hey guys welcome back to my channel Enneagram and Coaching I'm Hilary your certified Enneagram coach
I'm a type 9 wing 8 on the Enneagram and today I'm gonna be teaching you guys about the wings
of the type 1 the perfectionist like I said I'm gonna be teaching you guys about the wings of the
type 1 the perfectionist today and it's the last video in the wing series yay I've had so much fun
teaching this wing series and getting to know you guys I loved that you leave me comments you let
me know your type and your wing and why and that's been a lot of fun and so it's kind of bittersweet
too they've done with the wing series but I'm so glad that I now will have all 9 videos out there
for you guys to learn about your type and what wouldn't you are I started at the 9 because the
9 usually has to go last and so I just stopped for the wing series the 9 gets to go first which
means sorry guys the one had to go last this time it will not always be like that but my type ones
it's your turn so let's dig in ok so you might have landed on this video thinking I you know am
i won am I not a 1 if you want more information about what a type 1 is I'm not gonna cover that
in this video I'll link that video right here it's an interview with a type 1 and we go way
in-depth on what a type 1 is and so I really think if you don't know your type yet but it's
in your top 3 that is gonna be the video that's gonna help you understand the type 1 a little
better and so head over there after this video and that will help you okay so what are wings have you
heard of wings I'm sure you have I'm sure you've seen plenty of people say you know like me at the
beginning of this video I'm a nine wing eight so I kind of want to go a little more in-depth on
that and teach you about what a wing is before we dive into the wings of the type 1 wings are
the numbers on either side of your dominant type you might hear it called a core type a dominant
type of main type whatever type you fall on so for me I'm a type nine and my wings would be an 8 or
a 1 because always gonna be the numbers on either side of your type you cannot be a type 1 with an
wing it doesn't work that way you could only be a type one with a nine wing or a two wing so the
wings aren't the flavoring to your type kind of like a salt and pepper they they really enhance
your core type you can use either but you usually have a dominant one so really your dominant my
dominant type that's a knife but my dominant wing isn't eight does that make sense so you
usually do have one that you use over the other but you can use either you can be balanced that
is a more rare combo to be completely balanced with each of your wings but it is possible and
so hopefully that helps you to understand like where the wings come from they are the numbers
on either side of your court I see your wing acts as like a sidekick to all your motivations and
goals in life it's a it's kind of like your wing is your helper they're just important extensions
to your core tight which provide more detail about your personality so there's not just nine types
in the world there's actually more than that and today adding on to the wings now we have eighteen
types right so the best way to explain this in my opinion is think of colors how many shades of blue
are there so if you're a type one and you're the shade blue you could be sky blue or turquoise or
any other shade of blue and that's how I like to think of it because you know once you add wings
to a type now you've got a type one with a nine wing and a type one with a two wing and those two
look very different but still have their cores the same so that's how I like to look at it it
just I think sometimes it throws people thinking there's only nine types of people in this entire
world no there's no no that that wouldn't make sense right it's just there's nine course and
then we build upon that and so that's where the wings play in the wings of the type one would be
a one wing nine so one W nine the W stands for wing so one wing nine or one wing two and like
I said earlier you could be influenced by both of those wings as a type one but usually one
of them is more dominant and I've also heard that you might have used one wing earlier in
life and then as you got older you switched over to the other wing I have heard I think I heard
and Morgan Kron say that and so all that to say there's reasons why you can use either wing and
which one you might lean towards okay so finally at the actual wing part of this video it's the
one wing 9 that's where we're gonna start people this subtype are highly discerning wise civilized
they can have an introverted reclusive quality about them they are more emotionally reserved
but very kind very generous and considerate when healthy they usually love nature and animals and
really the innocence of those things they are more of the big-picture thinking they could be
very tolerant and understanding of differences of others like the type 9 can and people of this
subtype it could be a little more analytical and withdrawn when they go into big crowds
so when unhealthier struggling the one wing 9 they can actually take on the lower levels of
the 1 and the 9 combined and they will start to numb out with like TV movies hobbies food
anything you know that you would choose to numb out on when struggling or unhealthy they start
to get stuck on how others are messing around and making a mistake and it starts to really
bother them and when struggling to deal with you know not being so disappointed they're
gonna start to isolate themselves slack off at work kind of detach themselves from friendships
those are some of the things to be looking for in the one wing nine when struggling ok
so let's move on to what's great about a one wing 9 some of those inspiring qualities are
they will start to calmly defend others they will start to make others aware of society's
needs by seeing what's wrong which is that one piece and the 9 wing will help them to express
themselves to others and help them to be easier to receive and so you know when that one wants
to tell you what's wrong it could be very hard to hear well they're 9 wing will soften that
and help them to say it um you know with a more receptive way so others will be receptive and
change can happen and they just really start to care for the community around them they really
want to make the world a better place another great quality is that their ability to really
really focus in on the details when they are in that healthy Lane they will just focus on those
details and become highly discerning and wise and so those are some of the inspiring qualities and
the attributes of the type 1 wane 9 okay so let's move on to the one wing - called the abacus okay
so for the one wing - that tubing it really helps them to become softer and more empathetic as they
come alongside others in need and this subtype is more in touch with the heart center because
the the - is in the heart center right and it's where that softness comes from and where
they have way more access to all their feelings and needs and emotions and they actually don't
repress the the sadness and anger feelings that - we really helps them to process those feelings
this subtype they are just more relationally warmer they just grab and you know that - just
really helps them with that they are helpful they are social and action-oriented and they have a
lot more empathy and compassion for others okay and so when the one wing - is struggling or you
know not in a healthy place they will start to feel undervalued unappreciated for their
valued efforts to change the world and people's lives for the better they also can become highly
vocal critical and irritable about their own unhappiness when they're frustrated they become
more rigid and intrusive with their advice they just really insist that others follow
it and will have a hard time letting that go and not needing to be in charge when struggling
okay so the inspiring qualities of the one wing - well unlike the one wing dine they will start
to see what's wrong and needs to be fixed and they're gonna roll up their sleeves and get in
and get it done versus that one wing nine who kind of will tend to criticize from a distance
to get it done that one wing - they will just dive in get the work done they're not afraid of
hard work and inspire others to work alongside them another great quality is there they have
this willingness to make personal sacrifices for other people that's super important to them and
they will they will see other's needs and make those sacrifices for them okay so that wraps up
the one wing - and the one wing nine and hope you guys enjoyed learning a little bit about the wings
one thing I don't say often but I want to let you guys know is if you want if you you don't
know your type or you want more information I definitely offer a session where we can go
thoroughly through your type for one hour and really dive way deeper into the wings and the
arrows and the subtypes and stances and whatnot and learn a bit a little bit more about you so
I will link that information in the comment box below I just want to let you guys know that that
is available to you and so what did we learn today well we learned each type each core type has an
adjacent wing right the the number right beside your core type is your wing and your behavior
and your personality is influenced by your links and we also learned that wings are fluid right
you're more likely to use one over the other but you definitely could use either one and I hope
this video helped you become familiar with the wings of the type one and if you are any other
type watching this video like wait I want to learn about the wing of my type well I've done all the
videos I will link them all in the description box below and you can go watch any other types
wings videos because it's not only important to learn about ourselves you know we don't want to
just be so inward focus we want to be outward focused we want to learn about the people in
our lives and learn to love them better and have more grace for them so I really encourage you to
go watch those videos and learn about the people that are in your life and learn to enjoy them even
more also I'd love you to share what your wing is in the comment box below and I love to just learn
the why behind you know your type and what your wing is it's just fascinating and act helps me
keep learning and so for those that leave comments it's always so much fun and I really enjoy it and
I thank you and that's really all I have today so guys just don't forget to like the video I
really appreciate it it keeps me making these videos and then also don't forget to subscribe I
really appreciate that and so guys until next time bye let's do it one more time we'll move on you