- [Instructor] Today's topic is about the reasons
why you might be feeling empty.
Have you ever felt lonely
even when you're not alone?
Have you ever felt lost or confused about your life?
If you do, there's no need to get alarmed.
It's perfectly normal to feel this way
from time to time.
So many people from all walks of life struggle
with feelings of emptiness,
sometimes for reasons they can't understand.
No matter how much money you earn
or how popular, attractive or successful you become,
you might find that there's still something missing
in your life.
Sometimes, that void in your heart
is simply because of a bad situation
or an unhealthy relationship you find yourself in.
Or more often than not,
the emptiness we feel reflects a much deeper problem
we have within ourselves.
Without further ado, here are four possible reasons
why you feel empty all the time.
One, you don't know who you are.
A lack of insight into yourself
might be responsible for the feelings
of emptiness you are experiencing.
When you lose touch of who you are,
what you want and who you want to be,
it can cause you to feel
as if you are aimlessly coasting through life
with no purpose.
Are you losing yourself to your work or your relationship?
Do you dedicate all your time to your job
or spend it all with your friends and family
just to make sure that they're happy?
Every once in a while though,
it's good to take some time out for yourself.
Have some quality alone time for you
to reflect on your inner thoughts and feelings
and reevaluate your values and beliefs
to establish a stronger sense of identity.
Two, you don't have any meaningful relationships.
Another reason why you might be lonely and distraught
is because you feel isolated and detached
from those around you.
According to a 2003 study by Watkins, Stone and Kolts,
our relationships are the most important determinants
of our happiness.
However, it's not simply the quantity
but the quality that matters as well.
It's not the lack of relationships
that make us feel lonely but the lack of intimacy.
You may have people you see and talk to
on a daily basis but if you can't share a laugh with them
or have a personal conversation,
then it's not much of a relationship.
It's good to have a small circle of people
in your life you can open up to,
be comfortable around and enjoy spending time with.
Be it a friend, relative, or romantic partner,
we all need people in our lives to make us happy.
It's not being popular or well liked
that brings people joy but the emotional bonds
of closeness they feel towards each other.
Three, you haven't made peace with your past.
The emptiness you feel right now may be a sign
that there's some unresolved feelings lingering
from your past.
A lot of the time, people feel most lost
and alone after a significant loss,
breakup or a failure.
This is because they mistakenly let themselves believe
that someone or something,
whether it's a romantic partner,
best friend, hometown, university,
or achievement of some sort defined them.
And now they don't know how they are without it
or what to do now that it's gone.
While it's easier said than done,
we should all learn not to stay hung up on our past
and move forward with our lives.
Dwelling on your regrets and wasting your time
with self-blame and self-pity won't do you any good.
You need to make your peace
with whatever it was in your past
that's holding you back and refocus your attention
on the here and now, being present in the moment.
Forgive yourself and allow yourself to grow and heal.
Four, you don't have any dreams in your life.
This one is the most complicated dilemma of all.
If you don't have any dreams
of your own you want to fulfill,
it can be hard to find any meaning in life.
After all, it's simply human nature
to want things for yourself.
People will always aspire to do amazing things
and reach for greater heights
to constantly be better than they are,
whether it's being a professional,
starting your own family or owning your own business,
any kind of dream is enough
to make a person feel like they matter,
that they were meant to do something wonderful
with their life.
Having something you're passionate about
can keep you from feeling board and empty all the time
because you are working towards something
you find meaningful,
and making a positive difference in the world.
At the end of the day,
the only person who can help you understand the reason
why you feel so empty is yourself.
So take your time
and look deep inside yourself to understand
where these feelings are coming from.
There might be more than one reason you feel empty.
The sooner you figure out what it is
that's making you feel this way,
the sooner you can work on resolving it.
The process won't be easy but it will be worth it
because it will help you live a happier
and more fulfilling life.
It all starts with simply knowing the reasons why.
Are you feeling empty?
Do you relate to the reasons we gave so far?
Know that you're not alone.
Let us know in the comments below.
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