- I could definitely get rid of Halloween,
it's fun, but I just, there's already carnival.
- My favorite holiday is Halloween.
- Okay.
I killed it.
Right now I'm attracted by talent.
You know, where you go to a dinner and it's all of a sudden
there's a piano and your friend sits down
and starts playing, it's like wow.
And besides that, I like people that are genuine,
kind, that they speak their mind and they're not superficial
and only in love with physical things.
- It matters to see someone who kinda takes care of themself
and values being healthy.
Not so much because of how it looks,
but because of what that means.
I can't help it but I'm always attracted to a man bun,
but it's not like I don't need that.
It's just, if I'm in a big crowd that's where my eyes go.
- Hi.
- [Director] Don't speak!
- Your name is Daniel and this is your story.
You are 29.
For work, you are a musician.
You grew up in L.A.
And your cultural or ethnic background
is Italian or Armenian?
- My name is Ottavio and I'm 34 years old.
I am a dancer and I grew up in Italy.
So your name is Megan and this is your story.
You're 30 years old.
For work, you work in hospitality.
You grew up in Texas.
Your cultural background is Irish and Caucasian.
- My name is JJ.
- Okay.
- I am 31.
For work, I am a landscape architect.
I grew up in Ohio and my cultural or ethnic background
is Western European mutt.
So there is Irish in there.
- Okay.
- Both my parents are accountants so very left brain family
and I have an older sister who does finance,
and a little brother who's an aerospace engineer.
So I'm their artistic rainbow sheep
and we were also raised Catholic.
Went to Catholic school all the way through high school.
High school was all girl and then kinda went off to college
and had a whole new world in front of me.
- So my family is currently in Italy.
I had two brothers.
One of them is no longer with us because he got sick
and had a very long journey through
a disease that was very bad.
Upper middle class family of educated people, no drama.
I do have some baggage because of this event
that occurred to my brother, but you know,
we grew up in a very healthy environment I would say.
- Your go to hangout with friends is a low key bar.
You hate karaoke.
Your favorite holiday is Christmas.
If you had to get rid of one holiday
it would be Thanksgiving.
- Go to hangout with friends would be
an occasion to create and chill at the same time.
Hate karaoke, I can enjoy for a little bit,
but it's quite disturbing.
My favorite holiday is Christmas
and I could definitely get rid of Halloween.
It's fun, but I just, there's already carnival at least,
but you don't really have it.
So now,
- Oh goodness.
- Your go to hangout with friends is a swimming pool
or to the beach and I think you hate karaoke too,
and I think your favorite holiday is the fourth of July.
And you could get rid of Labor Day.
- My go to hangout with friends is my house.
I love karaoke.
I do, it terrifies me but I still love it.
Which is silly because I love singing but for some reason
karaoke is just like,
having that microphone's a little terrifying.
My favorite holiday is Halloween.
- Okay.
- Because I love dressing up and we don't have carnival,
or maybe we do but I don't,
not in any of the cities I've ever lived in.
And if I could get rid of any holiday,
it would be Valentines Day.
'Cause it's just unnecessary and it's in the winter.
- They just want to sell flowers.
- [JJ] Yeah, pretty much.
- My biggest weakness in a relationship
is that I'm very tolerant.
I think that both my relationships so far didn't work out
because problems were faced a bit too late.
I need somebody that's maybe perceptive,
that feels that if there is something wrong
she perceives that in me and maybe she actually
initiates the confrontation.
But yeah, I try to be optimistic that the problems
gonna solve itself because who wants to deal with problems?
Nobody.
- I was in love and things were kinda, they were fine.
We would have been fine but that's all it really was,
is that we were really great roommates.
It took a few kinda stones in the path to realize hey,
this isn't something that we need and luckily
we figured out right as we were talking marriage
and then kinda went our separate ways
after six and a half years.
Which made sense and I love that decision
and I know he did too, but it's still hard
to lose your best friend after that much time
and it's more about that loss of that friend than the love,
'cause the love was gone quite some time before we broke up.
- I think that religion is not important for you
when it comes to selecting a partner.
You think that if in one, a relationship should
and should not be your top priority.
You have not been married.
You do want to get married.
And if you got pregnant while you were dating someone
you would talk to your mom before talking to him.
- Religion, I interpreted this kinda differently.
It is important to me that we're on the same page,
but there isn't a religion that is important to me.
It's more so the lack of religion that is important to me.
You think that if in one, a relationship, I wrote,
should but then I wrote ties, because I think as long,
it can be important but it doesn't mean that
there's nothing else in your life that matters,
and there's different priorities and sometimes
it's gonna be the top but sometimes it's not.
But I think it's about striking that balance
that the other person feels appreciated.
I have not been married, you're right.
I circled both for wanting to get married.
I was in talks with getting married with a past boyfriend
and then when that fell apart I kinda started
to second guess what my thoughts are
on traditional marriage in general.
As I've gotten older I don't know how necessary it is
anymore for me to still feel committed.
And if I got pregnant while I was dating someone
I would make a decision on how to move forward
based on the context.
So it depends on what the other person feels,
how long we've been dating, where we're at in our careers.
Alright, let's see here.
I said religion is important to you when it comes
to selecting a partner.
You think that if in one, a relationship should
be your top priority.
You have not been married in the past.
You do want to get married.
If you got pregnant while you were dating someone
you would panic internally but support your lady.
- Alright, so religion is not important to me
because I assume that people in western civilization,
even if you have a belief that doesn't necessarily
effect the way you're going to be.
It's just you know, I have my gods, you have yours, fine.
Anyway, I think that the relationship should
and should not be your top priority.
Meaning that if you are in a relationship.
If somebody touches what is the most
precious thing to you, you will be willing to kill.
So, it should be the most important thing,
but it doesn't mean that there is only that.
So I agree with you on that.
I have been married
and I do want to be married again, if it happens.
If my date would get pregnant and it depends
on if I'm dating somebody
that I feel in love with, let's have it.
If it's somebody I'm not convinced
of I would be like are you sure?
Are you really sure it's the right moment maybe?
But the thing is I would always leave that decision
to the women because now we're dealing with your body
so I wouldn't push anybody to do something
they don't wanna do.
It might suck to have a kid that you don't want to spend
your life with but you know, such is life.
- So in terms of religion are you in a religion?
- Not really, being Italian implies that all the values
of Christianity are necessarily
in the way you feel about life.
Then, I don't necessarily believe in the institution
of the Roman Catholic Church.
Even though Pope Francis is a very nice guy.
I don't believe I will be saved
if I go to church every Sunday, that's just me.
But I'm not judging whoever believes that
that's the thing to do.
- I grew up Catholic, went to Catholic school
all the way though being 18 and I was super into it
for a very long time, and then it kinda floated away
as I went to college.
But I still think you need to be a good person,
you can't just be a crappy person.
- Yeah exactly, but do you need religion to tell
you what good is for yourself?
- I don't think so.
I have friends of many different religions
and that's fine with me.
It's when someone wants to push it on me
where I'm like oh, that not gonna work.
- I think personal freedom is always the main rule.
The boundary of personal freedom is when my freedom
is not damaging you.
Meaning you cannot tell me that I cannot have an abortion
because you believe that is something wrong,
mind your own business.
I went through my phase actually, I did all the communion,
the confirmation, once I did my confirmation after that day,
- You're done?
- Yeah, it's like--
- You're just like I'm over this.
- Check off.
- When I first saw you I said I would date you.
- Thank you.
- And now that we've talked and kinda dug in a little bit,
I said I would still date you.
- Thank you.
When I first saw you I thought that I would not
be willing to date you.
And then after speaking to you,
I did not change my mind.
I would still not date you.
But I feel terrible about this.
- Oh no, don't feel terrible.
- No, because you are really a nice
and sweet woman and lady.
Well you know, if you wanna know,
it's just that I think that I need for myself somebody
that is more into the performing arts
and it's not necessarily I need to find somebody like me.
- It was sweet how he felt bad
and I didn't want him to feel bad.
I was glad that he was upfront at the end.
And even though I sensed that maybe we were too similar,
I still was like I'm still intrigued enough to see more,
but I can understand why he wasn't.
- It was terrible.
I mean I felt terrible because once again,
it's all about the concept that life is short,
so it's like I don't want to waste your time,
I don't wanna waste my time.
We can be friends, you're awesome, but I do not feel
a desire toward you that goes beyond friendship.
Nice to meet you.
- Nice to meet you too.
- And I would definitely love to be your friend.
- Absolutely, if you need somebody to go dancing with,
especially partner dancing.
- I'm not good at--
- You're not?
- At ballroom, no, because--
- I can teach you.
- I do other, oh, okay.
- I was a dancer.
- Okay, so that's cool.
Fine, you see?
There's always something good.
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