hey guys i am back with another enneagram 9 video it's been a while since i've done a video in this
series but there has been a subject that has just been weighing on my heart a lot lately
and clients that i have have been bringing it to me and i just thought you know what
i really want to unpack this and discuss this today discuss this idea of are you stuck what
does that look like for a nine and the word that keeps coming to my mind is the word inertia and so
we're gonna kind of break that down today you know figure out what that looks like in a nine and how
can we move past that and different things like that and so welcome to my channel i have my coffee
i'm cozy i've got a cozy sweatshirt on i'm a nine for those new here i'm hillary i'm your certified
enneagram life coach and i love to teach the enneagram in the simplest and easiest way possible
truthfully it's because it's the way i needed to learn it and so i love just breaking it down
piece by piece for you all and teaching you um one video at a time and so i'm gonna go ahead and put
this down over here because i did not think this through i don't have anywhere to put my coffee
right here so that's okay it can go behind me um but yeah i just kind of want to start right now
and dive into you know are you stuck and what does that look like what i really want to emphasize
about this video is while it is four type nines i really believe it's for all types because
anybody can struggle um in this area and be stuck and and whatever that looks like for them in their
life you know and especially if you're connected to a nine um you could be a one with a you know
nine wing you can be an eight with a nine wing you could be a three that goes towards a nine
inch stress you could be a six that goes towards a nine um i think is it their blind spots the nine
and then they do go there towards health but you really can use all parts and any other type really
can get stuck and so i really wanted to kind of start with that of if you aren't a nine but
you've stumbled on this video it's okay a lot of this is based around being an enneagram nine
but it can help anyone and so let's go ahead and look up that definition of inertia which for me
it says inertia a tendency to do nothing or to remain unchanged and i do think a lot of people
struggle with this especially if you're an enneagram nine our core weakness is sloth and what
that refers to is a sense of inertia or laziness particularly with regard to yourself and your per
priorities and agenda and so for the nine that sloth means a sense of inertia or laziness but
not how you think it's not lazy in your everyday stuff and what you're doing because really a nine
could be extremely busy just not always doing the right thing and why it's because your sense of
inertia or laziness has to do with yourself your priorities your agenda and a lot of time a nine is
asleep in this or not moving in this um they don't want to be affected they kind of just don't want
the world to you know affect them at all and so they kind of can stay in this state of inertia and
so that's what i really wanted to break down today i'd love you to start thinking about your own life
and how what are some areas that you're currently stuck in or have been stuck in in your past and
are you sitting here i mean because clearly you clicked on this video and some i'm assuming
you're like okay hilary i need you to help me get unstuck and that is hopefully what i'm going to do
today just give you some tools to help you to get unstuck and because it really does start with you
and it really does take um the nine or you know even if you're not a nine uh becoming aware of
your why and why you're stuck and what that looks like and and things like that and so that's kind
of where we're going where i want to start with is are you in limbo are you having a hard time right
now making decisions figuring out your own purpose figuring out where you want to go in life um what
you want to do or do you have a ton of ideas and you're like i actually have a lot of ideas of what
i want to do but maybe there's so many of them you don't know where to start or maybe you're
scared to start maybe if you do start it causes conflict somehow maybe going after your own dreams
and desires is not what other people have for you maybe it's different than what people want for you
because a lot of times a nine can feel the room could feel others you know at all times
and unfortunately it causes them to not be able to feel their own feelings and thoughts and desires
sometimes that could be one reason why some some people get stuck it's because to get unstuck
might cause conflict with something or someone or within themselves right and so i think identifying
if you are stuck why you're stuck why you can't move what's holding you back can really help you
the one thing that has helped me immensely is realizing that when i think of a rock
and i think of it not moving how does it move well it can't move on its own right
and so it something or someone has to push it make it move something happens you know sometimes i
think that that is similar to the enneagram 9 that we won't move unless pushed unless somebody else
gets us to move or something else gets us to move um some examples i was thinking of are something
crazy happens in your life and all of a sudden it causes you to move or something big causes
you to move or you know something tragic happens and it causes you to move i know that that is my
story that's a piece of my story and i really wanted to share that with you guys where i'm
an enneagram coach right i'm a life coach i you know went and got all the certifications for this
and started my business and everything but i'm an enneagram nine and so i get this question a lot of
hillary how are you moving forward and i'm gonna be honest with you i wish i would have done this
a long time ago in my 20s because the dream was there the desire was there the giftings were there
my i was there but i couldn't propel myself forward i could i just didn't i don't even know
if i couldn't but i didn't i didn't go after my own dreams and desires a i was so concerned with
everybody else's so i was making sure everybody else met theirs first and so if you're doing
that i would dig deep into that and figure out that why and if that's a healthy space for you
to be in because i don't think it was for me i didn't really start this part of my journey until
my mid-30s and what happened was i lost my mom and i've talked about this before i haven't shared the
whole story yet that is coming but um i've been putting that off because i have to dig deep into
feelings and emotions you know my mom passed away in my mid-30s and it caused me to wake up and go
what am i doing with my life i have all these dreams and desires and giftings but
i'm not doing anything with them and unfortunately my you know i i thought
i'm i guess i'm thinking of myself as like a rock and i'm not moving well something tragic
happened and it did cause me to move i look back and i go did it have to be that way no
um if i would have the tools and self-awareness i do think i would have moved sooner and so
that's what i'm doing today is giving you the tools and the self-awareness and i just want
you to identify in your own life where are you stuck where is inertia playing a part
but i believe inertia is also you know once it gets rolling it's it's rolling until stopped right
and so the other piece to especially enneagram nines is we're either doing nothing or we're going
full force and so when you are you know moving um utilize that to your advantage know that okay
i i'm on that path of movement and i'm going after it um don't allow something or someone to stop you
or a conflict to stop you um go after you know those dreams and those desires and what really
you're put here on earth to do i believe you know you have purposes you have you know there
are plans for you and it's so important for a nine to take their place in life and show up at show up
who they're supposed to be and who they're meant to be and so guess what i'm trying to say is you
know a lot of times this all has to do with cause and effect you know think of your life when you
were moving in life and you made a big decision what caused it were you able to just make that
decision and go after what you wanted maybe you were or did something happen i know sometimes it
could be like a health issue happened and then i had to make a decision or you know something else
happened and i had to make a decision and so i i think my my my want to today is to help
you identify those moments and and i think when we uncover and we we learn more about ourselves
and have more self-awareness of what we do and what our patterns are we can identify him faster
and not let that dictate us and control us because if you think about it especially
if you're a nine if if you don't move unless something comes or someone comes
and moves you you're essentially to me being controlled a little bit so and nines don't
want to be controlled right we do not like to be controlled and so that kind of wakes me up too or
i'm like no i don't want to just sit here and wait until something happens for me to move so how do i
do it today how do i not wait and i know i have done a video on sloth and i think some of this
might be a little similar but i just feel like this is such an important conversation for type
nines that i get all the time with my clients and so it's like okay how do i move hillary what do i
do and all i know is when a nine actually sits down and writes down a list it could help them
i would also say identify your time wasters what is wasting your time i know for me personally
i love games on my phone i will just sit on a game for hours it could be solitaire
it could be it could be anything uh but it's it's it allows me to fall asleep um reading books was
a big one for me that allowed me to live somebody else's life out and not have to show up to my own
again these things aren't wrong it's just we have to have boundaries on them so that they
don't suck the life out of us and take things from us and steal time from us and so for me
personally i just had to put some strict boundaries down for myself and move forward
and you know do the things that i meant to do and i have to say right now as i'm speaking to
you i actually am in a current struggle and i have not been able to have a breakthrough
and i'm hoping after doing this video i'll learn listen to my own advice and have a breakthrough
but i stopped exercising i used to go to a class a couple years ago before the world you know
changed on us and that got me there because i had a friend i met at an exercise class
and we exercised every day for the most part and i stayed in shape that way um but then i
haven't been doing that for a few couple years a year and a half i'm not for sure how long uh
a couple months ago we went ahead and bought a treadmill and i thought okay that's gonna help me
that's i'm gonna get on this treadmill you know i spent some money i'm gonna work out and i did and
i got on there for probably a week and a half and i was super sore which i do not like being sore i
just hate it i don't know do you like do you like being sore do you work out do you like being sore
i just hate it and sometimes that's what causes me not to do it plus it was like every morning
i like to have mornings a little bit more slow in the morning but it's like in order for me to get
on with my day and you know um meet with clients and do all of this i had to have my workouts in
the morning and and so you know i did it for about a week and a half and then i don't know
something happened i forget what though something happened maybe we went on vacation i think we
might have so something happened and it caused me to stop right it's this cause
and effect thing all the time and that's what i'm trying to teach you and ask you today think about
your causes and effects in your life think about why you started and why you stopped i
identification is gonna help um and so i stopped right and i'm as i'm processing this with you
right now i'm like hillary why did you stop and i i think we did go on vacation and therefore when
we got back i was out of the habit again and i have not been able to get back on that treadmill
i'm a little embarrassed but i just haven't been able to do it every
single day i think about it every single day i'm like hillary today's the day
and i'm like oh but that comfy chair and blanket and coffee just looks better and i choose it and
so okay hold me accountable hold me accountable ask me hillary have you worked out today
because i do think accountability is a big piece in this too i think accountability
helps why do you think people hire me for coaching i can hold them accountable and therefore i need
to implement that in this piece of my own life right now i just think in the end time management
is helpful for a nine i think identifying what's you know your causes and effects are why you're
stopped why you move um uncover you know what this is in your own life it's gonna look different even
if you aren't a nine uncover that and ask yourself why are you maybe procrastinating
um are you overwhelmed are you stressed is it hard um and i think identifying this helps us that's my
purpose today guys and i haven't even had a drink of this coffee the entire video it was supposed
to be a little video with us and the coffee and i just got on this this roll and tangent
of teaching you guys but um i think i'm gonna go ahead and close that up i i really hope and
and pray that this video helped you today and that it's gonna help you find freedom it's going
to help you find movement it's going to help you identify why you're not moving if you need
to be moving but one more thing sometimes we do need rest too you don't always need to be
moving you don't always need to be running towards a prize um we do need rest and so
that's another piece is this a purposeful season where you're supposed to be resting i've had those
those are real those are true so honor your body honor yourself and identify what season you're in
let me know in the comments down below i would love to know if there's anything i can help you
with um let me know but i'm gonna go ahead and close it here today thank you guys so much for
being with me today spending this time with me the last thing is if you've gotten to this point and
you're like hillary i need coaching on this or i don't even know my type i just stumbled on your
video or whatever your reason is i always love to let you guys know i do offer enneagram coaching
packages i offer typing sessions and different things like that my website is linked down below
all of that information is found there but that's all i have for today guys until next time bye guys
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