ask yourself "does this really matter?" and I know that
I say this all the time but it's so important guys
so many of the things that we think in the moment are huge deals like bedtime
or something with the ex or having kids help out around the house or you know the way we're feeling
and I'm not discrediting any of that but when you ask yourself like am I gonna be
sitting on my deathbed or am I going to be in my rocking chair at
95-years-old happy that I spent my time and energy worrying about this
like ask yourself those questions- really play the long game
so journaling really helps me to do that
okay after I am done all of that I go into the office and I get work done. I get as much work done as I can get done
before my daughter wakes up before all the kids wake up before my husband comes down and the day starts
I found that running this platform if I do not get some work done before the day starts there's just not
enough hours in the day
so that is what I do now