What are five signs that your ex misses you during no contact. That's what we're going
to be talking about in this video, but first, my name is Clay with modernlove.life where
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But anyway, let's go ahead and get into this video. So five signs your ex misses you during
no contact. Now, again, we've talked about this before but not everyone needs to do no
contact. It can be kind of dangerous if you do no contact all the time. I know there are
people out there that say, "Hey, you always need to do no contact 100% of the time." Not
my opinion. In my experience and my work with other people, that isn't always the best idea.
But that's a topic for another video.
If you're watching this video, you're in no contact most likely and I recommend that you
probably just at least finish it off. I mean, unless you've just started like today and
you're like, "Well, do I need to do no contact?" Maybe not. Anyway, let's go ahead and get
into this.
If you have decided to do no contact, how can you tell if maybe your ex is starting
to miss you? First of all, we have an entire spectrum of passive no contact versus active
no contact. There are big distinctions. There's no like universal, no contact rule that like
everyone agrees on. You should probably check out our video series on no contact up there.
This is all new information for you.
But you're doing no contact. How can you tell if your ex misses you first? The first way
you can tell is if before you went to no-contact they really valued the connection that they
had with you. They valued it. They got a lot of emotional support from being in contact
with you. Obviously removing that for a period of no contact is going to make them very present
to the fact that there is this emotional connection that's lacking suddenly and so that is definitely
a sign that they're probably going to miss you during no contact. They probably are going
to feel the pain of you not being there in contact with them during this period. So that's
the first sign.
The second way that you can tell your ex misses you during no contact is if you start to notice
them checking you out on social media or online. I know that different platforms, sometimes
you can see who views your posts. Sometimes you can't. But if you start to notice, "Oh,
they are looking at my posts. They're looking more at my posts." That maybe they're even
liking your posts. Maybe they're even commenting on your posts, that really shows that they
are missing that interaction with you and they're trying to feel close to you in some
way by keeping up to date on what's going on with you by looking at your posts, by looking
at your photos, by perhaps even reminiscing through old posts or old photos that the two
of you shared, that really shows that they miss you and that they're definitely feeling
you're lost during this whole no contact period.
Sign number three that your ex misses you during no contact is of course if they ask
about you. If the two of you were in a relationship together, you probably know some common people,
mutual friends, maybe family members, coworkers, things like that. If you start to notice that
your friends or family or coworkers are saying like, "Oh hey, your ex was asking about you
the other day." Or your ex wanting to know like what you're up to these days, that just
shows that they're trying to reach through the social network, the real social network,
not the social media social network, to get some sort of feedback on you, to get some
sort of sense about how you're doing and what is going on with you.
So that is obviously an indication that they are missing you, that they are trying to understand
what's going on with you. Yeah, they might be trying to play it cool, but if their attention
is consumed with trying to figure out where you're at, understanding you, understanding
what's going on with you, then yeah, sure. They totally miss you.
Sign number four is if they try to provoke you emotionally and what I mean by this is
when you do no contact, again, there are lots of different philosophies on no contact. Some
people will say you just got to go dark on your ex. Leave them wondering why you fell
out of contact. That is definitely an approach we can talk at another point in another video
about whether or not that's a good approach, but that is an approach that a lot of people
seem to follow for better or worse. If you were doing this, your ex might not understand
what is going on and they might be curious as to why you've suddenly vanished on them
and they might think, in some part of their mind, that you're playing some kind of mind
game. You're trying to provoke them into responding or reaching out to you or initiating contact
or something like that.
So they might say, "Okay, it's game on. You're trying to do this game on me. I will try to
equally do some sort of game on you." And they may do things to try and provoke you,
either through friends or family or by posting things on social media that they believe that
you are going to see or watch or read or something like that. This could involve them potentially
trying to make you jealous by posting things online that like, "Oh hey. I'm starting to
date." Or, "Hey, I'm putting up this dating profile." Or, I mean, right now we're in this
global pandemic, so maybe they're not actually going to be posting photos of themselves with
other strangers of the gender that they would be in a relationship with but assuming this
whole thing blows over soon and you're watching this video from the future and we're in a
wonderful utopian world where we can all go outside and do all that stuff, you might see
that.
But, if your ex is trying to provoke you emotionally, if they're trying to make you jealous, if
they're trying to post things that they know that you're going to see and it's going to
elicit some sort of response from you and it's not just, "Hey, here's my life," but
it's like, "Here's my life and I know that you're going to see it and I know it's going
to have some sort of emotional impact on you." That could definitely be a sign that they're
missing you because they are trying to pull you out of this perceived game, this perceived
trick that they think that you're doing on them through this no contact thing.
Now maybe they know about no contact, maybe they don't know about no contact. But they
get the sense, most likely, that you're trying to do something, whatever that is and they
are trying to jostle you out of that so that you can actually come back and talk to them,
so that they can kind of get back to whatever dynamic the two of you used to have because
that dynamic feels comfortable and they want to obviously stay in their comfort zone and
doing things that are uncomfortable for them, such as being out of contact with you, could
potentially be a sign that, yeah, this is uncomfortable for me. This is what's making
me miss you and I want to get back to normalcy with you.
Then the fifth sign that your ex misses you during no contact and this one kind of goes
the opposite way of them trying to provoke you, but it's them actually going really quiet.
So they might sense that you're doing this no contact thing. Maybe I need to do that
too and we'll see which one of us cracks under the pressure first.
Again, there's this like weird competition thing that people often have with their ex's
where it's like, okay, which one of us can seem like we're more emotionally stronger
after the breakup? Whichever one that is, we win the breakup. Right? Obviously that's
a really messed up way of thinking about things but that is how a lot of times people will
behave after a breakup. It's how we have somehow agreed to behave towards our ex's in a society
and it's how we've somehow decided to measure our progress after a breakup. I don't agree
with it but still a lot of people will respond this way.
So if your ex just suddenly goes quiet, it could be that they're trying to hide the fact
that they're missing you, hide the fact that they're having emotions toward you, hide the
fact that they value your connection and they're kind of pulling away to see what you are going
to do. So that is definitely one of the signs your ex misses you during no contact.
Just as a recap. Number one, they valued the connection before you went no contact. Number
two, they kind of stalking you online, for lack of a better term. Number three, they
are asking friends, family members, mutual acquaintances, et cetera about you, using
those people to kind of probe into your life to see what you're up to. Number four, they
are trying to provoke you online by posting things that they know or believe that you're
going to see or maybe they're trying to send messages through friends, mutual friends like,
"Oh Hey, by the way, I'm dating now." Or, "Oh Hey, I'm think I'm going to put up an
online profile," or whatever. Or number five, they just suddenly and without explanation
go quiet, just the same way that maybe you did as well.
Once again, if you want to learn more about how to create a deeper emotional connection
with your ex, you might want to check out that Connect and Commit course. Again, a link
down in the description box below but if you like this video, do me a favor, hit that thumbs
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If you want to learn more about signs that your ex maybe wants you back, please feel
free to check out this video series over here or you might want to check out this video
over here. But thank you so much. Once again, my name is Clay. Take care. Be safe and healthy
out there. Talk to you next time.