How do you find fulfilling work?
So we go to school, go through grade school, we go through high school
and then many of us go on to college and throughout the whole time
we learned about different subjects. And then in college we choose a major
and all those decades we are taught how to be a pro student.
We are taught the technicalities of learning the various subjects
that we are a part of. But one thing that the education system,
the schools don't teach you, is how to create and build a career
and let alone how also to ensure that you
have fulfillment in your career and life. So we go through elementary school
being told what to do
and we're told to do well in school, to listen to our teachers and our parents.
And the whole purpose of our lives during
elementary school is to do well in school, to listen to our parents and to be
obedient to our parents and our teachers.
Then we go through high school,
and in high school school gets a little harder
and the emphasis is on after you finish high school,
the expectation is you do well so that you can get accepted to a good college.
So our whole life purpose then is to do well in school and to focus
on what comes afterwards. Getting a good job, doing well in school,
getting praised, getting more credentials,
we can get paid more and you're told to go, go make something of your life.
But the problem is you spent your whole entire life becoming a pro student,
and you know the math, you know the science, social studies, English,
all the subjects in elementary school and high school, but you weren't taught
how to make a path, path making, how to build a career, how to create
fulfillment in your life and what's important to you.
You're not used to answering
the important questions like "what's important to me? What do I want in my life?
What does my career look like for me and what do I want my future to look like?"
And we're not equipped for those questions out of high school.
Instead we're told go make something in real life and then all of a sudden
we don't know what to do. So what happens is that we do everything by default,
what we've been told to do and we're so used to being told what to do,
that by default we're just doing what we're told. And whatever it is, the values
you've been brought up with, parents, from your teachers,
what they've been telling you is what we accept as our own.
And then we go and we make something of our lives by doing what we're told.
Because all of our lives,
we didn't want to be the one that was told we were disobedient.
We wouldn't want to be the ones that were told that we didn't do well.
So then we'd go and we do well in what success is defined for us.
The problem is we weren't taught how to make a path as children
and adolescents and most likely
we don't get better at path making as adults. So here we are,
18 or 19 years old just graduated from college about to take on the world.
The problem is, at that time finished, high school, you only know what
you've been taught in school, from your parents, from your teachers,
from your peers, and what we default to
is the default, being told to make something out of our lives by
getting a job, going to school, doing well in school, hopefully
getting a higher pay, applying for jobs, and that's all we know
because that is by default.
But to have fulfillment in life,
we need to stop living life by default and start to live life by design.
The concept of living life by design may not be what you think.
When you think of living life by design, most people think about, "oh,
it just means that you make the money you want. You get to work when you want
and you get to work with whoever you want."
That's one aspect of living life by design,
but living life by design here to get to fulfillment,
what that really means is that you are living in alignment to your truth
and purpose, and that means that you are putting your gift out into
the world that only you can put out into the world because of your uniqueness,
your gifts, your talents that nobody else has. When you do this intentionally,
you will leave a legacy and an impact that will make the world a different place.
People often imagine that having
a fulfilling career means getting paid well and something that's easy,
but these are two very overrated goals for having a fulfilling career.
Because although money does make someone happier,
it only does so to a certain extent
and there's many research out there that says that
after a certain dollar figure annual income, that happiness level,
doesn't always go up. And having more money, sometimes bring you more stress.
On the other side of that, an undemanding job is one that is too boring
and a job that is overly demanding can be
overly stressful and overwhelming as well. The key is to find that sweet spot,
the sweet spot where the challenges and your gifts are equally matched
and that will be a fulfilling challenge for you.
The first step is to uncover your gifts. If you're not sure what they are
spend some time to discover what they are and to seek
help from a mentor or a coach if you have to and spend time
in reflection or meditation.
But you have to make a commitment
to uncover your gifts. Then you have to say, on purpose and with intention,
you have to say "yes" to putting your
gift out there and sharing it out into the world.
It's then that you can commit to becoming a higher version of yourself so that
you can live out your true calling. So as a living, breathing human being,
you have six basic needs and everything that you do, everything that you hope for,
everything that the actions that you take are trying to fulfill
these six human needs. So what I'm going to do is I'm going to share these with
you and show you how to have
a higher and greater knowledge of these needs and a greater awareness
of them to find that fulfilling career.
So these six human needs, our fundamental needs, they are undeniable
and the are universal.
No matter where, what culture you're from,
what language you speak, what your upbringing or your background was.
They are undeniable and fundamental human needs. These needs, incidentally,
were popularized by Tony Robbins, but they are based
on decades of human psychology research.
The first human need is safety and security. We all have a need for certainty
and these are things that give us the feeling of being safe,
the feeling of being secure. So these include our physiological
needs for safety and protection. So these are food, shelter,
financial income. These are things that give us
physiological needs of provision and substance.
The second human need is one of variety.
And this is where we desire creativity in our lives,
the opportunities to create, opportunities to have fun and relax
and to daydream. And this is kind of opposite
to the need for safety and security because
if all we had was safety and security and predictability,
then life would be boring.
So we also crave an avenue to express
our daydreams, to express our desires
and to be creative and opportunities for that.
The third human need is the need for love and connection.
And this is where the relationships happen, the relationships with our friends
and our family and also with nature as well. So we all crave naturally and
opportunities to love, to be loved, to love one another, to love someone else
and to love something and to be connected to it.
The fourth human need is that of significance.
And this is the need to feel that what
we're doing is special and unique and that matters.
We want to be doing work that not only is important to us,
but that we know makes a difference and that is meaningful to ourselves
and other people. And that's our need for significance.
The fifth human need is that of growth.
And this is a need for personal growth,
professional growth, professional development.
And this is why we desire to be educated.
This is why we desire to learn, to read, to go to seminars,
to learn from people that we admire because we desire self mastery,
we want to be good at something and that's an achievement in and of its own.
So that need for growth is undeniable.
And finally the sixth human need is that of contribution.
And this is our desire to pay it forward, to be in service to other people,
whether or not we know them, whether or not we care about them, whether or
not they are related to us. We just want to make a difference in this world.
We want to help someone. We want to know that what we're doing makes a difference
in their lives in ways that are meaningful to them.
So this is our desire for growth,
for contribution, and to make a difference. Comment below, where are you at
right now in your journey to career fulfillment? And also comment on which of the
six fundamental human needs are your top priorities right now.
So now that you are familiar with the six basic human needs,
the first step is to really reflect upon yourself and to figure out
which one is most important to you. All of us,
we have a priority ranking to these six needs.
One or two of them are going to be ones that we seek the most often
and that will do everything in our
power to make sure they are satisfied more than others.
So be honest with yourself. Which one is it for you?
Which is the first of these priorities that you find yourself seeking out,
needing to be satisfied more so than others,
and which one is second and which one is third and so on.
So rank these in priority,
prioritize these for yourself and recognize that throughout our
lives these priorities might change as well. You know, as we get older,
as we have different life experiences,
as we've had a lot of trauma,
perhaps these things can change.
So they're not written in stone. The most important thing to note is
that the final two, growth and contribution,
those are the two that fulfill us.
Absent growth and/or contribution in our lives,
we are left unfulfilled. If we had all the love and connection,
if we had all the security in our lives,
all the provisions, the financial provisions, all the sustenance provisions,
a great place in a great house to live in, you know, great wardrobe, all of that,
it would still lead to unfulfillment
because growth and contribution are spiritual needs.
They are what our souls cry out for.
So think about this in your life. Do you have growth and contribution,
one of those as your top priority?
And how are you right now? Are you fulfilled? Are you feeling that
something's missing in your career? Are you feeling that you've had a good career
or something's missing and you don't know what it is?
The good news is that if you don't
have growth or contribution as your priority right now,
you can make it so. You can reprioritize
and you can substitute growth or contribution as your top priority.
And if security, for example, let's say that security is something,
certainty was something that was utmost important to you all your life,
you just needed to have that security, that certainty because maybe as a
child you grew up without, in poverty, you grew up without provisions,
your parents didn't really provide and so therefore all your life certainty
was the most important thing for you.
If that's the case and you realize
now that you need to reprioritize growth or contribution on top,
then you don't have to go cold turkey. It doesn't mean that you now have to put
certainty on the bottom of the list. It just means that you make it second place,
and you put in first place growth or contribution and then you take
actions to meet that need.
Because once you start to realize that if you're growing,
that if your pursuit of self mastery is a priority for you,
or if contribution, paying it forward,
making a difference to other people's lives, if that is a priority for you,
that's where true fulfillment comes in. And if you factor that into your career,
that's when you know you will have a fulfilling career. If you like this content
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