we ignore it and we let people of color kind of especially black women and black
men we let them kind of fend for themselves and it's evil like I don't
think we truly get how evil it is how dark it is
Thomas Halbert is getting a lot and this is like virtue signaling gone wrong but
the thing is we all have that friend and in some cases we what is everybody this
is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the
solution and if you're new to my channel my channel on is all about mental health
so what I'd like to do is pull things from the YouTube community or pop
culture to try to give you some context and teach you how you can improve your
mental and emotional well-being so if the internet kind of stuff make sure you
subscribe and bring the notification belt because I make a ton of videos so I
made a Thomas Halbert video yesterday and I just gave a really brief statement
about virtue signaling and I actually got quite a few comments about virtue
signaling they're like hey can you make a video or people wanted more of an
explanation of it and like this is something that's actually a really
important mental health topic and it's something that I've had to work on over
the years so let's talk about what is virtue signaling Thomas Albert as well
as some like real life examples of myself what you might be doing and what
we can do to improve our own mental health as well as our relationships so I
guess the first thing is what is virtue signaling so virtue signaling is very
subjective I'll start off by saying that we all do it we all do it in some way
shape or form but in this society that we're in right now with like moral
outrage and like mob mentality like running rampant all over the Internet
it's important that we talk about this so what this is is when people are
making statements right they're showing something to the public basically saying
well my little sign back that says hey everybody look at me I'm a good person
look at me look at me look at me don't look over there
look over there I'm a good person look at me and the good things that I'm doing
right so like I'm gonna talk about something called self seeking in a
minute but that's kind of the gist of what virtues signaling is we're putting
out things out there to say oh what a good person I am but like I said
everybody is virtue signals in some way shape or form and we'll talk about the
white ways to do it in the wrong ways to do it in a minute but just to give you
some examples about that like think about you go out on your first date
right when you go out on your first date there's some things that you might
discuss because you're getting to know each other you might say like what your
job is or what your passions are in a way those are virtue signaling like we
have to let other people know where we stand on certain things or who we are as
a person so that can be considered virtuous signaling but the problem is
that you have people who go way outside of the lines with this thing and it
causes this huge mess so we're Thomas Halbert for example he made this video
yesterday and like yeah like the whole time I'm watching it I'm like oh my god
this is this is just brutal somebody who hasn't experienced much racism but I
have and it's a really interesting story I might make a video about it at some
point anyways see what's going on you know anyways for Thomas Halbert to like
make this entire post or this entire video just like talking about like white
privilege and being like do you understand do you understand the history
of that word and the reason why this word is evil is because the mindset it
takes to even say the word and I honestly don't think I would have ever
known the full context and the full meaning behind this word if I hadn't
talked to my friend who was a black woman like he was like putting up like a
bat signal of virtue signaling now don't get me wrong like I do believe that
people who a platform should try to you know talk
about their beliefs and things like that like there's so much that goes into it
and like I think one of the issues that we have in the world today is that a lot
of people even though they might be well-intentioned they don't have the
right way to go about it now those of you who are new to my channel I am NOT a
teach and I try to take these and give you examples so you can learn from it
but I will say this if you go look around on Twitter there's a lot of
people saying that like Thomas's actions do not line up with his words and
they're saying that he is somebody who has done some racist things in the past
so I'll just say that but that's something that we need to talk about
real quick your virtue signaling can backfire I've seen it happen so many
times and that's why we need to talk about this and when it comes to mental
health like I'm gonna make a video right after this about Jeffrey star and how we
cause our own problems like Thomas going out there and waving this huge thing
like look at me look at me I'm an ally and look at me right what happened was
he got a ton of backlash people are digging up things from his past and we
see that happening like there was a story a few months ago that I saw in
Philip DeFranco but a young woman at her high school prom wore an Asian inspired
dress right and this guy culture is not here for you to appropriate right but
then because he threw out that virtue signal people started digging through
his old tweets and he's dropping and bombs and things like that
so you see how this gets people into trouble you know what I mean so don't
tell me that you don't get emotionally hurt when you do this virtue signaling
think about the issues that Thomas halberd is having right now because of
that video that he decided to make now there are some other videos out there
like he issued an apology which was absolute beat-ass by the way he talks
about how he wasn't trying to like out Jeffrey star
I might do another video on will see I put that in my playlist of how to
apologize alright so anyways let's talk about self seeking so self seeking is
something that I've learned about six years ago when I got clean and sober and
started working on my mental health and it's something that keeps me on the
right path and greatly improves my mental health so a lot of us know what
selfishness and self-centeredness is but self seeking what is self seeking self
seeking is doing something expecting something in return
now typically what that means for most people like if you're watching this how
many things do we do trying to get something in return like a feeling or an
emotion or we're trying to get people to see us in a certain light and the
problem with this is our motives are never good our motives are never pure
for example back in my single days before I was dating my wonderfully
beautiful girlfriend like I used to be very self seeking when dating I'd be a
perfect gentleman I pay for dinner and all this other stuff but I was expecting
something in return either you know something physical or maybe I just
wanted them to like me or you know what I mean I wasn't just being a gentleman
to be a gentleman does that make sense so a lot of people who are virtue
signaling there's something that we call slack the vest as well and this is
something that drives me absolutely bonkers about the mental health
community mental health advocacy movement right to try to increase
awareness and decrease the stigma I see so many people who only care about
mental health awareness on like mental health awareness day never talk about it
again I've had a bunch of friends who say like oh I'm gonna come to this
mental health event that you're gonna be at or oh I'm gonna listen to you speak
at this mental health event or people like oh I'm gonna watch your channel I'm
gonna sure your channel with people oh and this is a form of virtue signaling
because they never do it they don't show to up to these events they don't share
my content they don't have other people watching you know and that used to
really bug me because that in itself was virtue signaling I hope that makes sense
where people only care about something when it's convenient for them and we
call that slacktivism because they're doing the bare minimum
minimum just like a retweet life yeah hashtag you know don't be mean about
mental health you know what I mean like that's just like not cool so what's
what's the cure for this what's the answer for this so something that I've
had to work on quite a bit is checking my motives I have to check my motives
check my motives check my motives like am i doing this because it's the right
thing or am i doing this because I want attention because I want love because I
want affection does that make sense so like think about that all the time
and a great example of this and I'll use one of my stories in a second but I have
a really good friend who I hang out with every many ways he orders food from like
anyways we were we were hanging out and he says you know I got into this reddit
I was on this reddit post or this subreddit about delivery drivers right
and I know like what really makes them mad because all these delivery drivers
are complaining about stuff one of the things that urge them is how like people
don't tip cash and how people don't you know come out to the car and they got to
carry all this food like upstairs like my friend lives in the upstairs
apartment so my friend told me that so he's like yeah so two things I try to do
now is I always meet them outside I walk downstairs and meet them and I always
tip them and catch so that way they get the full tip and it doesn't cut of it
doesn't go to the other place no way buddy my buddy and I we talk and joke
about virtue signaling and stuff and I actually talked to him before making
this video and I was giving them an example I'm like yeah when you said this
like I knew you weren't virtue signaling your motivation behind it wasn't like oh
I want Chris to think I'm a really good human being
he was just telling me a story but in turn it actually inspired me and I'm
like that's really cool that's a really small thing you can do to help somebody
else out and those are the kind of things that inspire me when I see people
doing small acts of kindness so like we all have those friends who are on
Facebook or Instagram they're like hey look at me I'm feeding a homeless person
hahaha right like this is a form of virtue signaling like oh these would
these people do the right thing if nobody was looking like I
like to do this challenge and all of you could try this challenge like see how
many good deeds you can do over the next week and don't tell anybody I think this
in an older video like this sometimes where I do a good deed and I just want
to tell my girlfriend I just want to text and say hey I just I just give this
homeless guy some money or I bought him some food like I want to do it so Bob
but I stop I pause and I check my motors behind it like why am i telling her that
but anyways here's a good example of some you know
internal conflict I had like am I being self-seeking or am i doing it for a
different motive so I live in the hood not for long my girlfriend and I are
moving but I live in the hood and every morning around my 4:00 5:00 o'clock
people would come and dig through the dumpsters and pick out you know cans and
plastic so they can go recycle them I drink a ton of rock stars so what I
started doing was I would save these and then when I would hear that rummaging in
the dumpsters outside in the morning before I went to work and I would do
that and I did this for a couple months and I remember one morning I was like
sitting there I'm like man this is such an easy thing that I'm doing it's such a
small easy thing that I'm doing they're really grateful that I'm doing it for
them I want to like tell people about it I want to post this on Facebook but I
took a pause I took a step back and I checked my motives
right like was i posting on facebook so everybody would think I'm a good person
no I wasn't I asked myself that question and in all honesty I was posting on
Facebook just to inspire people and say hey this is a very small thing that you
can do to help out somebody in need you see what I mean so as long as you're
checking your motives behind things like you're in a good place so like like I
was saying earlier like virtue signaling is subjective so just always be true to
yourself that's what it is know your motives know your intentions behind
doing things like I do not think Thomas halbert's motives were pure
when he made that video alright and that's the issue that I have but karma
is a B word and now he's getting a ton of backlash about it but anyways let's
do this down in the comments below I would love if you guys share personal
stories but if you would like share stories about someone you know who does
this thing the thing where they're always posting about the good deeds they
did like I hope the homeless person oh I helped an old lady across the street
they're always doing stuff like that like let's talk about it down below
because I think this is an important subject so we kind of see like oh wait
do I do that too you know what I mean so anyways that's all I got for you with
this video I'm making another video right after this so make sure that you
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