INFJs often feel really misunderstood.
It makes sense, considering they are one of the rarest of the 16 personality types.
However, they do get it.
They get that most people don't understand them.
Many of their qualities can be really hard to understand.
They even get confused about themselves, so they never actually expect other people to
truly get them.
But why is that?
Why are INFJs so misunderstood?
Be sure to watch till the end of the video because I am going to cover 7 of the top reasons
why INFJs are so misunderstood.
Even if you’re not an INFJ, watch till the end because this video is going to help you
understand your INFJ friends and loved ones a whole lot better.
Let’s get into it.
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Starting us off today, is INFJs crave connection with people but can’t spend too much energy
on just anyone.
INFJs crave to have a deep connection with people and to have close friends they can
share anything and everything with.
But at the same time, they also want to be alone.
INFJs can’t spend too much time around people.
Sounds ironic, right?
INFJs themselves are pretty annoyed by it too.
They desire to go out and form new bonds but then when they do go out, they usually regret
it.
The main reason for that is because they absolutely hate small talk.
And let’s face it.
Any deep connection starts from small talk.
INFJs absolutely hate that phase of the process.
If there isn’t an immediate vibe, an INFJ might never try for a second conversation
with that person.
One of the most dominant functions for INFJs is introverted intuition.
That means they’re more interested in everything that’s going on around them, and the deepre
meanings of things.
That means, an INFJ would rather chat about your childhood and why you are the way you
are than ask you what your favorite color or food is.
Others, on the other hand, could find that extremely uncomfortable for a first conversation.
That's the dilemma that INFJs are locked in, and no one else really understands.
Number 6 on our list of the misunderstood INFJ is They are amazing at writing but stumble
a lot when talking.
If you truly want to understand an INFJ, you’ll realize there’s a lot more to understand
from reading what they write instead of hearing what they say.
That might sound funny but it’s an actual reality for all INFJs all around the World.
We all know INFJs aren’t much of a talker.
If you meet them in a group or even one-to-one, they’re usually more of a listener than
a talker.
They won’t share a lot of their emotions or feelings with other people.
But they do need a channel to let them out.
And that channel is usually writing.
That doesn’t mean an INFJ is never a good speaker.
It just means that they’re better at writing because it isn’t a spontaneous activity.
Talking is too spontaneous for an INFJ.
On the other hand, when writing, they can take time to connect the dots and understand
just what they want to say.
When INFJs talk, their thoughts are usually scattered considering there is always a lot
going on in their head.
But when writing, they can take time to process their thoughts before putting it out there.
That’s why, you might have noticed, INFJs are usually better at discussing their problems
over text than face to face.
Other people, on the other hand, do not understand that.
Next up and number 5 is INFJs are usually kind and forgiving but, they will completely
shut people out.
It’s a fact that INFJs are very warm and kind people.
They’re there to help you whenever you need it and be there to listen to and help you
through your problems.
However, this kind side of INFJs doesn’t always last.
When someone happens to abuse their kindness, INFJs are also great at completely shutting
them out and never looking back.
INFJs are always there for you.
In fact, they often put the needs of other people over their own and they’ll give people
a lot of chances.
But once they’re done, they simply won’t look back.
It doesn’t exactly mean they don’t care about the other person anymore.
In fact, they might still care a lot.
But, shutting them out simply means they’ve given up on the other person.
It means they have tried to ask for change so many times but it falls on deaf ears.
And now, they’re simply done.
Nothing you say or do can bring them back.
However, when INFJs reach that point, other people often misunderstand them as being rude
or think they’re overreacting.
Number 4 today is: INFJs are quiet and calm yet sensitive and extremely emotional.
If you meet an INFJ, you’ll probably think they’re calm because they’re quiet.
You might think they don’t have too many emotions.
But it’s actually completely the opposite.
When it comes to emotions and feelings, INFJs can be really complex people.
And most others don’t get it.
Which of course, becomes a reason for INFJs to feel so misunderstood.
Now the thing is, yes, when you meet them, INFJs come out as very calm and quiet.
But that’s just on the exterior.
On the inside, they’re extremely sensitive and emotional.
Many people have absolutely no idea just how sensitive INFJs can be.
The only people that know are a few handful of people that actually get a chance to be
close to an INFJ because they don’t just let in anyone they meet.
They’re very picky about who they become friends with and who they get close to.
And only these people have an idea of the emotions of INFJs.
Yet, they even hide their true emotions from those people sometimes.
And no, they don't do it on purpose.
They’re just private people.
And it hurts them when other people don’t understand it just because they don’t always
show their feelings on the outside.
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Kicking off our top 3 today is INFJs think very logically but also make extremely illogical
decisions.
Some people think INFJs are extremely smart.
On the other hand, some people think INFJs are really dumb.
However, both of these people completely misunderstand INFJs.
INFJs are absolutely intelligent however, They’re just different.
People think they’re smart because in many cases, INFJs tend to find a very analytical
and smart approach to problems.
In fact, if you tell them a problem, you’ll notice an INFJ will find a very unique approach
to solve it.
On the other hand, while it might be a unique and unconventional approach, INFJs don’t
always find the most logical solutions to problems.
Their cognitive functions, introverted intuition and extraverted feeling combine together when
they’re trying to make a decision.
And when combined, the decision can either be very intelligent or completely illogical.
Now, an illogical solution doesn’t exactly mean it’s a bad option.
And it definitely doesn’t mean INFJs are dumb.
INFJs are actually very logical and extremely intelligent people.
They just don’t always let logic affect their decisions because of their extroverted
feeling.
And, the rest of the world just doesn't get it!
In the runner up spot is INFJs want to save the World but mostly just daydream about it.
Talking about cognitive functions, as I’ve mentioned before, one of the most dominant
functions of an INFJ is introverted intuition.
That means they focus a lot on the bigger picture.
It means they think of the ideal future and think of ways on how they can get there.
And that doesn’t only mean their own ideal future.
INFJs also think of ways they can save the World and make it a better place.
But, here’s the issue.
They’re ideal thinkers, not necessarily ideal doers.
When it comes to planning, they’re great at it.
They will spend a whole lot of their time planning on how to get to the ideal future.
But, again, their focus is only on the bigger picture.
So when it comes to actually executing the plan, they also need to focus on the details.
Well, INFJs aren’t necessarily too great at that.
Too many details stress out an INFJ.
And that’s why a lot of their plans go to waste.
While it’s a legitimate problem for INFJs, other people tend to think they’re lazy
and just waste their time daydreaming.
Topping our list and the number 1 reason INFJs are so misunderstood is They look serious
and intense, but that’s definitely just a look.
When it comes to intuition and thinking, both of these functions are introverted for INFJs.
That means they usually prefer to be alone and spend a lot time in their heads.
When they are around people or out in public, that usually translates into a deep, intense
expression on their face.
Which put people off at first glance.
Because of that when it comes to talking to new people, they might come off as too serious
or intense.
But that’s entirely because of their introverted side.
They are just taking everything in - including what you are saying, doing - not doing or
saying and your body language.
They actually like interacting with new people and getting to know them on a deeper level.
However, sadly, most people misunderstand their intense stare and don’t take the opportunity
to truly get to know them!
Are you an INFJ and if so, do you have any experiences with these reasons you are so
misunderstood?
Make sure to tell me your stories in the comments below.
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