What up my beautiful people, my name is Keara Graves. If you're new to this YouTube channel,
thank you so much for clicking on my video
Welcome!
I am a femme queer girl
and I make a lot of gay videos for you guys for all my...
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for all my queerios, for all my bi babies, for all my...
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I just watched that intro over and cringed so much
This video goes out for all you feminine queer girls, like myself
Who are insecure
because
they don't look gay
And
They're afraid they're not ever gonna get a girlfriend
because all the queer girls aren't gonna know that you're gay
because you look like you're "straight" according to society
Well, if that's what you've been worrying about
I'm here to save the day today in this video because I'm going to be
giving you guys a few tips on how you can
let people know that you're queer
without changing anything about how you want to dress
because I know that the stereotypical look for like
queer girls or gay girls or lesbians or whatever label you want to use is
you know, very masculine-presenting, like short hair
boyish clothes, which is cool for some people but
other people just wanna dress super femme like me!
I'm gonna give you guys a few tips on how you can let other people know without changing anything
about the way you present.
This topic is very near and dear to my heart because when I first came out
I didn't think I was ever gonna get a girlfriend because
I thought all the queer girls were gonna think I was straight and even if they were attracted to me
they wouldn't approach me, they wouldn't come up to me
because they'd think
I'm straight
and then I would just never get a girlfriend
so if this is you
I got you, boo
I got you
Here are some things that you can do.
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Number one
This is the-- probably the most important thing that you're going to probably have to do
if you want to
get a girlfriend is go out and get that girlfriend.
Be the initiator
Some of you guys like to be approached and you're a little too scared to approach girls if you
see a girl at a cafe and think she's pretty
you're probably thinking in your head like "oh shit"
"I hope she comes over here"
but deep down, you're like... "I look straight"
So she probably won't think I'm into her.
Here's a quick fix for that
Initiate it yourself.
Go up to her and be like, okay,
this is exactly what you need to do. Watch and learn folks...
*clears throat dramatically*
Hey.
*awkward laugh*
Uh... is that a...
latte with almond milk?
That's funny, I got the same thing. Are you...?
Are you lactose intolerant?
No?
Oh cuz if I-- OOF--
if I were to drink that dairy milk I would be farting...
um...
Don't do that.
I'm not an expert on how to flirt with girls, but moral of the story is
initiate that conversation yourself.
Don't wait for people to walk up to you. You got to do it. I know it's scary.
But once you get past that fear and just do it, it'll be so much easier
once you're actually in the conversation and you can feel it out
You can feel it out if she's actually queer too and if she's into you and if she's not...
well, at least you tried, right?
The second tip I can give to you is be open about your sexuality on social media if you
are comfortable doing that
That is something that has helped me
I talked about it a lot in my posts and stuff and I put the little
pride flag in my bio or a rainbow
You can make little hints about it on social media and
maybe girls will find out through your social media that you're queer
and you don't even have to do anything.
In that case,
even if you do meet a girl that you really like and you didn't mention that you're queer,
if she follows your social media
she'll see like the little pride flag in your bio and be like, "oh, okay, great!"
or you know if you make a post about it, she'll be like,
"ah okay good"
"like I know now"
even though it was hard to tell maybe when she met you because
you're super feminine
Now she knows
so yeah, that's tip number two for you
Tip number three, just bring it up casually in conversations
There's nothing wrong with bringing up the gay in a conversation that has nothing to do with the gay
Just because it's fun.
That's what I do all the time and people probably think it's annoying but I don't care.
Let's say
you... so you initiated yourself in this conversation with this pretty girl in the cafe
maybe one way to bring it up is
"Hey, Pride is coming up. Are you going to Pride?
If so, what are you gonna be doing? If so...
Maybe we can meet up there."
But I think if you give her enough of these eyes
She'll know
So...
Don't get mad at me if this is what you did in like grade 9
cuz you were like an emo gay scene kid
and you did this in high school.
You can do this in a tasteful way without making it awkward
You can buy like a little rainbow pin or something and put it on your backpack or your purse or
you can sew a rainbow patch into your jean jacket.
Wear something that's rainbow.
Maybe on a daily basis or whenever you may be in a situation where you are meeting girls.
Why not
wear a frickin rainbow pin on your jean jacket or something then she'll see that and be like,
"Oh... gay."
Something not super in-your-face
but something subtle maybe that makes you feel more comfortable? I don't know.
And the last tip I have for you is go to
LGBT events in your city
get involved with Pride
get involved with
LGBTQ+ groups at your school or at your...
book club...
...or at your dance class??
Do they have those there?
But get involved with any
LGBTQ+ events that you can
so that you can meet other queer people
And if you go to that event, I mean, people will know most likely that you're queer
So that's a good indication
Show that you're proud and just own it.
Last but not least, don't change yourself for
society.
PLEASE.
Please.
This is something that I thought I needed to do when I came out
I thought I needed to change the way I dressed and dress more masculine or
you know, cut my hair because I was queer and I thought that I wouldn't be
accepted as a part of the queer community
if I looked feminine
and if I looked "straight-passing"
and I know that's really silly but that's
genuinely what I thought and I feel like a lot of you guys may think that too.
But I just wanted to tell you,
you are queer no matter what you wear and how you present.
If you are queer, don't worry about
dressing queer
just dress in what makes you feel comfortable
Don't change yourself or try to fit in with groups if you don't want to or don't feel comfortable.
Dress as authentically as possible and
I just want you to feel comfortable in your own skin
If it's the other way around, if you are closeted and you feel pressured to dress super feminine,
but you do really want to wear more masculine clothes
you really do want to cut your hair
As long as it is safe to do so and it's not going to out you in an
unsafe environment,
go nuts! Do that.
If that's what's gonna make you feel more comfortable and more joyous in your own skin, please do that.
Moral of the story is
don't change for other people, or society, or anyone but yourself.
If this helped you in any way, please
please please let me know in the comments below.
If you do have any more suggestions other than what I said in this video
to let other queer girls know that you're queer even though you're feminine
Feel free to comment that below and let's have a chat!
Let me know what you thought of this video and I really hope you got something out of it.
And I will see you in my next video! I love you guys so much!
*kiss*
Bye!