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So you may have noticed an ongoing theme within the last handful of conversations we've had and
that theme has been centered around a challenge I presented to you. A #IAcceptSelfAwarenessChallenge
and if you have no idea what I'm talking about details are in the description below.
Now if you accepted that challenge I want to ask you how's it going? How's this new year treating
you so far? Are you staying on track and heading towards those goals that you've set for yourself.
I'm laughing because this reminds me of a conversation I had a few weeks ago
with my patrons over on Patreon and we were talking about new year's resolutions.
Particularly about how and why I personally don't believe in them and in asking you about your new
year I thought about this "New Year, New Me" phrase we tend to hear and see on social media
around this time. Which is something I actually talked about in that conversation, so if you
want to check it out there will be a link in the description to do that as well but I said all of
that to say this and I don't want this to sound rude, but we have to stop lying to ourselves.
New Year, New Me means absolutely nothing if you're not actively doing something to shift
the direction you're traveling in life. A good rule of thumb to always remember is
"if change is what you want, then change is what you have to give." Let's talk about it.
Here's how to reinvent yourself during this New Year and really at any time in your life.
The first thing is start decluttering. Physically, mentally and emotionally. A big
part of reinventing yourself and shifting the direction you're traveling in life
is also shifting how much you consume and hold on to.
Believe it or not, the clutter we carry in our lives is heavy and while not all of it
is something we can actually see with our eyes. Its weight is weighing on us more than we know.
To paint this picture for you. I want you to visualize a train, with hundreds of cars,
traveling down the tracks, full of steam ahead in one direction. Now imagine if those tracks
suddenly shifted and started heading in a new direction. What are the odds that train, you,
your life make that turn and stay on track? Not very high right. Unless that train slows down
and sheds some of that weight it's carrying. Now what if we replace that train in this metaphor
with you. What does that look like? How do we make that turn or make that shift without derailing?
Start decluttering... physically.
Take a look at your physical surroundings. Every nook and cranny of your home, your car
and ask yourself how much of this stuff am I using?
How much of this stuff do I value? How much of this stuff do I actually need?
If you forgot you had it; don't know what it is; not using it or wearing it, then let it go.
Start decluttering... mentally.
Your thoughts, worries, stress, doubts all of it. Our mind and everything it's
capable of is such a beautiful and delicate space but it can quickly become crowded
and clouded if we're not careful. Our worries can negatively impact our actions.
Our stress can begin to eat away at our health, mentally and physically, but clearing this mental
space isn't necessarily easy when compared to a closet of old clothes but there are small
things we can do such as journaling and writing down our thoughts that make dealing with mental
clutter more manageable and I have a playlist that dives into this in depth that I'll link to below.
Start decluttering... emotionally.
Again there are things we can do here too to help make this more manageable as well
such as talking it out out loud to yourself in the mirror or with someone you trust.
You can even write poetry and recite it out loud like I did. Either way allow those conversations
to flow naturally. Don't overthink it and cause friction where there shouldn't be any.
Now this is easier said than done, so if you need additional help
please seek out a professional. There's no reason to be embarrassed. If a therapist helps you
let them help you. Remember you have to let go of who you were if you want to reinvent who you are.
Number two is identify your core values.
I've said this a handful of times before and I have to bring this statement full circle
again because in my opinion this truly sets the tone for this conversation.
When your values are clear it becomes easier to focus on what matters to you,
because your values are pivotal to the structural integrity of your life's foundation.
Let the idea of that sink in for a second. Your values are pivotal to the structural
integrity of your life's foundation. When this is taken seriously it's a complete game changer
for your life especially when you're looking to make a shift and reinvent yourself because
when you don't know your core values, your journey doesn't have any ground to build on but when you,
do your base is strong and you're also less likely to end up distracted by things or people
who do not align with what you believe in. Which makes it easier to declutter them.
Now I have a core values worksheet that I'm giving away for free and this is something that has
already helped so many people in this community so if you don't have it, you should get it.
All you have to do is head over to my website at ronaldbanks.com/values and it's right there for
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Alright the third thing you can do to start reinventing it yourself
is identify your talents and strengths.
What are you good at? What do you have a passion for?
What do your friends and family constantly compliment you on?
Maybe you give great advice, maybe you're funny or business savvy, maybe you're an awesome teacher.
Whatever that thing is for you highlight it and make it a priority in your life. The "I accept
self-awareness challenge" that I presented to you a few weeks ago is what this is all about.
"I challenge you to spend at least 10 minutes a day with yourself. Discovering and uncovering
parts of you that you've buried, shied away from, something you've once explored but later
lost sight of, your superpower. That thing you didn't know you had in you. I challenge you!"
See reinventing yourself is not about pretending to be someone you're not
for the sake of experimenting with the new you. It's really about having the courage to be,
to do, to share everything that you truly are. Now let me stop you before your mind takes you
there. See you may have been on your way to thinking that you don't have any strengths.
That there's nothing that you're good at, but I want to ask you to hit pause for a minute. To
close your eyes and start changing your identity. How you view yourself. The language you use.
Remember there's power in the tongue,
so what you say becomes what you believe and what you believe shapes who you are and what you do.
Number four is suspend self-judgment.
The same way there's power in the tongue there's also power and repetition. Let me explain what I
mean by that. See if you're constantly inflicting self-judgment onto yourself day in and day out
pretty soon you're going to start to believe those things you're telling yourself and over time those
statements are going to grow and root themselves deeper into your psyche to the point that it forms
a permanent roadblock. So instead of exploring yourself and everything this life has to offer,
you're head butting that wall you've built hoping a hole appears
but here's a little secret for you. As long as self-judgment is present that wall will be too.
Now how we adjust and fix this specifically is a deeper conversation for a later date, however
I want to give you one action step to walk away with. Separate fact from opinion.
Start observing yourself more and more and when you notice self-judgment starting to arise
ask yourself is this a fact or is this an opinion. You'll be surprised by how
much stuff we make up in our heads and then believe because... well we told ourselves to.
Number five is break up with... fear it's nothing more than a figment of my imagination.
That i've let control me a set of strings playing my life
like musicians do violins and symphonies. I'm tired of this song.
I think it's time to change it. No I think it's time fear and I
go our separate ways and splits like gymnasts
or like bananas do on that famous dessert see fear you and I are not compatible.
We never were so I'm not sure what drink I mistakenly sipped
when I thought we could somehow maintain a healthy relationship.
It's not you, it's me. I'm just ready to move on.
It's been a while since I've performed a poem, but
that felt good. See the point I'm making with this is that if you want to reinvent yourself and
make a shift in the direction you're traveling in life then you have to break up with fear.
Now I get it it's a natural feeling. It's a part of being human especially when you're
trying something for the first time or making a significant change in your life but it doesn't
mean fear has to control your life. That's called a toxic relationship and that never works.
Instead use that fear you feel as fuel. Remember fear is just False Evidence that Appears Real.
I hope I share something with you in this video that you found valuable, that you found helpful
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Always remember to stay true to you and I'll see you the next one.
Peace!