let me just get situated a little bit here make sure the back has the pillow got my coffee
my cup of happy actually that's what this mug says and i am ready to teach you guys
today about the enneagram harmonic triads and these also can be known as the conflict coping
styles and so you might have heard it either way both are correct so there are three groups
of three within the harmonic triads so types one three and five are called the logical group
or the logical style or the competent group you might hear it called either of those ways
and the good news is i've already talked all about that it's ready for you guys to go ahead and watch
if you want to learn about the logical group the next group of three is types four six and eight
and this group is called the reactive group and i've also heard it called the intensity group or
the emotional realness group and so again it's one of those where if you've heard it called either of
those three ways they're all okay that video is already done too and so my advice would be
go give those two videos a watch after this one so that you understand all three groups
and this will help you understand yourself and those people in your life better and this brings
up the third set of three which is today's video types two seven and nine are in this group and
they are called the positive outlook group and they also can be known as the optimistic group
so again it's one of those things where some people have called it the positive outlook group
and other people have called it the optimistic group or triad so all of those are correct and
so this is what i'm going to be teaching you guys about today the positive outlook triad
so if you're new here i'm hillary your certified enneagram life coach and i love to teach you
guys the enneagram in the simplest and easiest way possible so grab something to take notes
it's time for me to teach you about that positive outlook group and what i would like to do before
i start the teaching is read out of the wisdom of the enneagram this is a great book a great read if
you want to learn about the enneagram this book does a good job explaining why you learn about
these harmonic groups and so it says the harmonic groups are useful for transformational work
because they indicate how each person copes when they do not get what they want as indicated by the
triad they are in thus they reveal the fundamental way that our personality defends against loss and
disappointment and so that's the best way to describe why we learn about these groups
so let's get started so the positive outlook group this group of three is gonna reframe all their the
negative things in their life or anything negative into positive things positive thoughts um positive
ways to go about it and so that's what this group does so any negative viewpoints are going to be
turned into optimistic perspectives and i'm a type nine and yes i do do this so this is how a type
nine seven and two copes or reacts when they don't get what they want or need it's really their
strategy when anything disappointing happens or if any conflict happens this is how they cope and
truthfully all three of these uh types they really try and avoid any negative thoughts or feelings
they all try and avoid pain in different areas and ways all three of these are out of balance
when trying to meet the needs of themselves and other people these three types are the ones that
really want to be happy and want everyone around them to be happy too and the last thing all three
of them have in common is they all usually can see the bright side of things so let's go ahead
and break it down by type because yes they all three react in a positive optimistic way
but this looks differently in all three of them so there are three main themes within all three
and those three themes that are in all three types are the first one what do they give priority to
the second one what do they avoid seeing and the third one is what do they struggle with and so
i'm gonna go over all three of those within all three of the types so let's go ahead and start
with the type two the helper what do they give priority to so they give priority to their own
positive self image and what this looks like they really put focus on their good intentions like i
am loving i am kind i am caring i'm a nurturing person and so that's what they give priority to
what do they avoid seeing their own needs their own emotions and any disappointment or anger that
they might have they just really avoid seeing that and last but least what do they struggle with well
the type 2 struggles with putting way too much priority on other people's needs which causes them
to struggle and neglect their own needs and so that's what the type 2 struggles with so moving on
to the type 7 the enthusiast so what does the type 7 give priority to their own positive experiences
they give priority to that their own enjoyment they focus on fun excitement and activities and
so that's what the type 7 gives priority to so what do they avoid seeing their own pain
if they are feeling empty inside they're going to try and avoid it and they might also try and
avoid any pain and suffering that they might have something to do with so what do they struggle with
they are very focused on their own needs and they can feel burdened by the needs of other people and
so that's what the seven struggles with so last but least the type nine the peacemaker
what do they give priority to they look for and highlight the positive qualities of other
people and their environment and so they're always looking to highlight positive qualities of things
around them and other people i will attest to that i definitely do that and it can get me in trouble
sometimes because i don't always deal with reality i always just put a positive spin and i'm just
looking for the positive and other people all the time and the nine might even idolize their world
and so that is what they put priority on what does the nine avoid seeing so they avoid problems with
their loved ones and problems that are with their environment and so they really try and avoid that
they also can avoid developing themselves and so those are the things that the type 9 can
avoid okay so the last thing is what does a type 9 struggle with they struggle to deal with their own
needs and other people's needs they will either completely shut down or reframe it into a positive
viewpoint and so that's the nine they struggle with their own needs and the needs of other people
and i am so guilty of this uh this has been very convicting teaching about this i always thought
like you know you want to think like the positive outlook triad oh it's so positive and amazing but
really it's not always all positive and good right it's some of this is we're running from pain i
think in the end uh all three of these types have trouble facing the dark painful side of things and
themselves they really just look at things in a very optimistic way so they could deal with
it and honestly sometimes this is a great gift to have right it is it's a good thing to be able
to reframe and find the positive in things and ha find the silver lining i'm not saying that's bad
what i am saying is it's not healthy to never deal with the negativity the negative things
or the hard things and so you need to find balance and that's why all three of these triads
are groups or whatever you want to call them the logical the reactive and the positive outlook
can learn from each other because the knight can learn from the reactive and learn from the logical
the logical can learn from the reactive and learn from the positive and the reactive can learn from
the positive and learn from the logical guys i really believe that there are things that we
can learn from each other and so going back to this positive outlook triad in the end all three
types really try and deny that they have any problems and i want to read one more thing out of
this great book i think it's on page 68 and so how this book puts it is the positive outlook group
yeah like i said they deny they have any problems the nine they'll be like what problem i don't
think there is a problem guilty is charged um the two you have a problem and i am here to help you
and then the seven says there may be a problem but i'm fine and so that's a little bit about the
positive outlook group so i've had a lot of people come to me that are like i don't know if i'm a two
i don't know if i'm a nine or a am i a nine or a seven like these three can be similar right and
this is why because they're all in this positive outlook group together and the one
i see the most is nines mistyping themselves as twos and sevens but it can happen within
any of them and so if you are still struggling to land on your type i offer a discover you typing
session it's a one-hour zoom call with me all that information can be found in the description box
down below anyways that's all i have for today thank you so much for watching do not forget
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