WHAT WOMEN FIND ATTRACTIVE IN A MAN [Intro Music]
What's up, man. I'm in Phnom Penh Cambodia right now. And look,
there are two types of attraction, conscious and unconscious attraction.
Conscious attraction is all about things like the money,
good looks and external status. And it's what most guys focus on.
Subconscious attraction is what really matters.
And it's what drives her inner emotions wild.
It makes her want certain guys over others.
Unconscious attraction is a thousand times more powerful,
and there are four primary traits or archetypes that will trigger her attraction
towards you on a deep unconscious level.
My name is Matt Artisan from The Attractive Man,
and these are my four traits that all attractive men possess that get beautiful
women to choose you.
I dissected this after studying men,
that was just average in the looks and money department,
but were dating super gorgeous women.
I noticed there were certain things that all high value men do that
naturally draws women to them. It's like autopilot attraction.
It's like they have this secret sauce and it comes down to four different
archetypes. And the most attractive men have all four.
Number four is the hero.
Women are instinctually programmed to choose men that make them feel safe.
So for centuries,
women were dependent on men to protect them from hostile tribes
..situations, wild animals,
especially during the nine months of pregnancy when they were the most
vulnerable and they needed protection the most,
even though we now live in a very safe society,
that instinctual need to feel safe and protected by a man is still
prominent in women today.
This is why women are generally attracted to men who are bigger and stronger
than them, but it's more than just physical strength.
A huge muscular man can still be a weak and fearful man.
And she won't be attracted to him. She might be attracted to him physically,
but she'll lose interest very quickly. For example,
I did a bootcamp in Cancun a little while back,
and one of the students was this tall, muscular,
really good looking bodybuilder looking guy from Sweden and the
first night.. Before he really learned anything on the bootcamp,
he didn't get any success.
He didn't talk to anybody the entire night because he stood there fearful.
And I could see women looking at him,
but they're waiting for him to make a move.
Someone would even come up to him and ask him a question.
And he just didn't know what to do. He was just standing there in fear.
And then the same night,
we had a short little Indian guy who had pretty much no fear.
And he took just the few tools that we gave him.
Cause it was only first night of the workshop and it was a seven day workshop
and he crushed it. He had so many interactions.
He ended up making out with the girl on the very first night because he was
somewhat fearless. He looked like a lion,
but on the inside he acted like a mouse.
And the Indian guy was the exact opposite.
So the point is she wants a man that is non reactive.
And that is solid as a rock.
She wants to know that if there's an emergency or a threat,
he can take care of the situation and protect her because inner strength is more
important than physical strength,
which is why sometimes a woman will test a man and cause some friction in the
interaction by questioning his character or by simply saying no to
something or doing something that he doesn't want.
The key here is to stay calm and grounded and not let it
emotionally affect you in any way. She wants a man that isn't afraid of her.
I mean, how can she be attracted to you if you're afraid of her,
this is why women usually don't approach men because they aren't attracted
to guys who are afraid to walk up to them and approach them.
They just wait to see who will have the balls to say hi.
"I'm not interested in a person who's shy to come and say hi!"
Otherwise you can make her feel safe. For example,
while walking down the sidewalk with her walk closest to the traffic is if
you're protecting her from the traffic or when you're crossing the street,
put your hand on her lower back or hold her hand and guide her across the
street. When she's having an emotional breakdown, hold her tight in your arms.
These little acts allow her to feel safe and will help make her actually
fall for you.
But I don't want you to think of this as like techniques that you have to do to
make her think you're a good protector instead,
work on developing mental toughness.
So you can actually become a more competent and solid grounded man.
And that will always make her feel safe in your presence because it is just
something that she will feel when she's around you?
Not an act that you can put on.
It's not something that you can necessarily fake. Now, before we keep going,
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When most guys first meet a girl that they're attracted to,
they quickly become very friendly and they try to get the girl to like them.
They try to hide their feelings.
And so the initial interaction is often very friendly and yeah,
it feels very platonic for her. Then later,
when they try to go for the date or make a move on her,
it doesn't work because she just saw the guy as... You know, friendly.
She just thought it was a friendly, nice conversation,
not a sexually charged conversation.
Men that are naturally good with women often express their sexual desire very
quickly, whether it's verbally or non-verbally.
And they're just not afraid to show interest in her.
Most guys are afraid to show their desire.
And so they end up in the friend zone where they think they need some indirect
excuse to talk to her. You don't need an excuse to talk to women.
The excuse is that you are a man and she's an attractive woman.
So you want to meet her. That's it. Furthermore,
women yearn to be desired by a confident man. They absolutely love it.
When a man wants them, our desire is a gift to a woman.
They get energized by it. If you show it in a respectful way, of course,
that is both competent and charming. Like we show you on our live workshops.
And by the way,
I'll put a link to our workshop schedule down in the description. Jen,
do you like it? When guys show you interest? "Yeah but some guys do it creepy!".
Some guys are creepy? "Yeah.".
That's why you guys got to take a workshop with us. It's not what you say,
but more importantly,
the way you would look at her and how you communicate to her.
When you see a woman that you're attracted to,
you naturally get feelings of sexual desire.
And most of us try to get rid of those feelings.. Instead,
allow yourself to just feel those feelings throughout your body and just express
them in a way that says, I appreciate your femininity and beauty. For example,
when I approach a girl that I'm really attracted to,
I look at her as if I'm thinking.. My god, you're stunning..
But if you're not interested, that's cool too. But I didn't always do that.
When I first started approaching women, I looked like a deer in headlights.
I'm sure I was like, I felt like I was bothering them. So to approach him like,
Hey, hi, I just saw you here and wanted to say hi.
And of course that wasn't very attractive, but once I finally just owned it,
that I'm a man,
I'm attracted to this woman here and that's totally fine and allowed myself
to just feel those feelings. That's when I was able to start walking.
So women and their eyes would light up. And this is really, really powerful.
And when you do it right, you can see the girl melt right in front of you.
And this confidence carries all the way into the relationship because women want
a man that will desire them and show them a passionate, romantic,
and central adventure from the moment they meet,
which carries on into the relationship.
[Inaudible], I'm only five 10, but in Cambodia,
I can barely stand in the bathroom. Number two.
Is the Gandhi. Most men have no purpose in their lives. Every morning.
They go to a job that they don't like, or that someone else picked for them.
For example, I used to be that way because I went to school, college,
UC Irvine, because I didn't really know what I wanted to do,
except I wanted to be a rock star at the time.
So it was a way for me to get to California,
but I just picked what my parents wanted me to do,
which is study computer science.
And I did that for a while and I even wanted to change majors after like the
first class, the first quarter.
But I didn't because I knew I would upset my family.
So I stuck with it and I graduated,
but I never got a computer job, thankfully,
because I know that would have made me very unhappy.
So they go to a job and they're living a life that they didn't even pick for
themselves.
And then they come home and they just watch TV or they go on the internet or
social media just to escape their reality.
And then they just repeat it again and again, over and over again,
if you were to do that,
what memories and what accomplishments would you have at the end of your life?
How about a lot of living in someone else's story? Not much to show for it.
The Ghandi is the guy who is working towards a higher purpose.
David Deida wrote in Way of the Superior Man, that everything in your life,
from your diet to your career must be aligned with your purpose.
If you were to act with coherence and integrity in the world,
if you know your purpose, your deepest desire,
then the secret of success is to discipline your life so that you support your
deepest purpose and minimize distractions and detours.
I know you guys hear me talk about purpose a lot in this channel,
but that's because it's so damn important.
Maybe you have a passion for music and your purpose is to be the best guitars in
the damn world and share your talents with as many people as possible.
Or perhaps you want to feed homeless in third world countries,
or maybe you want to create a thriving business that helps people.
You see men are genetically wired with an inner drive to achieve and create BUT
most guys.. We don't unleash it.
We get stuck into what society tells us that we should do such as working a
dead end job. And this, in my opinion,
causes a lot of depression and self doubt.
This drive and passion from a man on a mission is what women crave.
And it's what they're naturally drawn towards.
So find something that calls you and go for it. And by the way,
a lot of men make the mistake of making their woman, their mission.
They make her the center of their universe because they think that's what she
wants. But this is the quickest way to repel a woman.
Your woman does not want to be your number one priority,
even though he probably will tell you that she does,
but instead she wants to help you achieve your purpose.
David Deida also said in Way of the Superior Man,
every man knows that his highest purpose in life cannot be reduced to any
particular relationship.
If a man prioritizes his relationship over his highest purpose,
we can,
some self dis serves the universe and cheats his woman of an authentic man who
can offer his full undivided presence. For example, when I was in high school,
I was really like scared of everybody. I was super timid.
I didn't have a lot of friends. I was afraid to not only talk to girls,
but just people in general.
I saw everybody as above me and I saw myself at the bottom of
the social totem pole. So to speak.. Until I started a band,
which raised my confidence because I started seeing myself as more and
more worthy. The problem was that it was like external status.
I only thought I was cool because I played in the band.
And then when the band broke up, I felt like all my status went away.
And a lot, if not, pretty much,
all of my confidence went away as well. And finally,
number one is the King. Women want a man not just to lead,
but to be a fcking King of his domain. Think about it.
How do Kings act? Like they're entitled for greatness, right?
Like they deserve the best. And like,
they have nothing to prove to anyone Kings. Don't try to impress people.
People try to impress the King and Kings do not act with hesitation
or doubt. They move confidently in the direction of their beliefs and values.
Now that doesn't mean you're cocky or egotistical or boastful in any way.
It just means that you speak with power and conviction that resonates throughout
the entire land.
It was being in the band that really gave me my first
wins and gave me some confidence. I saw myself as a leader,
someone that could succeed because I was getting some success,
which brings us back to what I just talked about,
which is having your purpose and edging towards it,
moving towards it every single day.
That is something that gives you confidence and helps you become more and
more of a leader and a King.
So I want you to pretend that you have crown on your head and you just
fcking own your domain,
have dignity and be the leader of your kingdom,
both in your social life and in your career.
Be the kind of guy that people seek out,
both for fun and for business or whatever, be the social connector.
And the easiest way to become the leader of a group is to start your own group.
It's really as simple as just inviting a few people out and then being the
person that leads the way deciding when and where you go throughout the night or
at a party or a social social gathering,
be the hub where people are hanging out and joking telling stories,
be the facilitator of fun,
or pick a topic that you enjoy and start an organization or a meetup group
around that topic, go to meetup.com and just start an account.
And on a date, you're the one in control.
Now that doesn't mean you're controlling and making her go to places she doesn't
want to go. Don't do that. It just means that you have a plan for the night,
instead of just saying, Hey, what do you want to do?
I'll take you wherever you want to go. And putting all the pressure on her.
Women love a man that's a leader and that can lead her through a fun adventure.
So there you have it, man.
These are the four ingredients that will naturally draw to you.
Not even the richest guy with hot chiseled,
abs can trump a high value multi-dimensional man who possesses
all four of these traits. He is a very rare man, indeed. And she knows that.
Now you probably noticed that all four attributes, the King, the Gandhi,
the Lover, and the Hero are all rooted in being confident.
So to help you become a naturally confident man,
instead of someone who uses tricks or tactics to just appear confident,
I created a free Confidence Cheat Sheet that gives you 18 different ways to
boost your confidence and eliminate fear.
And I'll put a link down in the description and to the right of this video.
So make sure to click that and download it, man, cause it's absolutely free.
And if you want us to work with you live in field to help you become the kind of
man that attracts I meant effortlessly,
and that embodies all four of these attributes,
then make sure to check out our bootcamp schedule and get a free breakthrough
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