Gentlemen, welcome to Mantelligence.
Today we’re going to be looking at 5 things High Value men never do that are a major turn
off to women.
What is a high value man, you ask?
Well he’s a rare breed... someone with character, charm, and that special quality that makes
you want them want nearby no matter the circumstances.
So if you want to be the type of guy that your lady can’t get enough of
Ditch these bad habits like a friday class during senior year and start maximizing your
value and attractiveness.
Figuring out how to be more attractive is as much about knowing what to never do as
it is what to do...
So Without further ado, let’s jump right in.
5. Bummin’
Alright guys, I know it’s easy when football
season rolls around to live in that jersey 24/7, let your beard get to playoff length
in October and, and craft a physique with nothing but light beer and nachos but...
DON’T. There’s nothing wrong with loving your team,
or with enjoying an oat soda here and there, but a few months of bummin’ it can be disastrous
for your health and your attractiveness.
Turns out science has our back here.
Guess what facial expression was found to be most attractive?
Did you guess “proud?”
If so, you win the grand prize.
A study from the University of British Columbia found that men who express pride were rated
the most attractive.
And...
Another study found men who look important are like universal remotes: they turn everything
on.
So ditch the team apparel and find something a little more personal to be proud of.
The only guy who looks important in a Drew Brees jersey is Drew Brees, for Breesus sake.
Yeah, I can vouch for that.
The little things like posture, a regular haircut, getting rid of the neck beard, and
taking care of your teeth all project attractiveness without a single utterance.
You don’t have to look like royalty to be high value, but you should carry yourself
in public like a grown man with something to be proud of.
Knowing when to be a bum and when to showcase your value is one of the best tricks to get
girls to chase you.
4. Painful Pick Up Lines
Remember a while back when shows like the
pick up artist were all the rage?
Flirting was all about being a douche and hoping girls found it charming.
Trust me, it was not a fun time for girls.
High value men know that pickup lines are best used as jokes, not as serious attempts
to meet women, And they know that cringe-worthy pickup lines
make you look more desperate than confident to the person that you’re flirting with.
Again, remember importance and pride.
Women are much more likely to be turned on if you approach them like a well adjusted
adult they can imagine spending time with.
Not to say that lines never work, but here at Mantelligence, we’re about increasing
the odds that you make a girl crazy for you, and a pickup line is much too hit or miss.
So if you want to move beyond the initial conversation to a date or two, ditch the cheeseball
lines and go with a direct, personal approach.
3. Nice Guy Neurosis
Nice Guys, Alpha Males, High Value Men…
what does it all mean?
Well, no man falls neatly into one category - partly because these categories mean something
different to everyone, But suffice it to say, if you’re playing
the role of the nice guy, you’re going to find yourself setting up permanent residence
in the friend zone.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you can’t legitimately
be a nice person.
We’re not recommending you act like an ass... just be strong, confident, and assertive.
You know, as opposed to...
A passive people pleasing pushover.
There’s a huge difference between being a genuinely nice guy who offers to help a
friend move and Mr. Nice Guy who will say yes to anything - a difference that’s definitely
worth understanding.
Studies have shown that guys who are altruistic, you know, that throw down the occassional
selfless act are having more, not less, sex.
So if all the talk of “don’t be the nice guy” and “unleash your alpha” is too
overwhelming, just remember: high value men value themselves, their time, and those they
care about.
Be that guy.
So guys, I know we’re smack dab in the middle of crossing negative behaviors off your list,
But before we go full saintly, there’s one thing High Value guys do that actually runs
the risk of turning women off, But that is so important you should still
keep it in your back pocket.
Now, I know it sounds counterintuitive, but...
I’ll explain everything at the end of this video, so stay tuned.
Now on to number 2 on our list...
2. Me Monster
There’s nothing more boorish than someone
who will not shut up about themselves.
You know who wouldn’t shut up about how great he was?
Voldemort.
And that guy sucked.
Not a high value guy at all.
I mean, he got Bellatrix, but she sucked too.
Plus he didn’t even have a nose.
High value guys know the value of silence.
They know when to shut up and listen and when to jump in with a RELEVANT anecdote, as opposed
to some flimsy excuse to draw attention to yourself.
There are a lot of reasons people talk endlessly about themselves, but a lot of those reasons
boil down to anxiety or lack of confidence.
It’s like when you go to a website and 3 banners, 2 pop ups, and an auto-play video
all ask you to join their mailing list.
That need for attention is a huge turn off, both online and in real life.
So if you’re hanging out with your crush and realize the word “I” keeps bursting
out of your mouth, you caught yourself doing one of the biggest unattractive things guys
don’t know they do.
Take a step back and focus your words on other people.
Ask them questions to get them talking or talk about something other than yourself that
they’ll be interested in.
High value men are confident in their skin, know their self worth, and appreciate the
value in making sure the other person in the conversation is enjoying themselves.
Afterall, If you can listen and then make a woman laugh,
you’re golden.
1. Throw Shade
High Value Men don’t gossip.
They don’t.
They don’t have a reason to.
There’s no value in it and they know it’s unattractive.
I mean, think about it guys, Your mother told you this one when you were
a kid.
If you can’t say something nice, then what...
All together: Don’t say anything at all.
That’s right.
Now, Couple this with the fact that if you’re
talking smack about someone behind their back to your crush, then, in addition to being
turned off, She’ll immediately start wondering what
kinds of things you say about her behind her back.
So, You’re really shooting yourself in both
feet by talking crap about people.
Instead, High value men take their issues directly
to the people they concern, and if they do have to get something off their chest it’s
not for the purpose of tearing someone down, It's for solving problems and getting to the
root of an issue.
Directness and honesty are not only attractive qualities, they’re also virtuous.
The Number 1 Thing High Value Men Do that Might Turn Women Off.
Guys, we’ve spent a lot of time covering the behaviors that high value guys don’t
do, but this one is just the opposite.
Full disclosure, it may be one of the reasons girls think you’re unattractive, but hear
me out...
High Value Men need to keep hanging out with the guys.
Period.
And yeah, There’s a good chance that a high value
man may not have exclusively high value friends.
Look at any group of friends and there’s at least a few that are a problematic...
But that doesn’t mean a high value guy should ditch his crew just because it may be turning
off the woman he’s seeing.
Why?
Because independence and comradery are traits a high value man takes seriously.
See, it happens all too often that a relationship takes off and a guy’s friends go by the
wayside...
But this ends up breeding resentment, and jealousy, two emotions that are poisonous
to any healthy relationship.
SO As you become a high value man, remember the
guys that came along for the ride…
Even if it means risking a turn off.
So there you have it.
5 things High Value Men never do to turn off women and the one time you should definitely
gamble on turning a woman off.
Remember, it’s a test...
Thanks for watching!