Hey there, I'm Stephanie Kwong, transformational life coach, hypnotherapist and self-love junkie.
I'm so happy to be doing mindset Monday videos with FitLife.
Now let me ask you, is there someone in your life who drains you emotionally?
Or do you dread being around this person because you feel judged by them?
Or you feel stressed or exhausted when you're with them?
Now we all come across people in our life - whether its family, friends or even strangers -
who are negative towards us.
So, this video is going to be showing you how to handle them so you can keep your energy in a positive vibe.
Your energy is one of the most precious commodities that you have
because it determines the quality of your life, so you've got to protect it.
So take a moment right now, and think about the people you spend your time with.
Are they people who inspire you and have you feel good after being around them?
Or do you have someone or many someones who are bringing down your vibe?
Someone who you feel judged by or you feel drained after being with them.
Now if you do and you're ready to clear your energy of negativity so you can keep yourself in a positive vibe,
here are some steps that you can take.
Now the first step is to determine whether it's time to fully let this person or people go out of your life.
Now favoring nothing but negativity and they don't add anything to your life
would only support you to let them go, and it may even support them too.
So whether that means unfriending, unfollowing, writing a letter to them,
or having an honest and compassionate conversation that you can't spend time with them anymore,
that has to be done.
Now it may be hard and it might feel really uncomfortable or feelings of guilt might even pop up,
but do it because it's necessary,
and because you love yourself enough to not keep people in your life who drain you dry.
Because when you let negativity out of your life,
you create space for what you want to come in.
Now it might be easier to let some people go,
and with others, it might feel way harder like when it comes to family.
So sometimes, it still might be necessary to let a family member go
but it feels too extreme to break up with them, here's what you can do:
The first step is you want to have,
if you want to have real authentic relationships with people in your family, you got to be honest with them.
And it's not a matter of changing them but it's about setting a boundary
and letting them know how you want to be treated.
So you can say something like, "I love you but if you keep criticizing me,
or if you only complain when I'm with you, then I'm not going to be able to spend as much time around you."
Now they might get defensive or become even more hurtful towards you,
and if they are, then it's probably time to start distancing yourself from them.
But by speaking up, you might find that they aren't even aware of their behavior or how it affects you.
And now you've made them aware and it's up to them to choose how they want to be with you.
Alright, now the third thing you can do to shield your energy and handle any negativity coming your way
- from friends, family, or even strangers - is to have more compassion towards people.
And just know all the negative things anyone says to you has nothing to do with you
and everything to do with them.
If they're attacking you, they're most likely attacking themselves all day long.
Because the way that we talk to other people is also our self talk.
So if you're genuinely kind and supporting with other people,
that's usually how you're probably being with yourself.
And if you're mean, it's because you're in so much pain on the inside which is why you express it on the outside.
So to handle the negative energy coming your way,
connect with your heart and send compassion to anyone who's viewing negativity at you.
So choose to surround yourself with people who lift you up,
part of self love as having a higher standard for your inner circle.
And the amazing bonus to your life when you have people who support you in staying positive and uplifted
is that you will start to attract things that you want.
So you're going to attract good people and amazing things if you're giving off amazing energy.
Alright, thank you so much for watching!
If you enjoyed this video, please share it.
I think so many people can benefit from this message.
And commit today to raise your vibe and choose one step to start clearing your energy of negative people.
So whether you let someone go instead of boundary
or you doused someone with massive compassion, do it.
And let me know how it goes by leaving a comment so I can follow up with you.
I'm Stephanie Kwong, I'm so so grateful to be doing these Mindset Monday videos with FitLife.
I love you so much and remember, we're in this together.