what does it look like for a type nine to be on their path of growth today's video is all about
the growth path also known as that growth arrow and you might even have heard it called the line
of integration all of those things are talking about the same thing which is that growth path
where does the nine go when they are growing and stay tuned because after i teach you all about
this growth path i'm gonna be sharing three growth tips for that enneagram type nine and if you're
new here i'm hillary your certified enneagram life coach and i love to teach the enneagram in the
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dive into being a nine and what it looks like when they are going towards the healthy side of
the three which is where they go when growing what does that look like nines become more
self-developing and energetic like the healthy three they become active in their life they
will become more confident charismatic and they will really begin to see their true
value one thing that i really notice in a type nine is they start to stay awake in their own
life as they are going towards that healthy side of the three they're gonna find that their energy
is increasing and their tendency to have and experience inertia decreases one big thing for
the nine is they will begin to recognize that they aren't actually invisible i know sometimes
they want to be but guys if you are a nine you're not invisible we don't want you to stay invisible
and this allows them to show up to their own life and begin to bless others with their
full presence and the last thing i could think of for the nine is they will begin to assert
themselves and that is really healthy for nine when they begin to assert themselves and show up
and be who they were meant to be okay so let's move on to the growth tips for that type nine
that first growth tip is watch for how you tend to put other people's agenda before your own ask
yourself why do you put yourself last all the time what is that what's the why what's the root of why
you tend to put everybody first it's important for the type nine to remember their worth and honor
their own strengths that helps them grow and some of the strengths that i see in a nine you
listen really well you are non-judgmental you ask really good questions you're kind you're inclusive
you're stable you're grounded and your presence matters i can't tell a nine enough how much their
presence actually matter it matters that they show up to their own life the thing that i want
the nine to do is change that default setting that default setting is automatically assuming
everyone is better everybody's agenda's better and this causes the nine to ten to shrink back or want
to shrink back right and i'm asking you to step forward to embrace who you are and to change that
default setting the second growth tip that i have for you enneagram type nines is you are not lazy
i know we get this like stereotypical bad rap that all nines are lazy and it's just not true i think
we can look lazy but actually the problem is it's because we say yes too much and so what does that
look like you're not lazy you just might say yes way too much which causes you to be constantly
exerting energy for everybody and everything around you another thing a nine probably does
um is they actually do way too much all during the day it's probably not what they should be
doing i know myself i'm an enneagram type nine and i find myself doing a lot of busy work
that keeps me busy but i'm not actually doing some of the projects i should be doing and this causes
me to feel really tired and the biggest reason why a 9 is tired a lot is an enneagram type 9 is
hyper aware of everybody's needs all the time and what does this do for the nine it drains their
own energy and i've heard nines just by existing use way more energy than most people and it has
to do with that hyper awareness that we're always feeling everybody else's feelings we know what's
going on we could see a look on someone's face and go oh what did that mean we're constantly involved
with people and it's just constantly draining our own battery i would say the growth tip
is to relax more to have more grace for yourself it is okay that you watch tv it is okay that you
do some of these activities as long as you're not numbing out with them which is a whole nother
video for another day as long as you're using them to recharge that's okay i think a lot of times a
nine will do it but then they'll feel guilty and they'll actually tell themselves or think that
they're lazy for doing what they're doing and it's not true they're just exhausted from all
of the things that they are doing and all of the energy they are putting out there so it is okay
to relax and to give yourself some time off and recharge and stop calling yourself lazy or letting
other people call you lazy because it's just not true and that third growth tip that i have is to
practice speaking up and this one's actually going to be pretty hard for a nine um because we're so
used to shrinking back thinking we're invisible not saying our own needs not saying our own
wants and desires right my advice is gonna be to start small so when somebody asks you where
do you want to go for dinner or lunch or coffee or whatever that is have an opinion ask yourself
where would i like to go it actually could be very scary for a nine to even put their opinion
out there and that's why i'm gonna say start this way start small just start with the little things
and so speak up your opinion matters but i will say sometimes a nine doesn't have an opinion that
is okay too right when you truly don't have an opinion it's okay but when you do when you hear
the little voice in your head and it says oh i'd love to go that to that place but you don't say
anything because the louder voices are talking my encouragement is to say your opinion yeah you
still might not get to go there but i don't know it does something within ourselves when we honor
our own voice and our own needs and yes you guys know i'm an enneagram type nine and doing this is
really hard for me too it just takes courage to say our own needs and wants we've literally spent
a lifetime pushing them down and ignoring them and it's time to let them wake up and honestly
to grow into who we were created to be we need to find our voice and we need to use our voice
so start small that's my growth tip all right so that's all i have for today what'd you guys think
i really hope that these three growth tips will help you grow and you will take these into account
of your everyday life and you will remember that your presence matters you'll remember
that your voice matters you'll remember to speak up and you know assert yourself when
appropriate and when the time is right and so it's time to stop being invisible guys
let me know which one really stood out to you which one are you like yeah i think i could do
that one let me know in the comments below you guys know i love hearing from you guys
and before we go i just want to say if you did get to this point and you're like gosh hillary i don't
even know my enneagram type that's okay because i do offer a discover you typing session it's a
one hour session with me over zoom and all that information is down below in the description box
but that's all i have for today guys until next time bye guys
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