There's got to be a cheaper solution than buying a Porsche. How to deal with
midlife crisis? I've got the top 10 ways for you here today. I'm not even sure
what midlife means. If you die when you're 50 then midlife is 25. But
traditionally, it's that period of time from about age 40 to about age 60. Where
people come to terms with their own mortality. They realize they're getting
older. They take an inventory of their life and they think, "Huh, have I
accomplished what I wanted to accomplish?" Is my life meaning anything to anyone?
This is what we mean when we're talking about a midlife crisis. For some people
it can trigger pretty severe depression or anxiety.
It doesn't have to. And I think that there's some things that we can do. So I
brought the top 10 ways to deal with midlife crisis. Today, starting with
number 10, acknowledge what's happening. It's okay
to notice that you're going through these feelings. There's a whole lot of
things you can do about it. We got 9 more things on our list.
It starts with acknowledgement and accepting that your life is where it is.
The fact that it's happening is not a bad thing. It's just to be noticed.
So acknowledge what's happening. And then let's step up to number 9 on our list.
Number 9 on our countdown is to refocus. When you're working with a
camera, if it gets out of focus then you can bring it right back into focus by
refocusing. That's what we're talking about here. Midlife crisis is often
caused by focusing on the deficits, the failures, the places that
work out. Okay, you can focus on that all day long.
But notice what it's doing to your feelings. When I'm talking about
refocusing and bringing it back into clarity, what if you were to focus on
your achievements? And what you've accomplished and your gratitude for a
life that's been well lived up to this point? You could always find ways to
compare how you're doing. It could always be better. it can always be worse. Knowing
that, you've got a choice as to which way you look to make the comparison.
Refocusing brings you back into a sense of abundance and gratitude for the life
that you have which is abundant and rich and good. Refocus. Now coming in at number
8 on our countdown is to avoid alcohol and other drugs. I wish I didn't
even have to say this. But you know, it's pretty common for people when they're
feeling some distress to turn to solutions that are probably going to
make things worse. Alcohol and other drugs tend to numb us in the moment and
create additional problems for us later on. Interesting that I would bring this
up during a midlife crisis conversation because interestingly enough, some people
get clear to this point in their life pretty much free from substance abuse.
And because of the crisis, they launch into a pattern that is very destructive.
And creates all kinds of problems for the people around them that they love.
Avoid alcohol and other drugs. Now, number 7 on the countdown comes back to a
classic image of the midlife crisis. And that is the flashy sports cars or the
extravagant trips or the new bling that was purchased. Number
7 is to think twice about big purchases.
I said think twice. You might want to think 3 or 4 times about it.
There's a lot of regrets that occur when people impulsively go out there and do
one of these big flashy things to deal with their midlife crisis. There's better
things that you can do. Think twice about those big purchases. And that leads us to
number 6. Talk to someone. Honestly. You've got people in your life who love
you and they want to support you through this transition time, through this
challenging time of your life. Especially if it's leading to depression and
feelings of inadequacy. Talk to someone. It could be a professional too. A
therapist, a counselor, psychologist a life coach. Call me if you need to. Let's
talk about this in a way that allows you to navigate this time of life in a way
that will set you up for further success. And that brings us to number 5. Think
upgrade. Upgrade is not throwing away your entire life that you created before
in exchange for a brand new one. No. It's taking the life that you have and
tweaking it or adjusting it or upgrading it in a way that it's even better.
You've got creative power that will allow you to come up with some really
creative ideas about that, that don't have you throwing away the old life.
That's one of the risks of a midlife crisis. You've got relationships, you've
got assets, you've got capital in your world. Including human life relationship
capital. Don't throw it away. Take what you've got and think upgrade. Which leads
us into number 4. Which for me is key relationships. Turn to your key
relationships. I think there's 5 levels of key relationships that we have in our
life. Starting with our Creator which is number 1. I'm not here as your
spiritual adviser. But I'm acknowledging that you got to come to terms with your
source. Where did you come from? Your Creator? Our second most important key
relationship is the one that we have with ourselves. And some people skip this
one they forget that it's even a relationship. But this is an important
one. Especially right now as you're going through a midlife crisis. Pay attention
to how you treat yourself, how you think of yourself. How you talk about yourself.
Our third key relationship is our family. And there's a lineup within family. I
think it goes spouse, children, extended family. In that order. You've got these
people in your life for a reason. Our fourth key relationship is the one
that we have with other people. These are your co-workers. They're people they're
your clients, your customers, the people at the store the people, at the club, the
people at the church. They're all important. They're not as important as
your family. So get clear about the priorities. And then fifth is your
relationship with things. This is the one that gets twisted sometimes when people
are going through the midlife deal. Because they exchange all of the more
important relationships for their relationship with things. Makes them feel
young and vital again. Well all of your key relationships can do that. You're a
relationship with things is on the list. It is actually important.
But it's not as important as the people. Turn to those key relationships. Now,
number 3. This is a powerful one. That's why it's near the top of the list.
Physical activity. Your body's been changing hasn't it. I know. And we never
want to acknowledge that as we get older certain things don't work as well as
they used to. Physical activity is a really important way to maintain
vitality, to preserve your energy, to take care of your mental health. Most of the
research that I've looked at suggests that you get engaged in good aerobic
activity at least three times a week for about
a half-hour. That's just a baseline to kind of gauge this from. Activity is
something that can preserve your precious life energy for years to come.
Make sure you're paying attention to that part of your life. Which brings us
up to number 2. Number 2 on our list is solitude, prayer, meditation,
peacefulness, mindfulness. You pick a word from those that resonates with you. It's
the way that you spend time quieting all of the noise. Just calm it all down for a
minute so that you can get centered. Meditation has been practiced for
centuries. And the purpose of it is to bring us into tune with our selves and
our connection with the world around us as well. This is something that will
increase the clarity also as you're moving forward to create the upgrade
that we already talked about. And number one on our list. This is going to
surprise you so much. Coming from the Positivity Doc. Practice positivity.
Practice positivity. Get clear about how your own thinking is affecting your
experience of life. In the description down there, you're going to find a link
to my mini book. Portable Positivity. The reason I mention it here is because I
have given a complete outline there of 2 processes that are going on in your
mind all the time. Evaluation and creation. I'm offering you a digital copy
of that book for free because I want you to connect with what you're doing here
in your mind. So that you have some clear understanding about how to operate the
equipment. As you do so, this brilliant mind of yours
is going to lead you through not only this phase of life but everything else
that's going on in your life right now. You know, midlife crisis is just one
the things that comes up for us in life. I mentioned the mini book. Connect with
that. Free copy, digital copy of my mini book is available to you right down
there. Click on the link in the description and it'll take you right to
it. That's going to walk you through the 2 processes that I mentioned. I'll see
you tomorrow.