If your ex clearly hates you… is it too late to get them back?
Not necessarily.
I’m Brad Browning, AKA Breakup Brad, and in this video I’ll explain what to do when
you want your ex back… but they currently ignore you or flat-out tell you they hate
your guts.
I’m going to give you some tips and guidance to help you defuse your ex’s emotions and
turn the ship around so you can eventually get back together.
Obviously, I can’t guarantee that the strategies I’ll be covering in this video will work
for you, because every situation is unique…
BUT, I can promise you that I’ve seen many of my coaching clients overcome similarly
dire-looking scenarios and successfully get their ex back… so, I know that these techniques
can and often do work.
At the very least, you can be confident you’ll be giving yourself the best possible chance
of starting over with your ex.
Where Do You Truly Stand With Your Ex Currently?
The first thing you need to do is figure out how bad your situation really is.
Sure, maybe the last time you saw your ex, he or she told you that they never wanted
to speak to you ever again….
But we all say things in the heat of the moment that aren’t true, or at least aren’t reflective
of our true feelings.
So, some questions to ask yourself:
#1 - How long has it been since your breakup?
The longer it’s been, and the more you’ve been trying already to get back together without
any luck, the tougher it’s going to be to reverse things and win them back.
#2 - What did you do to cause your ex’s current feelings towards you?
If you’ve been a terrible person for months or even years… if you’ve done all sorts
of horrible stuff to your ex….
Especially things like cheating, lying, etc…
then quite frankly you’re in a tough spot, and deservedly so.
But for most of you, it’s probably only a few things that caused them to hate you….
and you’ll be a lot more likely to be able to overcome those mistakes and repair trust
with your ex.
Try to be honest with yourself and really determine how bad you’ve been to your ex
and whether it’s realistic that they’ll be able to get over that.
#3 - How many times has your ex made their feelings clear to you?
Guys….. if your ex has gone to court to file a restraining order against you, that
means it’s over.
If your ex is now married to someone new, then that is also a pretty clear sign that
it’s time to give up and move on.
Thankfully, for most of you watching this video right now, things probably aren’t
that bleak.
In fact, maybe they’re not even as bad as you think.
For example, maybe your ex said they “never want to get back together” and told you
in no uncertain terms not to try to convince them to take you back.
In my experience, that type of thing is usually something your ex says because they know how
tough it will be for them to stay broken up… maybe they think that the breakup is the “right”
thing to do, but know it’ll cause them a lot of heartache and they’ll be tempted
to take you back to make those feelings disappear.
By telling you that the breakup is final and that they don’t want to hear from you, that’s
their way of trying to avoid the temptation of getting back together when they’re heartbroken
and missing you like mad.
Really, you’ll have to disregard your ex’s words, and instead think hard and identify
all the things -- or maybe it’s just 1 big thing -- that caused your ex to decide they
don’t want anything to do with you any more.
Stop Shooting Yourself In The Foot
The last thing you want to be doing right now is reminding your ex about the negative
things that contributed to their decision to break up.
You’ve hopefully already assessed your own situation and come up with at least a rough
idea of what your ex is angry about, or why they truly wanted to break up.
Now, it’s time to STOP doing all of those things that are making matters worse, and
begin to make positive progress towards turning things around.
One easy way to stop doing any more damage to your chances?
Stop reaching out to your ex altogether.
This, of course, is basically my “No Contact” strategy….
And if you’re not already engaged in No Contact, or haven’t gone through with the
full 30 day period of radio silence… then start now.
If you’re not talking to your ex or communicating with them in any meaningful way, you can’t
say or do things to make matters worse.
No Contact also has a number of other benefits, but I’ve talked about that in many other
videos already, so I won’t get in to the details right now.
If you’ve already finished an extended period of No Contact, or you absolutely must communicate
with your ex for some reason… then at the very least, make sure you don’t have any
kind of negative or serious talks with your ex.
If you have to chat with them, keep the encounter fun and upbeat, and don’t bring up anything
remotely serious.
Just pretend to be happy, and avoid reminding him or her of anything that might trigger
negative memories and emotions.
Basically, avoid making matters any worse than they already are.
Reset Your Ex’s Feelings Towards You By Using The Power of Psychology
The human brain is built for resilience, which means we tend to subconsciously let go of
negative memories and hold on to only the most positive, happy ones in the long term…
its a chemical mechanism hardwired into our genes to make sure that one bad experience
doesn’t put you in a state of depression for the rest of your life.
This same process also means that your ex’s anger, and any negative thoughts and memories
they had of you at the time of your breakup, will begin to fade from their mind shortly
after the breakup…
Eventually, everything that led up to their decision to break up with you are going to
fade away…. leaving them with a few nostalgic, happy memories of your best times together.
That’s great news if your ex is ignoring you or hates you right now…
BUT, you need to speed up this process.
You can’t wait for it to happen on its own.
For that very reason, I’ve come up with a few simple psychological “hacks” you
can use to help suppress your ex’s negative memories and make them focus on the intimate
experiences that you shared together when your relationship was still in the early ‘honeymoon’
phase.
These are ridiculously subtle, under-the-radar tactics -- like casually mentioning a really
happy shared memory from your time together in the course of some unrelated conversation.
So, if you want to learn more about how you can tap into your ex’s brain to reset their
feelings about you and your possible future together, watch the full video on my website,
www.BreakupBrad.com … this is something I delve into in that video, especially in
the part where I explain the “Rekindling” phase of my 3R System.
Again, that video is at BreakupBrad.com.
Rebuild Real Attraction Until Your Ex Can’t Help But Ask For You Back
At the very root, all breakups are fundamentally caused by the same thing: a loss of attraction.
Not just physical attraction, but also romantic and emotional attraction.
To put it bluntly… if your ex was MADLY in love with you, and would give ANYTHING
to be with you, there’s nothing they wouldn’t be willing to do in order to make that happen.
Love is the most powerful emotion in the human brain, so by making your ex feel that kind
of burning attraction for you again, you’ll be able to overpower any logical or rational
reasons your ex has been using to justify your breakup.
Whether they hate you or not will be irrelevant, because they’ll literally be willing to
climb mountains to get you back.
So, your job at this point is to make your ex fall back in love with you… to re-build
their emotional and sexual attraction for you to the point where they can’t help but
beg you to take them back.
It sounds totally far-fetched, I know… but I promise you that it can and does happen.
Clients of mine, many of whom were facing equally challenging or perhaps even more dire
situations than you are right now, have had their ex pleading with them for another chance.
Obviously re-building this kind of attraction isn’t going to happen overnight, but remember:
you made your ex fall for you in the past.
You did this already…
you fell in love, and your ex felt that burning, passionate attraction for you.
So, you know it’s possible, you just need to transform yourself back into that person
they fell in love with early in your relationship.
It’ll take time, you’ll need to flirt like crazy, and read your ex’s responses
to ensure you don’t move too fast or make any mistakes along the way….
But once you’ve got your ex feeling that same kind of burning desire that made them
want to be with you in the first place, it’s just a matter of saying “yes” when they
suggest you give your relationship another chance.
Get A Game Plan & Stay The Course
Don’t get ahead of yourself.
Everything I’ve covered in this video is true, and it’s something that’s definitely
possible for most of you watching this video… but you need to start from step 1.
Visit my website BreakupBrad.com, watch the full video tutorial, employ a period of No
Contact, use my psychological tactics to subtly change your ex’s feelings towards you….
It’s not complicated, but you need to get it right in order to have a chance.
My Ex Factor program breaks down the entire process, answering all the “what if” questions
that might pop up along the way… you can get a copy of the program at BreakupBrad.com,
but I’m not going to try and talk you into signing up.
Just make sure you have a clear idea of how you need to proceed to get from where you
are now to the point where your ex is asking you to get back together on their own accord….
And stick to the game plan until that becomes a reality.
Hopefully you found this video helpful… feel free to leave your questions in the comments
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Thanks for watching, see you again soon.