So what does it mean for this symbol to emerge from
- the feminine symbols let's say -
to emerge from chaos, well
this picture - this is a picture of venus,
the goddess of love
right
and so I cut this picture out of a larger picture
and it's venus manifesting herself in a transcendent space
in the sky
in the same way that christ did in the previous representation
and she has rays coming off her
and there's all these men who are knights
kneeling in front of the image
but what does that mean?
well it means that men use the image of female perfection
to motivate themselves
and that's exactly right
it's precisely what they do!
you see that in the Tom Sawyer story
so Tom Sawyer is about twelve years old
and he's still hanging around with his friends
Like Huck Finn
and this girl moves across the street,
Becky
and she comes out and he's struck by her
for the first time in his life something's changed
and the first thing he does is hop up on a picket fence
and show off and balance in front of her
and say well "Look at me! Look at me!"
He's like the male bowerbird
building something beautiful so the female will approve of it
it's motivation!
you know, and that's something that
I think modern women don't really understand
about men
they don't understand that...
at least to the degree that males are uncorrupted
and not bitter because of being rejected
they're doing everything they can to kneel before the eternal image of the feminine
and try to make themselves worthy
that's the chivalry story, right?
that's what you should encourage in your partner
and so out of chaos emerges this first form
it's the feminine form
it's partly the form that represents novelty as such
and on one hand it's promise and on the other hand it's threat
you wouldn't believe - and I don't know
I don't understand the situation with women
as well I understand the situation with men
obviously, being a man
but I *cough*
I don't know if women have any idea
how paralyzing they are to - especially - young men
*cough*
a large - very large - number of
my clinical clients, but also young men I've talked to in general
are absolutely terrified of women
because they're terrified of being rejected
and the terror exists in precise proportion to their attraction to the woman!
which is a horrible paradoxical situation to be in
it's often why men make such fools of themselves
in front of women that they're attracted to
it's because first of all they don't see the woman that they're attracted to
cause what the hell do they know about her?
they don't see her as an individual,
they see her as the manifestation of a judgemental ideal
and then it's only in establishing the relationship
with the actual woman
that they can start differentiating
between the judgemental ideal and the actual, individual woman
and that also requires a sacrifice
and the sacrifice is...
you never can have an ideal woman
so to have a relationship with any woman
you have to sacrifice the relationship with the ideal woman
and you have to see the individual woman...
and separate her from the ideal
and that's the same thing that happens to the hero in Sleeping Beauty
right, he sees the evil queen
who actually turns into the Dragon of Chaos
and it's not until he can
defeat her, that he
can establish a relationship with the actual princess
and that's exactly the case
I had a - one of my clients
who ran this men's group
which is quite interesting
one of the things they had initiates...
do, which was very intelligent,
was to go out and ask 50 women in one day for their phone numbers
why?
Politely! Properly! You know,
it wasn't a - it was a game but
it wasn't a stupid game!
and the idea was
Get over your fear of rejection!
and how do you do that?
by encountering it continually
and continually, and continually
so that you're no longer paralysed by this