There's that cringe video of Meghan and Harry where they are holding hands on a royal engagement
and they really want to keep holding hands on that royal engagement.
Besides being cringe and a public display of insecurity, there are a couple more things
that this gesture reveals about their personalities.
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This gesture goes hand in hand, pun intended, with that constant touching between them at
all times.
Now, it's not that touching between couples is something bad or forbidden.
In fact, touch is one of the most important manifestations of love, and if you haven't
read the book "The five languages of love", it gives very good insights about how so many
people like to receive and give this expression of affection.
But as in every kind of communication in public, it's important to keep in mind that your behavior
should be adapted to whatever you're doing at any given time.
If you're at work, you should behave in a professional way.
If you're at the beach, you can be much more relaxed.
If you're going out as a couple, in private, then you can have more freedom in how you
communicate your affection.
So, I'm really worried about anyone that thinks that these affection displays while working,
are normal, or even cute.
Because in these settings, Meghan and Harry were actually working.
They were working royals at the time and were at a royal engagement.
Something that is part of the job.
And I'm sure that those people that defend their decision to hold hands, to touch each
other in this way in a formal setting, would NOT do the same if they were going to enter
a meeting room with their boyfriend, or fiancé, or spouse, or anything.
If you were entering a meeting room, to have a formal, or... work meeting, or any kind
of negotiation, you would not be holding hands.
No matter how much you love your partner, that would look silly and unprofessional,
to say the least.
But the real message that you would be giving, and the actual message that Meghan AND Harry
are giving here, is profound insecurity.
They are aware that this is not the place or time for public displays of affection,
or PDAs.
And even so, they think they are getting away with something by doing that.
My question is, why do they feel compelled to do it in these situations, besides trying
to show everyone that they cannot live without each other?
That last sentence is the main problem.
They are at a royal engagement, as effectively the Duke and Duchess of Sussex, and they are
more focused in public displays of affection than in the task at hand itself.
And please, don't let me started with the way Meghan just won't allow Harry to have
at least some space to interact with the attendants.
Notice here how she just stands straight, without letting go of his hand, waiting for
him to just finish and doesn't have the slightest gesture towards the person he's trying to
talk to.
So, add bad manners to the list.
What they are signaling, is being unprofessional.
Not taking their jobs serious.
And we already know that taking the royal job seriously was not on their agenda, from
the very beginning.
There's another problem, much more relevant to this.
And I'm sure that up to this point in 2022, they haven't figured it out yet.
You want to bring awareness to your initiatives, to the events that you assist, to the charities
you support, or even your business.
You don't want, you absolutely don't want to bring attention to yourself.
Even Kim Kardashian knows that!
you use your fame and notoriety to bring awarenes to whatever you're selling, or whatever you
want to convince others of doing.
This behavior of Meghan and Harry is just bringing attention to themselves.
People end up noticing that something is wrong with these two, and precisely, video footage
will showcase their cringe behavior and then it will get in the way of their message.
Well, not that they are interested in bringing attention to their charities.
There's more than enough evidence that they are narcissists and will surely enjoy that
the headlines talk about them, and not about the events or the charities they assist.
But this reveals a deeper problem, and it's that narcissists always crave attention and
approval of those around them.
Narcissists actually have a deep insecurity about themselves, so they need that constant
influx of supply, or narcissist fuel, to have the tiniest bit of self confidence in themselves.
And they can only get it, when people praise them, or mention them, or they call everybody's
attention in any way possible.
Sometimes a narcissist notices that they can actually do something impactful for society
and get that praise and headlines that they crave.
But as time goes by, a narcissist notices that they can get the same attention by just
behaving in an odd way.
That is a lot easier than actually doing good for society, and they degrade their behavior
progressively until they make fools of themselves or even get involved in scandals, just to
be mentioned.
Just to remain current in the minds of their audience.
And it fits perfectly with the evolution of what Harry and Meghan have done since that
Fab Four Royal Foundation event, where they shared the stage with William and Catherine.
It has been less and less about charities and initiatives, and more about them as influencers.
That's why Meghan ended up on Ellen's show just destroying any hint of reputation she
had left, and Harry is willing to take James Corden's job to promote his memoirs.
It's really sad when you realize all the potential that this young couple had to really make
a difference using the whole machinery of The Firm, and instead, the fame just went
right to their heads when they wanted to make a personal business out of the Sussex brand,
just to mention one of their 'strategies'.
But I think I'm wrong when I say that fame just went right to their heads.
I think the right assessment is that that's exactly what they have thought from day one.
And there's a very useful word to describe it: Entitlement.
Entitlement is when you believe that you deserve something just because.
Maybe because you were born into certain family, or certain country, or with certain physical
characteristics, you think you're entitled to praise, or success for no other particular
reason.
And when you see this kind of displays in narcissists, at first it's difficult to make
sense of the paradox.
Because when one says 'narcissism', one immediately thinks of a calm and collected person that
is super intelligent and evil at the same time.
But the problem is that people confuse narcissism with psychopathy.
Not every narcissist is an evil genius.
In fact, most narcissists are so self absorbed that they just don't think through their actions
that well, and of course, they absolutely cannot think long term with whatever they
set themselves to.
In fact, the more 'stupid' the narcissist, the more public and pathetic will be the displays
of insecurity.
Because this toxic personality falls in a downward spiral where the only thing that
counts is MAKE PEOPLE TALK ABOUT YOU, without thinking of the consequences.
These signals of insecurity, such as Meghan and Harry holding hands like they are some
kind of high school couple, tells you that they did not take these events seriously.
That's why it's so important to spot these displays, because that's when you know that
someone wants to attract attention just for the sake of attracting attention.
Especially when you're thinking about doing business with them.
Every single one of us has a personal brand.
And our personal brand is critical for whatever we set ourselves to.
But it's paramount to keep focused in what is the goal and lead people to that goal and
not to ourselves.
And if we are in a professional setting, we should be aware of what are the rules of behavior,
which...
at least most of the time, it's more than enough if you just listen to your common sense.
Well, that is if you actually have any kind of common sense.
Because when someone desperately craves attention at all costs, they will display creepy quirks
like these.
Maybe you should think twice before doing any business with them, let alone taking them
seriously.
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