Oh hey everybody. I wanted to make a video telling you about getting married, and um,
my wedding, mostly so I could put this, this ol gal on. It’s my wedding dress.
Big life announcement, I got married a couple weeks ago and it was honestly the best day
of my life. I wore this um, this dress. The bottom of the skirt is really dirty because
I had a real good time and danced my butt off. And also almost my train off. This is
my bouquet. There are pink peonies in there and some Queen Anne’s lace. It’s mostly
greenery though. These are my vows. Yeah [laughs]. Most of our wedding was also DIY. Stressful
at times obviously but it brought Professor Husband and I closer together in a lot of
ways that I don’t think we would have if we had just paid people to do everything for
us. A really amazing friend of ours made the food. We had one of my best friends make the
cake. Another one of my best friends was the coordinator and set up the entire reception
space and it looked beautiful. I had amazing lady photographers and a rad lady DJ. It made
me understand why weddings are such a big deal. Until you are in that moment and flooded
with all, all that love, I really felt it both, you know, in my head and also in my
heart. I was engaged for about a year and a half and in that time yes we were planning
a wedding but we were really laying the foundation of our life together and I’m glad we had
that distinct phase. Some of it was really hard. With a marriage approaching it demanded
that we come to deeper levels of honesty and transparency and communication and commitment.
I was more sure on the day of my wedding that I should marry Professor Husband than I was
you know, the day that he proposed to me. I’m happier than I’ve ever been in my
life. Euhhh, it gives me little goosebumps. I hope that everyone watching finds a bit
of happiness too. I also know what it feels like to not feel yourself worthy of that level
of joy. But you can get through it and you can get to the other side and you are worthy.
Most importantly I think of that self-love. I’m just so thrilled to have a partner for
the rest of my life who I think likes me the most when I am the most myself. Some of you
though might have have seen or heard that my wedding was announced in the New York Times.
Hilariously this was the cover story: ‘Crossing the Line: Trump’s Private Conduct with Women’.
[Paper rattling]. That’s me and Professor Husband. The article’s kind of, kind of
funny. The headline is ‘A Feminist Romance, but Not a Radical One’. There’s my handsome
boo and those are a lot of hair extensions to make umm, all these braids in my hair.
Beyond honored to be in the New York Times, like the whole thing, surreal upon surreal.
Thank you to everyone who has been so supportive of me, to the relationship, to Professor Boyfriend,
to Professor Fiance, not to be confused with Professor Beyonce and now Professor Husband,
umm, it really means a lot. I only hope that I can give love and care and acceptance back
to you. So with that I’m going to go umm, walk around town in my umm, bridal gown. Because
that’s what you do right, with your wedding dress, wear it in awkward places? Ok. Bye
everybody.