hello to you i'm gayle king and this is precise advice how does it work i have a stack of cards
here and i'm going to do my best to answer the questions could i please say up front i am not
a trained therapist or psychologist although i did major in psychology in college do with that what
you will okay dear gail i have roommate issues i trust them but we have extremely different values
it's getting more and more difficult to relate and communicate with each other
what can i do because it's so hard to find trustworthy people that's true but the stress of
conflict may be even harder well i just always think that your home should be your sanctuary
your home should be a safe place to fall and so if you're having a conflict with your roommate i
think either the roommate has to go or you have to go i don't believe that you should stay in a home
where you're already saying that you have issues with your roommate just because you're worried
about finding somebody that's trustworthy i do think that that's hard but i don't think
it's impossible and the line that got me here is where you said but the stress of conflict
may be harder that's a big ding ding ding ding that means things have to change dear
gail i'm approaching middle age and happily single but all my friends have settled down
so i have less and less of them how do i make quality friendships at this stage of life
ps oh this is nice i love your work thank you very much at captain teabs captain teams this
is a really good question because i think the older you get the harder it is to make friends
and it's harder to find true friends that you feel you can hang with but it's not impossible i also
think it's hard when you're the single person all of your friends are married because they're
like oh is gail coming over again i've been in a i've been a third wheel in many situations
sometimes been a fifth wheel and i'm really okay depending on who my friends are but it
sounds to me that you would like to have friends so i'm saying you would like to have more friends
what does that mean you have to join um either a class a dance group i think dancing is fun
join a dance club cooking cooking you could do a cooking class you can always volunteer it is going
to mean putting yourself out there and that's sometimes hard for people i remember when i first
got divorced my mom would say no one's gonna come knock on your door it's true nobody comes knocking
at the door captain teams and says can you come out and play so you've got to put yourself out
there and i know that's hard sometimes but that you've got to do and thank you for loving my work
tina j hi miss king i loaned substantial money to a friend rappo at a time when they were in dire
need on agreement that they would pay me back when they got back on their feet i know where
this is going they paid back half but are stalling on paying back the rest i am now in need of that
money what can i do to make progress and still keep our friendship intact i'm losing my patience
more so since they bought a boat what they haven't paid you back but they bought a boat
i've been in that situation i think you have to be very firm with your friend and let them know
that you know when i lent you the money we made a deal that you would pay me back i now
need the money and it's very um hard for me when you haven't paid me back yet you're buying boats
this happened to me with a friend who bought some shoes and then had the nerve to come and show me
the shoes and can i say they were very expensive and all i said oh those are nice shoes but if you
need the money i think that you have to make sure that you say something to your friend
this is uh es duro what should i have for dinner next thursday
shake shack is having a wonderful thing they're having a truffle burger
i was at shake shack the other day i was going to order a regular cheeseburger i looked up
on the board and it said cheeseburger with truffles and then they have some crispy onions
and i ate it and it's so delicious i highly highly recommend that what is the meaning of life god i'm
still trying to figure that out but what i know in my life i want kindness i think that maya angelou
said this um and i feel very fortunate that i got to spend a lot of time with her where she says we
are more alike than we are different i also know that that's true and i also believe life is is
better when shared and i think that you know my mantra is always sort of kindness always works
kindness never gets old so for me the meaning of life is do on to others as you would have
them do unto you that for me is the meaning of life how does one become friends with gail
king i do not know i do not know you see me on the street you know how you can start say hey gail
that's a really good start hey gail i hope in some way this advice is useful to you again i
have to say i'm not an expert i have no degrees but i have lived a little bit on this planet and
i do have some ideas and i love giving unsolicited advice so thank you for watching precise advice