Does your ex miss you?
In this video we're going to be talking about how to tell if your ex misses you after a
breakup and I'm also going to be sharing with you at the end of this video how you can tell
if your ex misses you even though it might seem like they're not missing you, like they're
moving on entirely.
Okay, so stick around to the end and you'll learn more about that.
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Okay, so how do you know if your ex misses you.
The first is if you've had a pretty strong relationship in the past where the two of
you actually shared a lot of good memories.
Maybe the two of you had some inside jokes or pet names that you call each other.
Maybe you had some fun experiences.
Maybe you went on some cool trips or did some interesting things together.
Right.
As long as that happened and as long as you have nice things that happened in the past.
Yeah.
Your ex is probably going to miss you.
Okay.
Yeah.
They're probably going to look back and say, yeah, I remember those good times.
I remember that.
We used to get along really well.
I remember that one time we took that road trip down to the whatever place.
Right, and yeah, they might have some emotions that are blocking them from really accessing
that right now, but they probably missed that if they were going to be real and honest with
themselves.
They probably missed that.
The second sign that your ex misses you is that they actually had kind of an identity
when the two of you were together where you know you were their partner and they were
you, your partner, like, Oh hey, that's my girlfriend over there where they thought of
you, and they said, yeah, that's my boyfriend over here.
And if that was part of their identity or if part of their identity was the life together
that the two of you lead, you know, oh, I'm going to come home when we're going to be
together.
Oh, you know, I don't know.
I need to check with my boyfriend.
I don't know.
I need to check with my girlfriend first.
If they had this identity where the two of you were together, then yes, they miss you.
Okay.
Because that was part of their identity.
The relationship that they had with you was part of their identity and to cut that off,
they can't just look back at that and pretend it didn't happen.
They can't just look back at it and pretend there wasn't good times in that because that
was part of who they were.
And just the same way that you can't ignore certain chapters of your own, like your ex
can't just ignore the fact that the two of you were together and the two of you were
voluntarily together and the two of you probably had a good experience together.
That's the second sign of your ex misses you.
The third one is that the two of you were emotionally available with one another when
you were together and what we mean emotionally available.
Now, oftentimes people can be emotionally unavailable when they're just in a relationship
or dating a concept like, Oh yeah, you're an attractive woman.
I've always wanted to be with an attractive woman.
Let's go out on a date.
Right?
In that case, I'm not actually emotionally available to the woman.
I'm just interacting with the concept of her as an attractive woman because you know, Oh
yeah, if an attractive woman likes me, then that means that I'm really cool and that other
people should think that I'm cool and respect me.
Right.
That's more of an emotional unavailability sign, but emotional availability is really
not about interacting with you as a concept, but about saying, hey, there's a person here
in front of me.
What's your experience?
What are your dreams?
What are your desires?
What are your fears or your anxieties?
What are your hopes?
And starting to get to know that person's starting to share of yourself with that person
started to get vulnerable and express how you actually feel listened to them when they
express how they really feel.
That's emotional availability.
And if you and your ex we're doing that with one another, then there's probably a very
strong possibility that they actually miss you because the two of you had that emotional
bond.
The fourth sign, the your ex misses you is that they're engaging in activities after
the breakup.
So what do you mean by numbing activities?
By that I mean that they're doing things to try to mask over the pain of the breakup.
They're trying to essentially put a bandaid over a bullet hole wound, you know, trying
to do things to deny the pain that they are naturally in after a breakup.
They might do things like drink a lot, they might do things even like doing drugs, so
they might do other forms of numbing activities like zoning out with video games or tv or
just going out and partying every night or a jumping into a rebound relationship or something
else that might make them sort of not have to feel in the moment, and this is a kind
of emotional unavailability, but most people come out of it eventually after a breakup,
but it is a very strong sign that your ex does miss you.
You know?
Yeah.
They might be kind of turning the volume down by engaging in these numbing activities, but
it doesn't mean that there's not that emotion there.
It doesn't mean that there's not that missing you there in the background.
It's still there.
They're just trying to hide from it and eventually they'll probably either have to face it and
deal with it or they'll just have to kind of become emotionally dead inside forever
in every aspect of their life.
And that's not cool.
Most people don't emotionally die and so your ex is probably going to have to deal with
this.
That's another sign that your ex misses you.
The fifth sign and the one that I was alluding to at the beginning of this video is that
your ex is doing what's called displacement displacement.
Okay, so if your ex immediately after the breakup goes into a rebound relationship,
numbing activity, but if they go into a rebound relationship or new relationship and they
move that relationship up really fast to the level of commitment that they had with you,
then that is what's called displacement.
They're.
Fast forwarding to the natural and organic process of building a strong solid relationship
because they want the relationship to look and seem like the one that they had with you.
They're trying to recreate the relationship they had with you, but with someone else,
they essentially still in the relationship that they had with you, but you're not there.
They're filling in the spot that you were with somebody else.
They're not in the relationship with that other person.
Emotionally speaking.
They are in their relationship with you that has displacement and it could be hurtful at
first to think, oh man, it took us like a year or two, move in together and now they're
moving in after only two weeks.
Is the relationship really that much stronger than ours and it can really hurt, but you
have to realize that that's not an organic relationship happening there.
That's in fast forwarding.
It's I'm trying to leap frog past the real work that it takes to have a legit relationship
and instead they're in a rebound relationship and instead they're trying to experience being
in a relationship with you, but without you, they still feel for you, but they can't deal
with all the emotional baggage that there is between the two of you.
That's why they're displacing.
That's why they're in a rebound relationship.
That's why they're not emotionally available.
Okay, so I hope this video has helped you get an idea about where ex is at emotionally.
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